A DAY IN "THE LIFE OF RILEY"

FOR COLORED GIRLS

Have seen “For Colored Girls” twice now. It’s Tyler Perry’s upcoming film which marries the classic-Ntozake-Shange poem (circa 1974) with something like “Crash” to AMAZING EFFECT! Kudos to Janet Jackson and the rest of this AMAZING CAST - including Loretta Devine; Kimberly Elise; Thandie Newton; Phylicia Rashad; Anika Noni-Rose; Kerry Washington; Macy Gray; and Whoopi Goldberg who clearly reminded everyone not to get it twisted. More than a “View” host, “I am an Academy-Award-winning actress, dammit!” (My thought). And many others may be up for the golden prize – including Mr. Perry for his stellar craftsmanship in adapting this classic, Obie-and-Tony-award-winning choreo-poem (by Ntozake Shange) into an AWESOME cinematic treasure. It’s deep – even heavy. But what a ride!

Now, you know Janet is Ant's girl. And he's had several chances to be an intimate audience with Miss Jackson. Me too. At "Why Did I Get Married?" premieres (both). And some other places, too. But the excitement never wears off for him. And as I LOVE JANET too, I get as excited. (NOTE: MISS ROSS?? I'M READY FOR MY CLOSE-UP... WITH YOU!!!! LOL!).

One way here in NYC that we got to celebrate: Tim Palen’s “FOR COLORED GIRLS: Living Portraits - Opening Night Reception Hosted by Janet Jackson” at the Lehmann Maupin Gallery. Miss Jackson – who I’ve interviewed before and with whom I have chatted socially – received us warmly. She was very present and always seems to remember me. Some of her co-stars were also in the house – including Loretta Devine; Kimberly Elise; Thandie Newton; friend Anika Noni Rose; Kerry Washington; Khalil Kain; and Tessa Thompson.  And Ntozake Shange, the original writer of the award-winning choreopoem “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When The Rainbow Is Enuf” (on which Tyler Perry adapted his film), also attended along my other industry friends and associates Phillip Bloch (Current book: “The Shopping Diet: Spend Less and Get More”); Star Jones (“Celebrity Apprentice”); and the “Precious” film director Lee Daniels; Bruce with Sheridan radio; and my girls from Red Sea Entertainment, Miss Anna and Miss Tagan – both of whom are absolutely THE BEST!

The World Premiere of “For Colored Girls…” took place last night at The Ziegfeld Theater. Sid, Ant, Michael, Mario, and a host of others enjoyed yet another night with Miss Jackson and the amazing cast of talented women and men (including my homeboy, Savannah’s own Omari Hardwick, who played opposite Miss Jackson). Afterwards, a virtual WHO’S WHO poured into The Oak Room at The Plaza Hotel – including my buddy, ABC 7’s Sandra Bookman; my CJ; BET’s Ed Gordon; Janet’s nephew Austin Brown (only boy of her oldest sister Rebbie. His album ‘85’ is scheduled to be released in 2011 – www.austinbrown.com); our Ledisi; America’s Next Top Model’s Ya-Ya; Miss Niecy Nash; my Bridget, Karu, Kevin-Anthony, and on and on, I could go. GREAT NIGHT!

CONGRATS TO EVERYBODY!

ALL-STAR KARAOKE THURSDAY NIGHTS

I got to work on something with Jon Stewart on one of my All-Star Karaoke Thursday Nights. But he got me out in time to get to my Thursday gig at Native Restaurant on Lenox Avenue @ 118th Street from 9pm-MIDNIGHT. Shout out to my girl Sidra who – one week - filled in on the ONE-TWOs when Ant was under the weather. And THANKS to the many, many ALL-STARs who keep coming out - from near and far.Last week’s LOVE FEST included some INTERNATIONAL FLAVOR. My dear friend, soul music historian, journalist, author, founder of Soul Music.com, singer, and record producer David Nathan (and his alter ego “Nefer Davis”) came from the U-K for Dionne Warwick’s 50th Anniversary and – with his friends in tow – he came to sing for my night. From Dionne’s “Alfie” to Aretha’s “Think” (and a Coldplay number), he ROCK’d (and SOUL’d!). Another friend, singer/songwriter Anise White (www.iamanise.com) blew the roof off the place with Lisa Stansfield’s “Been Around The World”. And our ALL-STAR regulars showed up and out i.e. Brian, Rick, Troy, Anthony, Turquoise, Jasmine, etc. Plus, “The Professor” gave us a great harmonica solo in the wake of his recent Apollo appearance… and friend Mica (whose working on some new music in the studio) popped by and gave us a serving of her fab brand of pop. And my ALL-STAR friends came out in full-force – including Sidra, Craig, Nichole (with new friend Eva from Dallas), Toby, glam god Q, Jacquie Lee (with client CJ Miller. He is author [“Grind: How to Turn Your Coffee Break into your Big Break”]/motivational speaker/reality co-star [Tyra Banks’ “True Beauty” & Omarosa’s “Ultimate Merger”]; my Kim (and her posse – all from Oakland and other Bay Area spots); Harlem promoter Bill Foster; my “girl” Cynthia Burgos – artist extraordinaire whose work of acrylic, oil, sand, and glitter portrays the iconic Oprah inside an exhibit, "25 Years of Oprah," that is presented by the New York African American Historical Society. It is showing in the Adam Clayton Powell Jr. State Office Building in Harlem until November 24 (http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2010/10/12/2010-10-12_night_at_the_oprah_harlem_toasts_talk_queen.html). My girl Flo Anthony was also in the house. HEY FLO! THANKS TO ALL!!! And I want to see you folks at ALL-STAR KARAOKE THURSDAY NIGHTS! We are having a BLAST!

HARLEM CRAWL

Hope to see you all next week for ALL-STAR KARAOKE THURSDAY NIGHT at NATIVE RESTAURANT - from 9pm - 12 MIDNIGHT (LENOX AVENUE @ 118th Street). ALSO, I want to invite you out to THE HARLEM CRAWL - an opportunity to experience Harlem and its many cool bars, restaurants, and businesses from 6pm - 10pm - all for one price. And once the CRAWL wraps at 10pm, you can come back to NATIVE - which is on the CRAWL tour - for ALL-STAR KARAOKE THURSDAY NIGHTS (until MIDNIGHT!). Get Tickets now - http://www.eventbrite.com/event/951508989/barcrawl/2476277448

DIANA ROSS PLAYGROUND

Our girlfriend Sidra invited us to Manolito for Sunday brunch recently.

Turns out the owner Cristina was hired by my idol Diana Ross to be nanny to her - at the time - three children Rhonda, Tracee, and Chudney (circa 1983). Though she spoke diplomatically as someone who likely signed a confidentiality agreement, she did confirm what was going on professionally with Miss Ross at that time. Of course, I gave her the options. After Motown 25?

Before Central Park? While she was on the road with the "For One, For All" tour? Were Arthur - the driver, and Geneva - the cook, on staff at the time? It all begged the question: "How do I know all of this stuff? LOL!" The lovely chat inspired information about The Diana Ross Playground - the beneficiary from Diana's pockets and whatever proceeds came from the sale of merch at her FREE Central Park concerts.

Sid didn't know that there was a Diana Ross Playground - so we took her.

All of us – including Murphy – walked through Central Park to the Diana Ross Playground - partially via bike.

We even walked by The Dalton School where the Ross charges attended school here in Manhattan alongside many of the rich and famous offspring.

And we HAD FUN (AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN)... just like little children. THANKS to MISS ROSS for a playground that I'm certain has brought JOY to millions of kids. And some adults too! LOL!

Then, we enjoyed a nice dinner & hang at Murphy’s Harlem pad.

 Friends Carl, Nicole, and others joined us.

GREAT SUNDAY!

On another Sunday, we finally got to see Daniel Beaty's "THROUGH THE NIGHT" with our Andrea and Ike in tow. Great work!

ALVIN & FRIENDS – INCLUDING RUBY DEE & "REAL HOUSEWIVES OF DC"S PAUL WHARTON

Had a great evening in New Rochelle where my highlight for the night was spending some time with special guest, Academy-Award nominee Ruby Dee. Our New ROs Michelle & Nelson – the Boyces - invited us to the opening of “Alvin & Friends”, a southern and Caribbean contemporary bistro in New Rochelle. Its Executive Chef is Raymond Jackson, formerly of Maroon’s. Its owner Alvin Clayton is best known as an artist (Denzel Washington, Robert DeNiro and Don Cheadle own his work) and model (L.L. Bean catalogue, most recently). “Real Housewives of DC”s Paul Wharton – a friend – and my girl Sidra accompanied me. Many were excited to see him as the reality show on which he co-starred was wrapping up. We all commuted – for the first time – via the Metro North. Also, it was great to see my favorite New ROs Nichole and Cynthia. Also, great to see my buddies Will and Joe, two of the best in the business!!!! LOVELY NIGHT IN NEW RO!

 INSPIRED BY NATHAN HALE WILLIAMS & CRYSTAL MCCRARY ANTHONY

I was invited to the launch event for “INSPIRED: Iconic African-American Women & Their Inspirations” (at The Studio Museum of Harlem) – co-authored by friends Nathan Hale Williams and Crystal McCrary Anthony. So many great friends were in the house – including Native Restaurant’s Brian (my boss on Thursday for All-Star Karaoke); Miss Jean; Kelli Goff, Jamar, Ryan, Tracy, Adrienne, Patrik-Ian Polk, Olivia, and a host of others. After, we revisited the INSPIRED folks for a night of “Boomerang”. Also, there was R&B music. Both at Native, where Nathan’s “Classic” Tuesday night takes place. This is also where we do ALL-STAR KARAOKE THURSDAY NIGHTS! Here our buddies Sidra, Derek, DeJuan, Hal, Erica Watson, and others were in the house. CONGRATS NATHAN & CRYSTAL!

MARK OLDMAN

Friends Donna Torrence and Hanna Lee invited us to attend Mark Oldman’s wine book launch party at Mark’s FAB new NYC apartment. There were numerous wines from all over the world to sip and Chef Michel Nischan cooked up some savory treats. And I got to take a little time to chat with three producers from “The View” – Patrick, Jonathan, and Natalie. Darryl “Dr. Mixologist” Robinson (of “Cooking Channel” fame) was in the house as was my NABJ friend Lola Ogunnaike.

EL DEBARGE, MARY J. BLIGE, & EBONY (CIRCA DIANA ROSS)

El Debarge was in town. We went. Radio City Music Hall is where he performed the soundtrack of my childhood & adolescent years. Afterwards, EBONY’s current cover model Mary J. Blige (channeling one of MISS ROSS’ classic EBONY covers from the ‘70s) headlined. A stop through Washington Heights for karaoke Monday nights before heading home to check in on Nene, Dwight, and the gang! Y’all been watching “Real Housewives of Atlanta”? FIERCE!

CLAUDINE

One night in Harlem, I felt like I might have been in a ‘70s movie. After a day of working from home, I think I stepped into a time capsule. We joined our favorite Harlem couple Mara & Tommie at Moca (including some slamming catfish fingers). Afterwards, Ant got off late to join us for dinner & drinks at Mojo. A birthday girl shared her Chanel and Louboutin cupcakes with us, compliments of Ilene Miriam Baked Goods – www.ilenemiriam.com. Legendary actor Glynn Turman dined at the table for which we had to wait. I followed him out for a quick chat and photo-op. He played Leroy "Preacher" Jackson in “Cooley High” (and – of course – “Dr. War” in “A Different World”. Too, he is Aretha Franklin’s ex-husband). As we segued back to Mara & Tommie’s for a night-cap, we observed one of NYC’s finest sanitation workers macking on an attractive young lady, who too had just dined at Mojo. We observed her give the garbage man her number, which conjured up images of “Claudine” for me. Diahann Carroll was nominated for an Oscar in her portrayal of a mother of six on welfare, who was a part-time maid. She and trash man – a fine & mellow James Earl Jones – manage a romantic threesome between the two fine characters and “Mr. Welfare”. After we looked at a couple of YOU TUBE clips, including Willow’s new hit song, I insisted on sharing “Claudine” with the young folks. It’s a classic, albeit dated, arguably – some might say - stereotypical. Yet like “For Colored Girls…” (which was originally an early ‘70s choreo-poem), the messages are still relevant today. Here’s the first of a series of YOU TUBE clips that comprise one of my favorite childhood movies: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L__VjF7JSC0  SO, LADIES!!!??? QUESTION FOR YOU: You're out with friends. Dressed to the NINEs. A garbage man is on his route. He's fine <but of course, he's in uniform>! He likes the way you look as well; chats you up quickly between tossing trash bags on the back f the truck; and he asks for your number. You give it to him. He's go...nna call you later for a date. Some of my lady friends (and a couple of men friends) seem to think I've over-romanticized the moment and that most women would NOT go for a garbage man. That's where the chat about the classic film "CLAUDINE" started. And don't forget 'ROC'. But in real life, WOULD YOU DATE A GARBAGE MAN and/or seriously consider a relationship with one? I say "GO FOR IT!" In the case of this one, he's cute; has a job; and benefits (and seemed to be able to nicely put a sentence or two together). Some of my girlfriends - shockingly to me - said "NO WAY!" WHAT DO YOU SAY?

I’M COMING OUT

Whether you're lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or not, be proud of who you are and your support for LGBT equality this Coming Out Day (or any day… and beyond)! I’ve LIVED OUT LOUD for 15 years now and struggled inside for all the years prior to that. The journey hasn’t been easy, but since COMING OUT and... being TRUE to myself and my loved ones, it’s better out here – professionally and personally. I now dedicate time and resources to LGBT-mentoring/scholarship organization LIVE OUT LOUD (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2010/5/24/go-for-your-dreams-reach-and-their-yours.html); the National Association of Black Journalists’ LGBT Task Force of which I am a founding member; I hosted a well-received (but not picked up) ‘Queer-Eye’- meets-‘The-View’-pilot a few years back (http://216.117.188.141/PRiley/PatrickGeneralReel.wmv); and I speak up whenever asked – including recent appearances on Michael Eric Dyson’s radio show (http://dysonshow.org/?p=1721) and the first Urban LGBT network glo-TV (http://glotvnetwork.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=109&Itemid=271); and I take part ownership in a particular GLAAD Award for a talk show’s episode titled “When I Knew I Was Gay” (I was on-camera & produced a number of segments for that edition). ONWARD & UPWARD, MY PEOPLE! And the recent string of reported bullying incidents that are leading to these gay suicides MUST STOP! And to the politicians, religious leaders, and pundits who have made careers out of saying that gays are somehow less than, please STOP! IN THE NAME OF LOVE! – especially if you are engaging in DL activities yourself. And whether STRAIGHT or LGBT, BE THE CHANGE and SPEAK UP! And to those LGBT teens who may be having problems or thoughts of suicide, please visit or call the following website/number: http://thetrevorproject.org/ or call 1-866-4-U-TREVOR. I LOVE YOU ALL! And ONE MORE THING (because many of my yellow brick roads lead back to MISS ROSS): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzpP0KbjHU8