A DAY IN "THE LIFE OF RILEY"

My friend Carl Nelson asked me to be one of the hosts for the 6^th annual “Drums Along The Hudson” (www.drumsalongthehudson.com/). I tell you about it every time I go. There were drummers & dancers from around the world, Manhattan ’s only open-air Pow Wow, storytelling, Native American arts & crafts, International Food, Free Shad Tasting & Hudson River Fish Exhibits. What more could you ask for? Well, one of my journalist mentors from Atlanta , Xernona Clayton, Creator and Executive Producer of the Trumpet Awards (www.trumpetfoundation.org/home.htm) was honored.

One group, THE WARWICK GOMBEY TROUPE, were flown in from Bermuda for which they have been its cultural ambassadors since 1996. They are an artistic organization whose mission it is to bridge Bermuda culturally to the world through its indigenous music and dance. I even got to take my turn with them.

Ant got to pose with Captain Planet. And I got the chance to be serenaded by Parrots for Peace (www.youtube.com/watch?v=zboT4vzXirw).

We experienced dance combo “Along the Caravan Route”. They took us on a journey along the ancient trade routes passing through India, the Middle East and Spain . Pandit Satya Narayana Charka, Ramzi El-Edlibi, and Sol Koeraus performed.

From Northeast India , we watched Trinayan, a non-profit group of diverse dancers with an average of twenty years in Odissi Dance. “Trinayan” which means the third eye is the nexus of diverse energy in every human being.

We also enjoyed Jeannie and Jerry McDonald of the Mohawk Singers and Dancers. They did a beautiful dance based on the life of an eagle.

But having Xernona Clayton there was the most special. She lives in Atlanta and is part Cherokee. She is the creator, president and CEO of the Trumpet Awards Foundation, which is an organization that highlights the accomplishments of men and women who have significantly contributed to enhancing the quality of life for all. Xernona is a woman of many firsts. She was the first woman of color to have her own TV show in the south. She has been employed at Turner Broadcasting for nearly thirty years. In 1988, Ms. Clayton was appointed Corporate Vice President of Urban Affairs for Turner Broadcasting Inc. In this capacity, she directed internal and external projects for the corporation and served as liaison between Turner Broadcasting and Super Station TNT, Atlanta Braves and Atlanta Hawks and civic groups in Atlanta and across the country. As a corporate executive, Xernona is one of the highest ranking female employees of Turner Broadcasting. She was the special events person for the late Dr. Martin Luther King.

Many of our good friends were there. Ant’s high school buddy Paul came by for the cause. It gave us a chance to bond a bit more. My friend Murphy from “Harlemmade” (www.harlemmade.com/) was there. He – along with Ant and others - is featured in the REMY Martin/Photographer David LaChapelle video (http://www.remy.com/) for which I conducted interviews with a diverse repository of New York City men and women. The bottle LaChapelle created channels Josephine Baker and Paris and The Jazz Age and the energy of that time and period. The design features a curvaceous woman dancing in a brightly-colored jungle. The bottle will sell for $50 and will be available at wine and spirits stores around the U.S starting in June. There will be 150,000 bottles produced. The recent launch party for it took place at Smashbox Studios in West Hollywood . There should be a New York City celebration that I’ll tell you about… very soon.

Ant and I got the chance to hang out with my “Amazing Grace” Nichole and our buddy Dawn. It’s been a minute as Nichole has been out-of-town a bit of late. Now that she’s back, she wanted us to hook up immediately – so I could see her new car. It’s gorgeous and perfect for summer as it’s a convertible. We enjoyed a bite at Ideya Latin Bistro in SOHO (www.ideya.net/) – a spot Itika and I got to enjoy during her visit last year (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/6/4/brothers-and-sisters-play-and-real.html). [By the way, check my Ti-Ti out on Chicago NBC 5’s NudeHippo.tv (www.NudeHippo.tv). It is an off-beat, magazine-style and news entertainment program featuring great people, fun locations, and cool events. This is Ti-Ti’s report on Chicago ’s popular dance passtime ‘stepping’ - http://www.nbc5.com/nudehippo/motionbox.html?dest=%2Fembed%2Fbasic_player%2Fa098dfb0191ce228%3Fgroup_name%3DNBC5. So proud of you Ti-Ti! Keep up the good work!].

Also that evening, our girlfriend Gail from our favorite boutique “N” ( www.nharlemnewyork.com/ ) put her artist’s cap on and co-hosted her art show’s opening nights. It took place at Fuse Gallery (www.fusegallerynyc.com). It’s “Sweet City Woman: Group show Curated by Queen Andrea and GMO$”, who are joined by Toofly, Alice Mizrachi, Muck, and Gillian Goldstein. It runs from May 3^rd through May 31^st. All of her N bosses Lenn, Larry, and Nikoa came out as did the store’s associates Natasha (who always brings her sass and fun); and Jamar. The night didn’t just end with art. It ended with Dallas BBQ wings and things (www.bbqnyc.com). They’re always appropriate, aren’t they?

Before we went to “DIVAS WITH HEART”, Carl invited Ant and me to see Xernona Clayton one more time at Lucy (www.lucylatinkitchen.com/). There, Ms. Clayton dropped science one more time on how awesome it was that these diverse energies were converging under one roof (and – the day prior for The Drums Along The Hudson – under one sky) to see Dr. King’s dream through to its reality. Also, Carl got the chance to thank all of those who made Drums Along The Hudson such a success. My Morehouse brother and buddy was a part as well. He was Xernona's personal escort during her time here in New York City. Ant and I truly felt firmly that we were in the presence of a legend, an icon, a guiding light for us all.

On Cinco de Mayo, Ant, Manivone, and I joined Jason, Marqice, Troy, and others at The Hudson Hotel ( www.hudsonhotel.com ). The backdrop was the beats and music of DJ house legend Louie Vega. The high-priced cocktails notwithstanding, we had a nice time. Afterwards, Ant introduced me to a new, healthy food franchise in Chelsea, Energy Kitchen ( www.energykitchen.com/ ) which promises fast, fit, and delicious food. They made good on the promise as the cajun salmon, home fries, and corn were off the chain. Ant loved the spinach and brocoli as well. It might be one of our new spots to ensure we can eat well and economically.

Going to karaoke is nothing new for us, but we met a cool couple Vincent and Zulma. Great seeing you folks. Also, every 2^nd Saturday, Plum Bar is the backdrop for my friends Craig and Mario’s set. After karaoke and a day of errands/spa treatments, Ant and I attended. It’s always great to see the guys and catch up on our respective lives since the last time. In the house, there was Jamar and Ryan; my Melvin (and of course Mario); Hal and my Morehouse brother Jay. Also, my Terry Wynn II who is soon to celebrate a birthday. Can't wait, Terry! A GOOD TIME!

Though much of the week was status-quo, a few highlights stand out (and there’s always a shout out or six to do):

1. I did not attend the Metropolitan Museum of Art Costume Institute Gala (www.metmuseum.org), but the hair designs of my dear friend Ted Gibson ( www.tedgibsonsalon.com/ ) did. He gave Hollywood starlet Michelle Monaghan her gorgeous and perfectly coiffed tresses at the Met Costume Gala. GO TED!

2. As Michael K. Watts and I have begun co-producing the NABJ Hall of Fame Banquet (www.nabj.org) scheduled for Chicago in July, I’m reminded of how great it was to produce Rene Syler for our NABJ Salute to Excellence Awards a few years back in Washington D.C. She was so rushed to make the booking, she left her make up at home. She called in the challenge and I made sure – via a handful of women whose complexions were similar – to have those options awaiting her when she got there. (A producer’s job never ends). From there, she popped an altoid and worked her magic. Now, the former CBS Early Show co-anchor can be seen on Parents TV(http://www.parents.com/parentstv/?_requestid=1521497), a service of Meredith Corporation, the publisher of such magazines as Better Homes and Gardens and Ladies' Home Journal. Author of "Good-Enough Mother" will host the channel's first long-form show starting next month. The "Good Enough Mother" will debut on Comcast VOD, Sprint TV phones, and on www.parents.tv. CONGRATS RENE!

3. Remember I told you how a few weeks back in Chicago, my friend Gil Robertson (www.robertsontreatment.com/) introduced me to his client, sports agent Kimberly Holland, who founded and owns Icon Management Inc. (www.jurgita.com/agencies-id98766.html). Based in Atlanta, her sports agency is a home for athletes who need representation and a nurturing vision behind them. She and Gil were in Chicago for the United States Olympic Committee’s media conference (www.usoc.org/). Kimberly has a repository of talented sprinters who have won Olympic gold before and are en route to Beijing – Olympics 2008 to win some more. And she’s featured in this month’s issue of Sister 2 Sister (www.s2smagazine.com) in the “Who Does She Think She Is?” feature section. CONGRATS!

4. You too should remember me stumbling back into a good friend Miles Anthony via MY SPACE. I shouted out his artist DARIEN (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/2/12/so-much-left-to-do-so-little-time.html). Well, more are abuzz about this hot new singer/songwriter on the scene. Another website has done an article on Darien naming him the Featured Artist. The site is called “Funky People Online” and they have their hands on the pulse of what is going on. Check out the article: http://www.funkypeopleonline.com/nl_043008.html Darien 's album will be released this summer so please be on the look out for it.

5. I've mentioned LIVE OUT LOUD to you folks before (www.liveoutloud.info). Over the last six years, LIVE OUT LOUD has created the opportunity to bring over 200 LGBT role models to the New York City, tri-state area high schools, youth centers, and colleges. This group raises the voices of the LGBT community so the LGBTQ youth of today can discover theirs. I'm proud to be one of those voices that LIVE OUT LOUD calls on from time to time. Tomorrow, I am speaking to students at Buschwick School for Social Justice during their LGBT Pride Week. I'll look forward to sharing that with you next time.

You folks know I’m always working on many things at once. In addition to my normal load of location assignments and celebrity/pop culture interviews, I have been working on some other projects and on attracting some summer work as some of my more regulated fare goes on hiatus. With that, you’ll recall Latina filmmaker Sue May signed me to contribute to her low-budget, independent documentary “Big Sister, Little Sister” (www.bslsthedoc.com - in progress; www.myspace.com/bslsthedoc) to book a half dozen or so high profile women of color to share their experiences at their high school prom, graduation, and first post-high-school memories (likely college). I am excited to report that "America's Next Top Model" Cycle 4 Naima has committed to be the NARRATOR of "Big Sister, Little Sister" (and will additionally be interviewed for the companion public service video "New Girl Next Door"). Additionally for our special cameos, I have successfully booked CNN's Soledad O'Brien and international journalist Lisa Ling, though we’re still working out scheduling with those two ladies. A few more bookings (from a tall wish list of great names) and we’ll be ready to shoot. Feel free to reach out to me (patarack@hotmail.com), if you or your client might want more information to be considered for our cameos or if you’d like to make a tax-deductible donation to this project which has many funding opportunities.

In addition to this work, I am committed to co-produce the National Association of Black Journalists’ Hall of Fame Banquet with my Morehouse buddy Michael K. Watts (www.nabj.org). It’s scheduled for July at the Unity Convention in Chicago (www.unityjournalists.org/) or (www.2008unity.org/). And it is always a total honor to create a flow for a program that honors those journalists who are out there in the trenches and also to pay homage to those on whose shoulders we stand.

Additionally, I’m in talks to join a creative team that will produce a workout video for a pop diva; I’ve been asked to consider hosting a web series; and I’ll be putting some new energy into this space’s upgrade – website home, video content, new titles/graphics, etc.

Plus, my nephew (Noot… I call him) has accepted a summer internship with HBO (www.hbo.com/), which will require he travel up from Atlanta (where he is soon to be a rising junior at Morehouse College - www.morehouse.edu/) and stay with Ant and me in our Ridgefield Park, New Jersey co-op. Send a prayer for Ant who must manage his new summer work with a very popular radio-diva-turned-TV-talk-show-host (more on that later) with living under one roof with not one, but TWO “Riley”s! And actually, my nephew is the easier Riley of us two. I’m sure we’ll do fine. (But PRAY! SMILE! For real…).

Hopefully Ant will remember what a special time we had in celebration of his birthday and play nice. Upon my return from Chicago, Ant and I were joined by his frat brother and friend Chris who came up from Durham, North Carolina to join in the festivities. We did a round of celebrating with Ant’s Amazing Grace (who just moved to New York from Brooklyn) at The Ritz on Restaurant Row in the Theater District. We were excited to run into my Morehouse brother Mario (responsible for Ant and my meeting on that special night at the after party for Broadway’s “The Color Purple”).

The following day, Ant and I did a round of generic manicures, pedicures, haircuts, etc. before grabbing a bite at Dallas BBQ (cheap eats) – www.bbqnyc.com. Imagine my surprise as I hear someone calling my name as soon as we walk onto the dining room floor. At closer inspection, I see that it’s my new friend Chico Debarge ( http://www.myspace.com/chicodebarge1) who had just performed a few days prior in Chicago . Remember? (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/4/16/as-the-sun-has-its-place-up-in-the-sky.html). Well, he was with Young Nik (www.youngnik.musicnation.com/) - a hot songwriter who is working with Chico and has worked with 50 Cent and a number of others in R&B and hip hop. She's a sweet girl. Going from the well-known Fort Greene Projects to The Source magazine, she was awarded unsigned Hype in June 05' for her talent. Young Nik was honorably invited to be one of seven chosen for HOT 97's own DJ Kay Slays' show as one of the hottest unsigned females in the tri-state area. She was also called out by Miss Jones; another HOT 97 morning show personality, to do a promo "The summer of 2006" that is still in rotation now, the "ballin'" remix "good mornin'". Young Nik also performed at Miss Jones birthday party for 2006. She too has recorded her own music "On The Rize!" and a host of other collaborations. Also, Chico got to meet my Ant and as always, he was showing up as such a kind soul. Happy to have met him and now run into him again. Can't wait for his new project. Hopefully I will get to hear some of it before it comes out. Chico invited me to hang out in the studio one day soon. (I'll be sipping on hot tea, just in case he needs me on the mic. SMILE!).

Guess what? Jason and Marqice are back “… in the life of Riley…”. They are ALWAYS in my world, but have been missing from the BLOG chronicles of late. Well, since Marqice too celebrates his birthday during this time (as he and Ant are a few days apart from each other on the birthday tip). With that, we have to take time to celebrate him too. With Chris, Manivone, and Manivone’s roommate Alea in tow, we schlepped out to Queens for a lovely set at which many of our usual suspects – from Marlynn to Troy to Alexia to Lesley "Butttahfly Soul" – were in the house. We all got to share how much Marqice means to us. He even got emotional at a point. And as is always the case, I ran into a ‘blast from the past’ though we’d never met. His name is Daniel Frazier who hails from Brunswick, Georgia – which is a stone’s throw from Savannah, Georgia (my home). He went to Glynn Academy (http://glynn.schooldesk.net/Default.aspx?TabID=1222&Action=Show) – a friendly rival to my alma mater Windsor Forest High School ( WINDSORHS.SCCPSS.ORG ). It turns out that he too went to Morehouse College ( www.morehouse.edu/ ), but a few years before me. And his father Alfonzo Frazier is a legendary jazz musician who is actually from Savannah, Georgia. Along with Daniel’s grandmother Addie Gibbs Frazier, his father was laid to rest in the historic and haunted Bonaventure Cemetary ( www.bonaventurehistorical.org/ ). HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MARQICE! WE LOVE YOU!

The next day, I enrolled Chris and Ant to join me on my new jones for the McDonald’s southern-style chicken sandwich ( www.mcdonalds.com/ ). While we snacked in Chris’ car (while Ant secured the ingredients for his birthday brownie that he and Manivone were going to make at her Brooklyn place), I got a call from my dear friend and Morehouse brother Devon, who I write often is my pop culture soulmate (We love all things “Dreamgirls”, “Diana Ross”, and more in common). He is an actor who I’m proud to say (again) is on the road with “Rent” (www.siteforrent.com/). The touring cast was to perform in Savannah and he called to find out where he should eat, hang out, etc. Though it’s been many years since I’d been to Savannah, I did recall “Lady & Sons” as a staple the last time I was there ( www.ladyandsons.com ). Always good to hear from my Devon! From supermarket to Brooklyn, Ant got to blow out his candles. Jason and Marqice joined in the festivities. And we got the celebration off to a festive start. Then, we all went to The Chapel of Sacred Mirrors (www.cosm.org) – Ant’s new spot (Remember? He was first introduced to it at the Erykah Badu listening party - http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/2/22/cup-runneth-over.html). It’s chockfull of metaphysical art! He was happy to be there. And friends Ern, Mara, and others joined us. But the celebration didn’t stop there. We went to Cafeteria (www.cafeteria247.com) for a little post-museum snack.  

On Tuesday, the actual birthday (that he shares with America Ferrera whose character “Ugly Betty” celebrated her birthday this week on the show), Ant chose AJA Asian Bistro (www.AJA-Asianbistro.com) as the backdrop. It was special because not only did Manivone join us, but a dear childhood friend to Manivone and Ant both – Paul – was in town (and instrumental in sending some production work Ant’s way for VH-1’s new “Apprentice”-style reality show). Paul brought some of his colleagues to the set and those three got to walk down memory lane. Also, my buddies who hold Ant dear – Mario and Michael – came to toast his special day. Some new friends – including Edwin (with whom we have Momentum – www.momentumeducation.com – in common) joined us. It was another great night!

A couple of days later, Edwin invited us down to the village to enjoy drinks and live entertainment at Terra Blues (www.terrablues.com). Our friends in common (with Edwin) – Raoul and Rubin – came on this night and it was great to see them (as always). Though the karaoke machine hadn’t been hooked up before Ant, Manivone, and I had to leave, Rubin, Raoul, and I began a little dress rehearsal. From there, Ant, Manivone, and I segued to my favorite boutique N Harlem (www.nharlemnewyork.com/) to enjoy “wines and spirits” with singer Rahsaan Patterson whose new album “Wines & Spirits” is out (www.rahsaan.com and/or www.myspace.com/rahspace). I love his voice and it was nice to meet him. It too was great to see all of my buddies at “N” – the owners Nikoa, Lenn, and Larry. And also Natasha, Jamar, and Gail who is getting ready to participate in an art show at Fuse Gallery (www.fusegallerynyc.com). It’s called “Sweet City Woman: Group show Curated by Queen Andrea and GMO$”, who are joined by Toofly, Alice Mizrachi, Muck, and Gillian Goldstein. It runs from May 3^rd through May 31^st. CONGRATS GAIL! Afterwards, we hung out with Jamar and his buddy Ryan (who I’ve written about before and who I’m happy to report is working on a pilot for IFC (Independent Film Channel - www.IFC.com). He's a performer and his comic troop Poykpac can be seen on You Tube - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiZVc_EJMQM (and other links) - and soon in NYC - www.poykpac.com/. CONGRATS RYAN!

Working hard and playing hard is what we do. Ant and I had a full day of work – respectively – on last Friday. I got the chance to join Michael K. Watts for a quick lunch at Times Square “Ruby Tuesday” ( www.rubytuesday.com/ ) before stumbling into my Morehouse brother George R. Greenidge Jr. who is Founder and President of National Black College Alliance (www.nbcalliance.org). He told me he is going to bring much of the good work he’s doing by way of Boston to New York City. Then, I joined Ant at Thai Select (right by the Lincoln Tunnel) for his lite bite.

We called it a night early – so we could go to “Six Flags Great Adventure” (www.sixflags.com/) the next day in continuation of Ant’s birthday extravaganza!!! Our guest list for this set included Ern and Kimberly Jajuan. We were all quite energetic and excited at the top of our evening. Then, we began to ride one ‘ridiculously-fast’ rollercoaster after another. What fun! But scary!!!  Afterwards, we were wiped out. See Ern? Is he joking? SMILE! But we had a great time. While walking along the park, we ran into my friend Ronnie Wright who is “photographer for the stars” ( http://www.myspace.com/ronniewright_photographer ) and is featured in Vibe Magazine ( www.vibe.com/ ) this month. I always see Ronnie at the big parties in New York City via the red carpet or VIP sections. He’s always been kind and manages to get great shots of me. This time, I turned the camera on him and made sure he and I were on the front side of the lens.

After our “Six Flags” time, we did another round of BBQ (72^nd near Central Park West this time) to join Ern’s friend Tina who wanted to celebrate Ant as well. It was great to see her and we all enjoyed a night of good food, drinks, and home entertainment (Ern’s Tivo! SMILE!).

On Sunday, we found a great way to keep Ant’s BDAY Extravaganza going, by seeing Laurence Fishburne in the Broadway play (one-man-show) “Thurgood” ( www.thurgoodbroadway.com/ ). He is awesome and I highly recommend this 90-minute show (no intermission) to you all. My friend Natalie Clarke who is Senior Director of Marketing and Client Services for Walker International Communications Group, Inc (www.walkercommunicationsgroup.com) sent me a deal to share with you. THREE EASY WAYS TO ORDER:

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Performance schedule: Tues.-Sat. at 8; Wed. & Sat. at 2, Sun. at 3

While at this performance, I ran into my friend Terrance Dean (who I talked about in the previous entry - http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/4/16/as-the-sun-has-its-place-up-in-the-sky.html). His highly- anticipated memoir is hitting the bookstores on May 13^th from Atria/Simon & Schuster. “ Hiding in Hip Hop: On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry-From Music To Hollywood” is the explosive tale of his tumultuous life as a down low brother in not only the entertainment business, but within the testosterone-driven world of Hip Hop no less! Sincere to his unending commitment as an activist, author and motivator, Terrance Dean has launched a personal blog in advance of the novel's release, "Reclaim Your Voice, Reclaim Your Life, Reclaim Your Power" at www.TerranceDean.blogspot.com. The blog reflects Dean's own periodic musings as he embarks on this next dimension of his life's journey. KEEP BEING THAT DIFFERENCE, TERRANCE! While hanging out down there in the theater district, I ran into Peter Gallagher who is co-starring with Morgan Freeman in “The Country Girl” – also on Broadway (www.thecountrygirlonbroadway.com). I loved him in one of my first HBO movies in the early ‘80s “The Idolmaker” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Idolmaker). Remember that? After the show, we went to see Amy Poeller and Tina Fey in “Baby Mama” (www.babymamamovie.net/). LOVED IT!

On Monday, Phillip Bloch (www.phillipbloch.com/) invited me to join him for a Tribeca Film Festival dinner that The Creative Coalition (www.TheCreativeCoalition.org) was putting on at Meatpacking district’s STK (www.stkhouse.com). It was a room full of who’s who in film – from Matthew Modine to Bloch himself (who is soon to be featured in another flick titled “Gospel Hill” – Giancarlo Esposito’s directorial debut – also starring Nia Long, Angela Bassett, and a host of others). Also, Phillip is poised to star in a reality show with Vivica A. Fox. Stay tuned for more on that. We had a lovely time – catching up as it had been a minute since we had a chance to talk and catch up. We met Noreen Mulvanerty, RN who is the inventor of Omyst (www.Omyst.com) - a healing herbal first aid spray containing pure and organically grown ingredients. It's an age old medicine powerful enough to heal yet gentle enough to soothe all minor cuts, scratches, rashes, minor burns, & insect bites. Of course, Phillip and I found time to talk all things pop culture and divas. Phillip said to me “You can definitely hold your own in a pop culture conversation and I'm often considered to be quite a whiz kid on the subject. But you my dear, are definitely an equal!” So sweet! THANKS PHILLIP! But if I was that good, I would have known that Miss Ross was just a stone’s throw from our dinner at the Tribeca Film Festival premiere of “Iron Man”.

On Tuesday, Ant and I got the chance to catch a new duo of sisters Kelly and Kamille, a.k.a. Karmina (www.karmina.com/). In their press materials, they are described as “…part

Sarah McLaughlin, Loreena McKennitt, Indigo girls, and Jewel – with some of the edge and attitude of Evanescence and Avril Lavigne thrown in…” We just call them soulful, sweet, and stellar singers. The cozy backdrop of Cibar Lounge (www.cibarlounge.com) helped set the scene as well. One of their songs “The Kiss” speaks of a forbidden love (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HIc4-_vvJgY). Ant and I related to that. Afterwards, their publicist Claire Mercuri made sure we met the ladies whose personalities are as sweet as their sound. We got to enjoy the night with good industry girlfriends Janet Lee (producer extraordinaire) and Audra Boltion (a publicist at Harper Collins). While enjoying the music and our catch up, Ant inspired the ladies to join us for another round of karaoke at One 7 (http://karaoke17.com/). These girls came to play and we were happy to have them join us. We had lots of fun! And we have committed to do it again really soon!

Well, Wednesday came and it meant I had another round of my “American Idol” chat with Z100s popular midday personality Shelley Wade (http://zzone.z100.com/shelley/blog/2008/04/30/idol_diva_chat). I just knew Syesha Mercado would get the boot, though she was the strongest performer on that night (Neil Diamond). My thought was she hadn’t quite generated the strong fan base (as she’s been in the bottom three every week this season). And that finally, she would be bested by – to some estimates – subpar Brooke White or Jason Castro. Well, justice was served and – though I like her – Brooke went home (deservedly so). After I did my radio bit, I had to come home and make sense of many bills (as a long-overdue windfall had just come in from one of my clients). But that night, Merkato 55 (www.merkato55.com/) was the magical backdrop for a dinner that my friend Theo put together for Extra TV’s Tanika Ray (www.extratv.warnerbros.com/) and me. Tanika, who is my Spelman sister (She attended Spelman while I attended Morehouse) brought one of her dear friends from college Nikki into the mix. She too is a Spelmanite and we were both familiar with each other from that time. Merkato 55’s cuisine is overseen by master chef Marcus Samuelsson. Samuelsson was born in Ethiopia but grew up with his adoptive parents in Sweden. And now, having explored one side of his culinary heritage (Swedish at Aquavite – www.aquavit.org/), he has turned his expertise to this “African” fusion motif. It’s on Gansevoort Street, in the epicenter of the meatpacking district. As beautiful as the restaurant was and as good as the food was, the company was tops! It was great to spend time with Tanika who I see all the time on red carpets, at parties, and premieres… but to just sit and talk and connect deepened our special bond. We thank Theo for that as he is always so good about bringing good folks together. Too, it was great to get to know Nikki. And the hospitality of the Merkato 55 folks was wonderful. The night went so well (and since Tanika was not leaving until she could see Anthony, who she met in Vegas at the NABJ Convention - http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/8/13/audacity-of-hope-and-dreams-in-vegas.html). We chose Hotel Gansevoort (www.hotelgansevoort.com/) for the after set. And Ant joined us. It really was a wonderful night!

I told you my friend Frankie Edozien is now a journalism professor at NYU (www.edozien.net). He pulled us all together last night – back in the meatpacking district – for a celebration. He chose Los Dados (www.losdadosmexican.com/) – also on Gansevoort - for the celebration. CONGRATS FRANKIE!

You'll recall, I mentioned Demarco Majors from a previous entry: http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/12/16/extreme-makeover.html He's the one who used to work at The Gym, a gay sports bar in Chelsea (www.gymsportsbar.com/). He's a former ABA professional basketball player, who was reportedly kicked out of the ABA based on a rumor that he was gay. He didn’t deny it, according to interviews I’ve seen him do, because he is gay. He’s now out in the mix discussing the challenges of being an out gay ex-professional basketball player. Well, Ant and I ran into him last night and he says he is working on a reality show that chronicles his work with a gay basketball team. It'll be out this summer. I'll tell you what I know when it becomes available. CONGRATS! Keep doing your thing!

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My friend Jakki recommended “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman (www.fivelovelanguages.com/). Haven’t read it yet, but soon to buy. She offers it’s a great insight into how to speak to your partners in life and the ones you love. Ant and I do well, but every little bit helps. Thanks Jakki.

My friend Tracey Moore Marable is preparing to launch another “The Spirited Actor Monologue Class”. Her website www.thespiritedactor.com will give you all your information.

NABJ buddy and fellow journalist Craig Seymour has a racy book coming out. It’s “ALL I COULD BARE: My Life in the Strip Clubs of Gay D.C.” – a frank, funny, explicit, and surprisingly inspiring story about how a stint dancing naked in gay clubs helped a college professor discover his true self (www.craigspoplife.blogspot.com/).

Another NABJ friend Adrienne Samuels – senior writer for EBONY (www.ebonyjet.com/). Well, she recently appeared on TYRA

(www.tyrashow.warnerbros.com/) – talking all things light-skinned and dark-skinned.

My good girlfriend since childhood Tonja hipped me to this new artist Keyoshe (www.keyoshe.com and www.myspace.com/keyoshemusic) – it’s something new for R&B. Check her out! Thanks Tonja!

Dear friend Earline Franklin does a lot of work with COMCAST (www.comcast.com/) in Detroit. She will call on me from time to time to help her secure a contact here or participation for her clients on a program there, etc. I helped her secure Jurnee Smolett (from “Great Debaters”) for an event they were doing. And she was recently looking for one of the dance groups “Status Quo” on Randy Jackson’s MTV dance-off (www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/dance_crew/series.jhtml). She and I also worked closely on an event that I co-produced for NABJ a few years back when she was managing now-ill Angela Bofill who performed for us (one of her last before the stroke). She too represents Miki Howard from time to time (they are old friends) and Miki – one of my favorite R&B divas – has a new website www.miki-howard.com Last I saw Miki, she was performing at Harlem Grill and invited me on stage to join her on “Until You Come Back To Me”. What a highlight!

Do you guys remember “THE JONES GIRLS”? Well, Shirley Jones was the lead singer of the R&B trio which featured Brenda and Valerie as the other two members. Also, as “The Jones Sisters”, these ladies sang background for Diana Ross in the ‘70s. Well, Shirley recently made her BLUES ALLEY debut in Washington , DC . The “girls” began singing Gospel as kids in DETROIT with their mom and later toured the world as background singers for DIANA ROSS. "MISS. ROSS" told her friends KENNY GAMBLE and LEON HUFF to sign them to PHILADELPHIA INTERNATIONAL RECORDS in 1978 & kicked off their careers as stars. Their hits include "YOU GONNA MAKE LOVE SOMEBODY ELSE," "NIGHTS OVER EGYPT " & "I JUST LOVE THE MAN" to name a few. In 1986, SHIRLEY had a solo NO. 1 BILLBOARD R&B HIT - "DO YOU GET ENOUGH LOVE?" SHIRLEY has been performing solo since the death of her sister VALERIE a few years ago and her sister BRENDA retired from performing.

You can check out what SHIRLEY's been up to at: www.myspace.com/shirleyjonesmusic

SHIRLEY recently completed a tour of Great Britain with JEAN CARNE and ALYSON WILLIAMS.

Below are YOU TUBE videos of their LONDON concert at JAZZ CAFE and SHIRLEY's 1986 "DO YOU GET ENOUGH LOVE" video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sj7w11CIuJs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BUApLkF264A

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDv9p9f82TQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyZO_v8cVSU

For more info about SHIRLEY JONES' BLUES ALLEY debut, go to www.bluesalley.com .

This, as I await seeing Shirley’s former boss DIANA ROSS twice on Sunday at Radio City Music Hall as she headlines a show that also features Chaka Khan, Patti Labelle & Gladys Knight (http://www.ticketmaster.com/artist/1217228). She just turned it out last weekend in Tobago and I'm so excited to  see her at Radio City - the first time since 1995's "Take Me Higher" tour. Stay tuned for the next blog which will be ROSS-filled and FABULOUS, I trust!

I’m looking forward to a return home tomorrow to celebrate Ant’s birthday which is coming up on April 22^nd. I’ve been on the road – so we’ve got lots of celebrating and catching up to do. On one hand, it would be great to breathe a little bit, but – prior to my two week stint in Chicago on an assignment – we anticipated a friend or two of Ant’s would be coming to town. His frat brother Chris is popping up from North Carolina. You’ll recall, he hung out with us last year soon after Ant arrived (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/3/11/success-is-nothing-without-someone-you-love-to-share-it-with.html). He’s a sweet guy. So, it will be good to hang out with him again. But I must get re-energized for the festivities as I want Ant to have a great time for his birthday (plus, you’ll recall how kind he was on my last birthday i.e. Manila, Beyonce, karaoke, OH MY!!!!!). Still, my last couple of weeks in Chicago won’t be easy to shake off.

It started a couple of weeks ago when I got into Chicago. As is always my tradition of late, Chicago Carl aims to manage my social calendar outside of my work day. This ensures I don’t fall into my doldrums as I can when I’m away from home for long stretches of time. On one of the first nights, we went to Dixie Kitchen (www.dixiekitchenchicago.com/). We attempted Roscoe’s Chicken & Waffles on the south side, but they were closed (www.roscoes.tribe.net/). Then, we wanted to do “Park 52" (http://www.park52chicago.com) – the latest in elegant dining for Hyde Park, but it too was closed. Regardless, Dixie Kitchen served us just fine with its soul food fare. My best friend from Morehouse Eddie joined Carl and me and we had a nice time, though Eddie was still disappointed that I would not be in New York for his approaching long weekend – including “Cat On A Hot Tin Roof” (www.cat2008onbroadway.com/), which I’ve still yet to see. (Fortunately, Ant, Ern, and Michael held down the fort and took care of him on a few of the nights. On one evening, they went to Element nightclub in Manhattan [http://www.elementny.com/] and Ant’s “Amazing Grace” Manivone even joined in on the fun!). Meanwhile, Carl showed me a little of the nightlife in Chicago. We went to “Circuit” in Boys town a couple of times (http://www.circuitclub.com). They do drag shows and – on our most recent night, which was a birthday celebration for the promoter Otis – we saw a go-go boy or two. It was entertaining (enough). Remember Jermaine Sellers (http://www.myspace.com/jermainesellers) from BET’s Sunday’s Best (www.bet.com/OnTV/BETShows/sundaybest/). See this clip and more on YOU TUBE (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivtrB6jIkjo). He was in the house to sing happy birthday to Otis. And he graciously posed with me – announcing also that he’s going to be co-hosting BET’s Sunday’s Best with Kirk Franklin next season and hosting “106^th and Gospel” all by himself. CONGRATS JERMAINE! Keep doing your thing!

Speaking of IDOL competitions, I didn’t get a chance to see Mariah last night (though I anticipate getting it in upon my return home via DVD), but I had to be on top of viewing it last Tuesday night as I had to fly back to New York City for the day to do my Z-100 Idol Diva Chat with mid-day radio personality Shelley Wade (http://z100.com/cc-common/common-nyc/podcast/single_page.html?podcast=americanidol6chats). Here you can hear the most recent (with Shelley’s producer Jessica Pierro) and previous podcasts that Shelley has done (with and without me). Though I thought Michael Johns’ butt would keep him in the race, his butt was sent home last week (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtybxu9Tpr0). And thanks to Shelley for the recurring invites to weigh-in as I do on all things Idol and pop culture, but also, thanks for the invite to see Rihanna (www.rihannanow.com/) at The Highline Ballroom (www.highlineballroom.com/). And we must get that Waverly Inn in sometime soon.

After I high-tailed it back to Chicago to continue my assignment from my Z-100 appearance, I got to smother some of my sadness for only seeing Anthony for two hours with airport McDonald’s comfort food (www.mcdonalds.com/). This, in the wake of a deep cleansing facial and chemical peel from my favorite New York City dermatologist Dr. Lisa Airan (www.lisaairan.com/). But my fast food moment with the golden arches carried much more significance than an artery-clogging Big Mac. I tried the new “Southern Style Chicken Sandwich” and “Freshly Brewed Sweet Tea”. Don’t let the sophistication fool you, I love a good chicken sandwich (I’m from Savannah) and I’m happy to say that it pleasantly surprised me – even giving my other favorite Chick-fil-a a run for its money on flavor and juiciness (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/12/chick-fil-a.html). I don’t normally trust the chicken dishes from McDonald’s (not that I frequent the fast food chain, but I know what I like there. And I went so far as to get a bonus Big Mac in case I didn’t like the new chicken sandwich). I didn’t need the Big Mac. The chicken sandwich was so good! (WHAT????!!!!!!! MCDONALD’s is pop culture! SMILE!)

I got back to Chicago in time to do to Iggy's (http://www.iggys.com/) where Chicago Carl and I met Joqquin (who wanted advisement on bump fighter stuff as he was admiring my shiny and smooth – at the time – bald head. I squeezed in a haircut while in New York as well). To Joqquin and all who care, I recommend the following:

WAVE BY DESIGN ANTI BUMPING SERUM/After Shave Razor Bump Treatment - http://www.designessentials.com/de/search.jsp?sr=wave%20by%20design

And Chicago Carl says my good friend Lloyd Boston has some great recommendations for smooth shaving on his site: www.lloydboston.com/. While dining, we listened to the smooth, acoustic sounds of Vessy Mink (www.myspace.com/vessyminkmusic) a young lady who did a stunning version of Cyndi Lauper's "All Through The Night". Chicago Carl and I also got to get our J. Alexander’s in (my “Houston’s” knock-off) - www.jalexanders.com/. His “Amazing Grace” (one of many) Bionce Foxx (www.wgci.com/pages/f_bionce.html) joined us and it’s always great to see her.

Chicago proved a backdrop for other friends I haven’t seen in a minute. My friend Gil Robertson (www.robertsontreatment.com/) was in town with a client Kimberly Holland who founded and owns Icon Management Inc. (www.jurgita.com/agencies-id98766.html). Based in Atlanta, her sports agency is a home for athletes who need representation and a nurturing vision behind them. She and Gil were in Chicago for the United States Olympic Committee’s media conference (www.usoc.org/). Kimberly has a repository of talented sprinters who have won Olympic gold before and are en route to Beijing – Olympics 2008 to win some more. We chatted about their clients and more over drinks at Le Sardine (www.lasardine.com/) followed by another round at the elegantly appointed Palmer House (www.hilton.com) where I ran into the always-colorful-and- heartfelt Q – hairstylist for all the divas – like Iman and Naomi Campbell. He was in town working with VIBE Magazine (www.vibe.com/) on a shoot they were doing with the USOC. I too ran into Ebony Magazine (www.ebony.com) Senior Writer Adrienne P. Samuels, my NABJ sister. And Q (with whom I segued from Gil and Kimberly who turned in – at a point) introduced me to the Toronto-based photography team with whom he was working: Mark Zibert (www.markzibert.com/) and Andy Ferreira (www.andyferreira.com) – great guys with whom we broke bread at Miller’s Pub (www.millerspub.com). In search of something new, Andy mentioned he may be moving to Hamburg, I told him he should come to New York City before he goes to Europe and see “Passing Strange”, Ant’s and my new favorite Broadway musical (www.passingstrangeonbroadway.com).

Of course, I can’t be in Chicago for any stretch of time without my Ti-Ti getting in on some of the action. You know that she is a staple in “… the life of Riley…” She and I had some wonderful evenings out in Chicago – almost to the point where we felt like we were dating. At least, Lebron James thought so (www.nba.com/playerfile/lebron_james/). The Vogue (www.vogue.com/) cover model (first African American man to grace it) and NBA superstar was at Lumens (www.lumen-chicago.com) – a hot nightspot to which Ti-Ti took me for a little set. As he clearly looked as if he was interested in Ti-Ti (who brokered getting me – and only me – a picture with him that night for the blog), it seemed he got it twisted as he communicated to her that he was reticent to talk to her further as he thought she was with me. Well, it’s neither here nor there. But we sure got a giggle out of it. And lots more giggles as she, her friend Kendra G (www.kendrag.com/), girlfriend Kim, and I had a great time. I got the chance to hang a bit with another of Ti-Ti’s girlfriends Tiffany Nicole ( www.thegarmentroom.com/ ) about whom I wrote when she did a big Vintage show in New York City’s SOHO last summer (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/6/4/brothers-and-sisters-play-and-real.html). She is coming back to New York City this month (so check out her website for more information). But on this night in Chicago, she, Chicago Carl, Ti-Ti, and I joined Brian Boswell O’Neil (to whom Ti-Ti has been trying to introduce me for over a year now) for an evening at Bliss Spa (http://www.blissworld.com/category/spa.do) and W Hotel (www.starwoodhotels.com). Brian is the manager. The occasion was a Tom Ford eyewear trunk show (www.tomford.com/). What a lovely spa! And such nice people in the mix. Afterwards, Ti-Ti, Chicago Carl, and I did Mexican and wine at Ti-Ti’s place – one of two trips I would make to see Ti-Ti’s new living space in Buena Park.

Ti-Ti’s and my other domestic night was followed by a casual meal at Bar on Buena (www.baronbuena.com/). Great burgers and chili! Then, our below-the-radar start was followed by one of my true highlights of the evening (and in a long time) at Park West. To give you a sense of what the moment I’m about to chronicle meant, we must go back. Let’s take a couple of my fellow Windsor Forest High School classmate Jenifer Johnson’s pictures from her profile on my Class of 88s website (www.windsorforest88.com). They are shots of me in the ‘80s – sporting a high-fade box a la Fresh Prince, short shorts that accent my bony legs, and Dwayne-Wayne glasses (WHAT A SIGHT! LOL!). Though this is more our Senior year, the look of that time says it all. During that time (and even further back to elementary school and middle school), I LOVED Debarge! Like so many of the members of this legendary family, I’ve been blessed with a falsetto that I sometimes use as their records have played – dating back to “Switch” (the group which older brothers Tommy and Bobby Debarge formed on Motown - www.soulwalking.co.uk/Switch.html).  And then came “Debarge” (starring El, Bunny, Mark, James, and Randy). From “I Like It” to “All This Love” to “Share My World” to “Time Will Reveal” to “Love Me (In A Special Way)” to “A Dream” and on and on, I could go. I remember the first time – after “Time Will Reveal” (the single) was released – that I heard the first piano chords of "Love Me (In A Special Way)", the title track and follow-up single to ‘Time’ on the radio (E-93 - www.e93fm.com/ - which played all things hits and – Ern and I would find out years later, songs that weren’t hits… but they were to us, but I digress…). It was 1983 and my mom was getting ready to drop me off to the Coastal Empire Fair to meet my friends. I had to have that album at first listen and did get it soon thereafter for my birthday. And it still stands the test of time as one of my favorite albums. "Time Will Reveal"; “Stay With Me” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CinavBPMy-I); and "A Dream" are three of my other favorites on that project. (We got to see "Debarge" in Savannah as they promoted that album. They opened for Luther.). And then, came the younger brother Chico (http://www.myspace.com/chicodebarge1) who – in his own right – worked the charts in 1988 (more around the time of the pix you see of me above) and again in the mid-‘90s and he continued to carry the torch of excellence in song that his big brothers and sister shared with the world in the ‘80s. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nm_2Gd5denQ)

Now, fast forward to a few years ago when I meet a beautiful, sweet, and funny lady named Sherry. I think we were in Santa Barbara when we met, but we see each other often in Chicago. I find out – somewhere during this time – that she is the first cousin to the Debarge clan. Her mother is the sister of Mama Debarge. Moreover, I find out that Sherry and her twin sister Shelly sometimes sing background for Chico when he does shows around town and there so happened to be one that they were doing during my time in Chicago and they invited Ti-Ti and me. It was an annual gathering sponsored and organized by Chicago’s Urban League (www.cul-chicago.org/). Before KRS-1 (www.krs-one.com/) rocked the mic, the packed audience was serenaded by an in-good-shape-and-form Chico Debarge. We were provided VIP seating right up front and we were really excited to see "our" Sherry and her twin sister Shelly working the background vocals. (Sherry - a little under the weather - said she wanted to call me up to flesh out the high parts as I have been rocking my "Debarge"-esque/wannabe falsetto around Sherry since I found out The Debarges are her cousins! I was ready too!). In addition to Chico's respectable but modest catalog of hits (he has a new album out June 24th with Kedar management - http://www.myspace.com/chicodebarge1) and he – with class and candor - paid homage to his family's legacy in the music business. He did "I Like It" (from their "All This Love" album). He did oft-sampled "Stay With Me" (in its original entirety) from "In A Special Way". He spoke openly about his own drug problems and stint in jail. He thanked the fans for sticking with him (and his siblings who too have experienced some struggles over the years). Too, he shouted out his mother Mama Debarge's MY SPACE page (http://www.myspace.com/mamadebarge) and how she prays for folks via that hip, young social network. Moreover, he spoke openly about AIDS and the need for African Americans to be safe with sex as the horrible disease claimed the life of his brother Bobby who formed SWITCH. With that, he did a touching, haunting, nostalgic rendition of "I CALL YOUR NAME" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UmNztRHEnzc) in memory of his brother. A touching moment! Overall, it was an awesome show and the ladies (SHERRY and SHELLY) truly held their own. Afterwards, we went backstage and held court with Chico. We were offered the sponsor’s drink Bombay Sapphire Gin (www.bombaysapphire.com/). Chico posed for pictures and made me feel like I was a DEBARGE (a dream from childhood). When I walked in, he said "These girls (his cousins and background singers Sherry and Shelly) LOVE you so much. They worship the ground you walk on. So, it's so nice to finally meet you. You are family. So, give me a hug!". I was so honored (and - y'all know me - slightly aroused, but no funny business here. He was ever the gentleman and - through the night - like an old friend or slightly older brother with whom I could just kick it. He was very present. Wanted to make sure everybody was comfortable and having a good time. And he's just an all-around great guy! When post-show/dressing-room action was wrapping up, he asked if we wanted to join him for the after-party at "Flat Water" Restaurant which transforms its basement (right on the Illinois River) into a late-night lounge/club (www.flatwater.us/). There was a VIP area for Chico and his entourage - now including Ti-Ti, Sherry, her husband Derrick, Shelly, a host of other friends, and me. I sat next to Chico and we chatted through much of the night – laughing and people watching. But, at his nudging, I also got up and danced with the girls and - as we did "Da Butt" and ‘dropped it like it’s hot’ - as if we were 21, a little crook in some of our 37-year-old knees reminded us all that our "black doesn't crack" but that our knees sometimes do. Regardless, it was an energetic, awesome night that reconnected me (and - for the first time - connected me) to a chunk of musical history that I cherish and still hold dear to this day. It was like A DREAM (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uknY5SFn96c). MAKE SURE TO GET CHICO'S ALBUM WHEN IT COMES OUT THIS SUMMER. K? THANKS SHERRY... for the invite... and making - in no small way - one of my DREAMs come true!

On another night, my other Chicago BFF Ki-Ki and I got some one-on-one time plus two of her girlfriends she’s been wanting me to meet. An awesome makeup artist named Val and the lovely and funny Kim Coles (LOVE HER!!!!). We were to meet at “Bandera” – owned by same restaurant as Houston’s (www.hillstone.com/) but the wait was too long for the ladies. So, “Big Bowl” it was (www.bigbowl.com). But the scene and the cuisine mattered not because there was inevitably going to be ‘food for the soul’ on this night. Ki-Ki and I already have a spiritual bond. Come to find out that she and Val have a connect in their own way. Kim, who has been in Chicago hosting the now-canceled “I-Village” (www. intheloop.ivillage.com/ ), considered Ki-Ki to be an angel as she knew no one here in Chicago when she moved here (though she’s now heading back West). And now, Kim, Val, and I have a bond. Kim is such an energy - bright, present, connected, open, loving, spiritual, and just precious. She's a "melange" of all the qualities I love in a friend (See, Kim? I used it!). And in asking me about my birthday, she pointed out that I share a birthday with her “Living Single” co-stars Erika Alexander and TC Carson. We shared so much as this day proved a long and exhausting day for some of us at the table (arguably even morale depleting), but by dinner's end (great asian, soothing tea, and decadent desserts to boot), we were uplifted - less from the food (though it helped) and more from each other's company and sharing. I spoke of the life work I've done with Momentum Education (www.momentumeducation.com) - imparting (in brief) some nuggets that have supported me, including "The Empowered Relationship with the breakdown" and "Breaks in Belonging". I also shared with them a book a friend recently shared with me “The Greatest Secret in the World” by OG Mandino (www.amazon.com/Greatest-Secret-World-Og-Mandino/dp/0553280384). We talked about my Diana and her recent appearance on “Inside The Actor’s Studio”:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNZ7EQme-Sw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDKYRR3mBlY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS2Ja2JNTvY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GqvdRLJKrTU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTl4fICfPtw
We talked about Diana’s legendary TV appearance on her “Central Park Concert”. It was 1983 and we all remembered where we were on both days - the day it rained and the make-good concert the following day: 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cK--Ha9fSI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6U-_1aKpOI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HRs0VcrzVac
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dI03UJEbwqg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjVSdA_DdvY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7nGUy-OkPo

What a treat!

I will hopefully get to see Miss Diana Ross again on May 4^th as she is headlining “Divas With Heart” (http://radiocity.com/events/divas-with-heart-0508.html?s7455c19474178o47862t7472n35043e). It’s a benefit for the Masonic Medical Research Laboratory that also features Patti LaBelle and Chaka Khan. It features the American Theater Orchestra under the musical direction of Paul Gemignani.

In closing, I want to mention that w orld-renowned musician Wynton Marsalis has penned the first ever mass for The Abyssinian Baptist Church 200^th Bicentennial Celebration. It’s scheduled for this Saturday (www.abyssinian.org/). The Abyssinian Baptist Church is the oldest African-American Baptist church in New York and it is considered the first mega church in the United States of America. Celebrating their 200^th bicentennial, the Abyssinian Baptist Church has not only witnessed, but also participated in shaping the African -American experience. Wynton Marsalis feels a profound connection to the Black church as he feels Jazz is a direct derivative of the hymns created in church.

Some shout outs to my New York City peeps:

1. CONGRATS to my Frankie Edozien ( www.edozien.net ) and/or (www.africanmag.com). The NYU Journalism Department is pleased to announce that he will be joining its full-time faculty. “Professor” Edozien is an award-winning city reporter and co-founder of The African magazine. He will direct the summer Journalism in Ghana: Reporting Africa program and then teach full-time beginning this fall. So PROUD of him! ( http://journalism.nyu.edu/ )

2. Meanwhile, one of my other National Association of Black Journalists favorites Mara Schiavocampo, Digital Correspondent for NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams (www.msnbc.com) is featured in the new edition of Emmy Magazine (www.emmys.tv/). So PROUD of her!

3. And I too am PROUD of my good friend and fellow journalist Terrance Dean who will have heads turning and lips dropping as he has written and is set to begin the blitz around his riveting memoir Hiding In Hip Hop. It uncovers a hidden and well-known unspoken secret. Deep within the confines of Hip-Hop is a prominent gay sub-culture. A world that industry insiders are keenly aware of, but choose to ignore. From the testosterone of men striving to be on top and in control, to the “by any means necessary” bravado in an industry that thrives on power, homosexuality is a reality at nearly every level of Hip-Hop. Hiding In Hip Hop is a heartfelt sojourn of a young man searching for self, love, and sexual identity in the most homophobic places – the black family, community, church, and Hip Hop. Dean takes readers on an emotional rollercoaster ride as he becomes romantically involved with some of Hollywood’s and Hip Hop’s elite, and into an underground world of down low brothers, sex parties, and love starved celebrities. Struggling to find a place for himself in a homophobic culture Dean’s compelling story is one of hope, love, and in spite of everything, coming to terms with one’s self and being a catalyst for change and empowerment in the game of Hip-Hop. Order your copy today: http://www.amazon.com/Hiding-Hip-Hop-Entertainment-Industry

CONGRATS to you, TERRANCE!

Speaking of hip hop (but not the down low – the tutu notwithstanding), see my brother-in-law Vincent and Outkast’s own (and our other Savannah homeboy) Antwan "Big Boi" Patton, at his Atlanta Ballet premiere of “big” (www.atlantaballet.com/). It is a hip-hop inspired ballet which is receiving rave reviews and is expected to tour Europe. Patton performs live on stage alongside a series of new ballet set-pieces by the company's choreographer, Lauri Stallings. The music includes Patton's unreleased single “Sir Lucious Leftfoot Saves the Day” and a fusion of Guiseppe Verdi's “La Traviata” with the OutKast track “Morris Brown”. Look what Savannah can produce, huh?

Speaking of church (and as all roads lead back to Savannah), my Savannah homeboy and Morehouse brother Raphael Warnock is now the senior pastor at Atlanta's Ebenezer Baptist Church. From here, Martin Luther King led a movement. CBS News recently did a feature on him and how he’s continuing the Dream in Dr. King’s house:

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/04/12/eveningnews/main4011327.shtml?source=search_story
It reminds me of a wonderful performance of “We Shall Overcome” that Miss Ross did a few years back: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFgiku_E1jA

Many blasts from my past are tugging at my emotions in a multitude of ways. My 20-year reunion from high school, for example, is approaching (I know! My black doesn’t crack and I still have my 29 waist from high school), but as I hear from my fellow Windsor Forest High School classmates – most of whom I have not seen since we crossed the stage for our diplomas at the Savannah Civic Center (I was graduation speaker), I am reminded that we all have a lot of mileage on our respective lives – from careers to spouses to children, “OH MY!”. And though we’ve lost some a long the way, I’m also excited to hear that everyone is doing so well and living their best lives. As some classmates reach out, I too am reminded of some wonderful friends I’ve had along the way. Hence high school, friend circles – for me – did tend to get a bit segregated, though my school was very integrated and chockfull of diversity. That said, I haven’t seen many – if not most – of my dear ‘white’ friends from that era at all. And as we are now reconnected via email and our reunion website, I’m overwhelmed with happy emotions for these abandoned yet cherished (for their season) relationships. Such a fond spot sparkles right in the center of my heart for old friends like Shawna, Beckie, Erin, Susan, Adam, Lisa, and then some. We’re still aiming to reach out to more classmates – so the reunion will be a success. If any of you are out there, click on www.windsorforest88.com and enjoy a walk down memory lane!!! Moreover, my Savannah homegirl and fellow Knight Tandi Reddick (also a Spelmanite)has launched something for Windsor Forest alums at large: www.windsorforest.ning.com and that has got even more folks from my four years in high school popping up to say HI! And if that wasn’t enough: There’s a site for the Morehouse/Spelman alumni community: Visit SpelHouse.net at: http://www.spelhouse.net. Not so much from the site (as I have stayed in better touch with my college mates), but I’m in the zone of reflecting on those college years as well. My best friend from Morehouse Eddie (based in Chicago where I’m working on an assignment now) is coming to New York later this week (I’ll be here. Fortunately, I see him often when I’m in Chicago). Also, another Morehouse College Glee Club brother Robert Petagrew reached out the other day. Always good to hear from my folks from back in the day as you know how much I enjoyed my Morehouse years (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/5/22/walking-in-strange-and-new-places.html) and how excited I am to have a legacy piece, my only nephew Herman Lee Riley III, matriculating through Morehouse, as I write this. He too is a Windsor Forest alumnus. See my pride as we witness his high school graduation. As our website reads like a MYSPACE for the Windsor Forest High School Class of ’88, my partner Ant updated my MY SPACE page. Please check it out as I try to keep up with the times and my younger, hipper significant other. Thanks Ant! http://www.myspace.com/thelifeofriley2k

During my college years, one mentor stands alone. It’s Ann Kimbrough, who was my advisor and professor at Clark Atlanta University through which I funneled my Morehouse College degree in Mass Media Arts (Broadcast Journalism). Ann and I have stayed in touch over the years. She holds a distinction as one of the only people I would allow to say she’s my “mom” as I have never been into the “play mom” business (as some), but most in particular after my mom’s passing in 1994, that distinction froze in time and I have held onto feeling like a “motherless child” because no substitute will do. That includes Ann Kimbrough. And yet, when she says she’s my “mom”, I know it’s coming from a deserving place as she stepped in maternal on the “college” and “professional” career tip in a way that has shaped me today. She coached me and worked me to ensure that I got all internships and scholarships that were going to help me forward my career. When I was ready for change, she supported every move – offering sage advice on how those transitions could benefit me most. And even when there would be moments we’d not talk for a year (or even five), I am always on her radar and she mine, which is why I’m excited to share this tid-bit from www.ocgnews.com: Kimbrough explores running for DeKalb CEO seat Voters may have another name to choose from on the ballot for DeKalb County’s next Chief Executive Office. Ann Kimbrough has launched an exploratory committee to weigh her chances for vying for the position. If elected, Kimbrough would be the first African-American woman to hold the post.
Among those in the race so far are Joe Bembry, DeKalb County Commissioner Burrell Ellis, Tracey McMeen, Angela Miller, Calvin Sims, and State Rep. Stan Watson.
Kimbrough, a long-time DeKalb resident, currently serves as the Chief of Staff to Vernon Jones. As Chief of Staff, the Clark-Atlanta graduate oversees the day-to-day operations of the executive office’s initiatives, serves as senior policy director for the government’s executive branch and interfaces dail y with residents, business owners and department heads to advance the mission of the Jones’ Administration.
With eight years of experience under Jones’ leadership, Kimbrough says that she will be able to build upon the accomplishments of Jones and continue to move the county forward in public safety, infrastructure and economic development.
Kimbrough, who was most recently recognized at the Atlanta Business League’s 2008 “Atlanta’s Top 100 Black Women of Influence,” earned a Master of Science in Journalism from Northwestern University and is a 2010 candidate for a Doctorate in Business Administration at Argosy University.
Kimbrough is a single mother of three. She has previously held leadership positions with Fulton County Government and the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games. She formerly worked for WSB-TV and the Atlanta Journal-Constitution.

One of Ann Kimbrough’s best pieces of advice was that I join the National Association of Black Journalists and all of its student and local affiliates (www.nabj.org). As you often hear me mention, NABJ is still a huge part of my life. I Chair the Arts & Entertainment Task Force. I often co-produce (with Morehouse brother and best bud Michael K. Watts) many of its big events – including the NABJ Hall of Fame Banquet which we are doing for the big convention in Chicago scheduled in July (www.2008unity.org).

And I’ve sat on the Board nationally and locally in Atlanta and New York City. Recently, I was asked to be a part of an esteemed team of jurors to judge entries presented by students from seven Historically Black Colleges and Universities (like Morehouse). The program is a part of NABJ's strategic effort to partner with CNN and it's upcoming “Black in America” series (www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/2008/black.in.america/) – led by many investigations from Soledad O’Brien (who incidentally is excited about the “Big Sister, Little Sister” documentary on which I’m associate producing. She’s agreed to be one of our high-profile women of color to be interviewed for the special independent project that chronicles three New York City girls from their prom to graduation to college: www.bslsthedoc.com - in progress; www.myspace.com/bslsthedoc) . I recently blogged about it: http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/3/15/twas-passing-strange.html.). Anyway! CNN has charged students from seven Historically Black Colleges and Universities and asked students to generate there own stories (iReports) on Being Black in America. Participating Schools include: Florida A&M University; North Carolina Central; North Carolina A&T State University; Hampton University; Howard University; Morehouse College, Clark Atlanta and Spelman. Seeing each students’ entry reminded me of the work we used to do at CAU-TV and WCLK. Like Mrs. Kimbrough said to me (and I continue to pay it forward), “I know each of you will go on to shine brightly into your destiny!!!!”

NOW, HOW DO I REFLECT ON THE LAST COUPLE OF WEEKS??? Well, let me just do it. This last two weeks have kept me on the road for work – a good thing! It too gave me some special New York City moments which are par for my course of pop culture and possibilities.

• Ant and I stumbled onto a cute sake/sushi spot in The Village on 6^th Avenue. It’s called Aja Asian Bistro and Lounge (http://www.ajaasianbistro.com/). It was the perfect place for us to workout our appetites and our pain bodies, which freed us to lift up our dear friend/plastic surgeon with the most Dr. Shirley Madhere (www.thenewaesthete.com) or (www.drshirleymadhere.com). It was her birthday. Location? Grammercy Park Hotel (www. GramercyParkHotel.com ) – just off Grammercy Park which always puts me in the mind of Savannah (any square will do - www.officialsavannahguide.com/article_8.shtml). (Did I tell you that I wrote a book with my 6^th grade class from Savannah (Largo Tibet Elementary) – with some of the aforementioned reunion folks – on… The Savannah Squares??? The book is titled: “A Child’s View of Savannah Squares” and it was hardback and informative with lots of pictures and good info. See how all the roads are leading back to Savannah? Or my early years??? WOW!). Well, back to Dr. Shirley’s party. It was on the rooftop/penthouse and we were introduced to some wonderful people who know how to socialize on the cocktail tip, including model and artist Aissata Pinto da Costa. Check out her work via: www.aissata.com or www.myspace.com/aisscool or www.redbubble.com/people/aissata HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DR. SHIRLEY! WE LOVE YOU… and look forward to picking up our dinner series with Mr. Ted Gibson and beau Jason (www.tedgibsonsalon.com/) who were missing in action. Ted? Jason? SOS!!!!!

• A shoot in Raleigh, NC had me at the Siena Hotel (www.summithotels.com) which provided southern hospitality that I always welcome when I travel below the Mason-Dixon line. I also met Carol B. Stack, author of “Call To Home: African Americans Reclaim Rural South” (Basic Books). This book relates the story of urban Black Americans choosing to return "home" to the rural South – something that could be my own reality one day. The book is based on research in rural areas in North and South Carolina, considered the top nonmetropolitan areas for Black Americans moving south. Unfortunately, my trip to Raleigh left a bad taste in my mouth because of Northwest Airlines (www.nwa.com). They bumped me from an oversold flight on which I was scheduled to board to get to Detroit for another assignment. (Now, don’t go imagining Diana Ross in Heathrow when the security person “touched” her in a too-close-and-personal-for-Miss-Ross kinda’ way or – more recently – Naomi Campbell’s arrest from a British Airways flight, but I was that angry…). I was confirmed to fly first class from Raleigh to Detroit on NW flight. One hour before, I got to kiosk to check in (didn't need to check bags). Machine rerouted me to ticket counter. NW representative (and subsequent supervisor) alerted me the flight was oversold and there was no other way to get me to Detroit before I needed to be there for business (the following morning at 9:00 am). A $300 voucher was being forced down my throat when all I wanted was to get to Detroit to do my work. This, as the entourage with which I was traveling, did make the flight (and would tell me later that there were seats available behind them - so that further disturbed me when I saw them the next day as the option NW gave me was to go back to Newark (my home) and - after my insisting they come up with an option to get me to Detroit by the next morning for my work - a 6am flight from Newark to Detroit (not optimum, but it got me to work). My experience of the workers was not cooperative, it was dismissive, and not urgent (as I asked them to ensure that the flight I wanted was full vs. these many options i.e. vouchers, flights the next day after the time I needed to get my work done, etc.).If not for my bottom line (which was to stay with the rest of the crew with whom I was working as we are traveling together for work - a point I clarified off the top), I could understand the lackadaisical way they treated me. But I was clear (and asked that they be clear before they push me away from my goal – to get on THAT FLIGHT!). So, to find that there was a seat(s) available and I wasn't in it, disturbs me and makes me not trust the way in which NW handles its customer service. Ultimately, at a point where a less-optimum solution came into play (going to Newark and getting up really early the next morning to go to Detroit), the supervisor at Raleigh's ticket counter did add a $100 credit voucher to the $300, but it couldn't - in that moment - salve the blow of unprofessionalism, inconvenience, and frustration. And a week and change later, I’m still awaiting a suitable reply from Northwest Airlines. THIS JUST IN: They sent a reply but need another pair of supervisor's eyes to review the case before they decide how much more generous they want to be in the way of retribution. We'll see...

• Well, if it’s any consolation, I did get to have dinner with my Ant and Ern. We went to Crab House (www.crabhouseseafood.com/) in Edgewater, NJ. Then, we joined Ern’s friends Miriam and Danielle, who remind me of our aforementioned Windsor girls, at Lua in Hoboken (www.luarestaurant.com/). Pardon the camera phone shot. I left my digital at home:

• Upon my return from traveling, Ant and I had to pull out our WELCOME MAT for his “Amazing Grace” Manivone who moved here (to Brooklyn) last week. Her roommate – also from Denver (and a friend of Ant) – is Alea. During their time here, we’ve been showing them around town – Manhattan and their borough of Brooklyn. The first night, we went to the Fat Black Pussy Cat (www.thefatblackpussycat.com/) to toast in their arrival. From there, we had a nice round of comfort food at The Waverly diner (on Waverly and 6^th Avenue). Another night, Ant and I had to indoctrinate Alea into our karaoke jones at the spot: One 17 (http://www.karaoke17.com/). Afterwards, we gave them a glimpse of some of our favorite go-go boys at Club Splash (www.splashbar.com). Then, we enjoyed a late night bite at one of our favorite overnight haunts “Cafeteria” (www. cafeteria247.com ). Another night, we joined Alea’s friends for a cool night of networking/partying at Upstairs in SOHO – above Café Bari (www.cafebari.com) on Broadway and Broome. We did a take two on Waverly that night (these girls like to eat), but only after we went to “Happy Endings” Lounge (www.happyendinglounge.com) which allowed us to take some cool pictures under red light as we sat in what once was an old steam room (perhaps more than steam was once going on at this place that is now simply a lounge). We had a great time! Lovely folks! Great energy! The shots remind me of my childhood/teenage/adult icon Diana Ross’ 1983 album “Ross”. That was the album with "Pieces of Ice". Remember? Whatever! One day, Ant and I ventured to their neck of the woods – Brooklyn – to show them around as both Ant and I consider Brooklyn a home away from home. We went to enjoy “Red Velvet Cake” in Fort Greene from “The Cake Man” (www.cakemanraven.com) and Brooklyn's BBQ (www.bbqnyc.com). Then, my friend and designer Moshood hosted us for a moment (www.afrikanspirit.com/). As I’ve written about before - http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/7/7/summer-repeats-and-repasts.html, there was a time there (between 1995 & 2002), all you'd see me wearing was Moshood (with African mask on pants leg or shirt hem, etc.). And it fit many occasions - including formals, vacation, White House interview with President Bill Clinton, etc. And Angela Bassett, Chaka Khan, Isaac Hayes, Erykah Badu, and many more are often sporting his wears.
  Ant and I were pleasantly surprised on Saturday when we saw a new addition to his series of popular T-shirts (which are often adorned with positive, affirming messages like: 'IF YOU TAKE MY JOY AWAY FROM ME YOU DESTROY THE BEAUTY OF YOURSELF'). It reads: 'IF YOU'RE NOT FOR BARACK OBAMA, GET OFF MY BACK!'. Well, maybe not the most clever or punchy slogan, but the display case was filled with white Ts - different shapes and sizes, but one message of HOPE around Moshood's candidate Barack Obama. I thought “How cool!” And secured a bunch for friends who would enjoy an Obama-inspired Moshood T-Shirt. While in Brooklyn, we stumbled into one of my best friends in the business Frankie Edozien ( www.edozien.net) who is City Hall Reporter at New York Post, but also Founder of the “African” Magazine

(www.africanmag.com). Being out with me means I run into folks and they lead us to our next stop. In this case, Frankie told us we just had to come to the Brooklyn Museum for its First Saturdays mixer – dancing, cocktails, and mingling ( www.brooklynmuseum.org/ ). We did, but got there a bit late. Still, we posed for pix.

• I’ve been seeing commercials for “Red Robin” ( www.redrobin.com/ ). Had never been to one. Ant knew of them from Denver. Well, we found one just 10 minutes away in Clifton, NJ. Ern, Ant, and I went the other night and enjoyed delicious gourmet burgers with baskets and baskets of what they call “bottomless fries”. Not a meal for everyday, but it was so good… in that moment. I’m sure we’ll find excuses to revisit that spot. As comfort food goes, we enjoyed – not for the first time – some “Cowgirl” in the West Village before I had to hop a plane for Chicago yesterday. ( www.cowgirlnyc.com ). Its corn dogs, catfish fingers, chili, and margaritas made this too a spot we shouldn’t do too often, but we must repeat soonest. Love that comfort food!!!!!! (And yes! I still have my 29 waist from high school! SMILE!).

RANDOM SHOUT OUTS AND POP MUSINGS:

• How many of you have seen these commercials from TRIGON Insurance ( www.trigoninsurance.com/ )! The cutest!!!!!:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJBngYsATbk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w5DwIcnpBCA&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a189xAYBRv8&NR=1

• The one-man show Thurgood, starring Laurence Fishburne as the late Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall, will begin previews on Broadway April 12 at the Booth Theater, with an opening set for April 30. My friend Natalie Clarke who is Senior Director of Marketing and Client Services for Walker International Communications Group, Inc (www.walkercommunicationsgroup.com) sent me a deal to share with you. THREE EASY WAYS TO ORDER:

1. ONLINE. Click here, or visit www.broadwayoffers.com and enter code THWCEB8.

2. BY PHONE. Call 212-947-8844 and mention code THWCEB8.

3. IN PERSON. Beginning March 24, bring a print out of this offer to the Booth Theatre Box Office, 222 West 45th Street.

Performance schedule: Tues.-Sat. at 8; Wed. & Sat. at 2, Sun. at 3

• My good friend Caroline Brewer (www.carolinebrewer.net) – writer and renaissance woman her own – sent me some info on a friend of hers. I’ll share it with you here. The company is Tribal Ties, an ethnic brand of Italian-made silk ties, with designs inspired by cultural motifs found in Africa, the Americas, Asia, and Europe. They also make scarves for women. The owner, Laurence Ligon, founded the company and has run it sucessfully for 14 years, while maintaining a full-time job. In fact, he says the company pretty much runs itself. However, he's ready to move on to another venture and wants to spread the word about his desire to sell TribalTies. He's based in California. And you can check out his collection on his site, www.tribalties.com . Any takers?

• NYC based Fashion Stylist Andre Austin and photographer Eric Hason & are pleased to have their work included in the current exhibition at London's Museum of Fashion and Textile: "Peacocks and Pinstripes - A Snapshot of Masculine Style". The exhibit is showing through May 31, 2008. For more information, please contact my friend Wilson Mathews, who too works with Whitney from “America’s Next Top Model” at mediamecca@hotmail.com or to view the exhibit please visit http://www.ftmlondon.org/exhibitions/detail/?ID=44.

• My friend Michael K. Watts sent me two things he wanted me to mention. His first recommendation went something like this: “If you have not tried these cookies, you MUST. They will make you slap yo’ sista and yo’ daddy! I say they're PERFECT for the blog!!!” Well, I don’t know if I need to go that far, Michael, but I trust you. It’s Insomnia Cookies (www.insomniacookies.com) which now has a retail location on 6^th Avenue and MacDouglal that compliments their ‘til-3am delivery. Cookies, brownies, and combo packs of the two are served up piping hot.

• Michael’s other suggestion: A mentee of his named Barion Grant who worked at MTV during the same time he was there is the producer of a powerful documentary coming on MSNBC this Friday “… MEETING DAVID WILSON”. “TODAY” correspondent Tiki Barber hosts the documentary which is the remarkable and inspiring story of a young man’s reconciliation with his ancestors’ history as slaves. A 90-minute LIVE Conversation about Race moderated by NBC News’ Brian Williams follows. The entire event streams live on MSNBC.COM. For more information, go to www.msnbc.com.

As I reflect on my life (20 years since high school, etc.) - chronicling and revealing itself alongside the world’s recognition of the 40 years that have passed since Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s April 4^th assassination, I’m reminded that time passes quickly here, doesn’t it? You heard that younger brother of late, great Gerald Levert, Sean, died recently. He too was in the group Levert (of “Casanova” fame) - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sean_Levert. Not that we were thinking about him or checking for him, but – for sure – not expecting him to die. Then, as celebrations go, my cousin Floyd just celebrated another birthday. Hopefully he is honing in on how quickly time does pass and how little time there is philosophically for all of us to waste. We should all stand in our purpose and possibilities sooner than later... if we can. Tomorrow is not promised. This sentiment as another huge loss weighs heavily on my family. In the paper it reads like this: Bishop S.C. "Daddy" Madison, who for 17 years guided the United House of Prayer for All People, an affluent African American denomination based in the District, died Saturday night at his home in Northwest Washington . He was 86. I’ve often shared that this is my family’s church and for my years in Savannah, Atlanta, and New York, my church: (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/8/30/time-passes-quickly-here.html) and (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/2/12/tasty-freeze-of-chicago.html). See this article from The Washington Post for a more comprehensive view of his life. ( http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/04/06/AR2008040602312.html?referrer=emailarticle ). I’m reminded that when I was a junior at Morehouse in 1991, my parents surprised me on the road in Norfolk, Virginia as the Morehouse College Glee Club was preparing to close out our two-week tour. The previous Bishop McCollough – only the 2^nd in a series of 3 leaders within the church – passed away that same week, but my mom and dad still stuck to their plan to come and surprise me. As the glee club – on a tour bus – pulled into our hotel parking lot, I was told that someone needed to see me up front. When I walked off the bus, it was my parents. I was so emotional and happy to see them. Knowing the news of the Bishop’s passing (They’d called that news into me while on the road – earlier on the tour), I was further shocked to see them as I figured mom (and maybe even dad) would be preoccupied with arrangements around services, etc. But she held her commitment to spend time with me and knew she’d get back home in time to honor McCollough with whom she traveled from church to church and under whom her father was a preacher (He also served under Bishop Grace, the founder). During one moment where I was given clearance to hang out with my parents for a couple of hours before rehearsal, we got to talking about “Dad” (as the Bishops are endearingly called). Mom began to speak in tongues while we shared. Of course, I’ve witnessed this in the church and many places, but in my “academic” circles, I found myself looking around to see if anyone witnessed this highly-spirited moment for her. Once she came down off her moment, I said to my mother “Look, sistah! Reel it in! I won’t hear the end of this if you break out and start shouting here in the hotel lobby!”. We all laughed and went about our visit. I choke up and smile as I tell this story. Clearly, I miss my mom. But also, I love and respect The United House of Prayer for All People – my church. And I’ve had moments – over the years – to be an audience with Daddy Madison and I love, admire, and am in awe of the many amazing things he’s done to keep the legacy of our church and its founders (many of whom include my extended family from both sides) alive. I’m also reminded of a song my mom used to sing (as originally recorded by The Mighty Clouds of Joy). The song is titled “Everybody Ought to Praise His Name”.

The lyrics read:
Verse 1:
Oh I woke up early this morning
my heart was beating right on time
I said Lord I truly thank you
For openin’ up these eyes of mine
Then I went over to my window
And while looking through the shade
Once again I had to tell him
Thank -You -Lord
For lettin’ me see another day
Verse 2:
Now the sun was brightly shining
The wind was blowin’ not too strong
In a treehouse just a few feet away
Little Robin sang his song
I don’t know what he was singing
Pretty soon he was on his way
Who can say he wasn’t being
Gra-ate ful
And saying thank you for another day
Chorus:
(Everybody ought to) Praise His name
(Be thankful and) Praise His name
(Everybody ought to) Praise His name
(Cause if the robin can say Thank You)
You can do it too

Now, the context in which I write this from my heart and for my blog is not a religious one per se. So, whomever you choose to praise, more power to you. But the line “… if a robin can say Thank You, you can do it too…” haunts me. It haunts me because I am looking back on a good life and breathing right now to more blessings than a million and am looking forward to abundance and a light so bright it blinds the eyes. What gratitude I am feeling inside of this emotional rollercoaster. What else is left to say but: THANK YOU!

I’ve got to take a minute to document my last week and change because it’s been non-stop and there’s more to come. Last Tuesday, my Ant graciously drove me 2 ½ hours from our home to Wallingford, CT for a shoot. In the wake of our long day and late wrap, we chose to quickly pop by Tuesday night’s SPLASH (www.splashbar.com) to have a nightcap and say Hi to our friends Dominic San Juan (SOON TO COME: www.DominicSanJuanonline.com or VOTE FOR HIM: http://lincoln.unbound.com or his MYSPACE: http://www.myspace.com/dominicsanjuan ) and ABC News employee/socialite/blogger extraordinaire Terry Wynn (http://texastigerofnewyork.blogspot.com) were in the house. Always a pleasure to see them.

The following morning, I had to be on the first flight to Chicago for an assignment that would hold me in the Windy City (Still Windy, too, though the first days of Spring). I got the chance to reconnect to many of my peeps. My Ki-Ki, some of her colleagues, and I made our own stir fry at Flat Top Grill (www.flattopgrill.com/) – my first time going. I had a great rice and vegetable dish with Korean BBQ sauce and wonderful flat top bread. Ki-Ki, by the way (Christened Jakki), wanted me to share with my blog readers that she has a FAB 2 BED/ 2 BATH! HARLEM APT that’s ready to rent for $2100-a-month. This 2 bed/2 bath unit is 1300 sq feet! Its located on the second floor of a beautiful brownstone on tree-lined street [West 154th Street (btwn St. Nicholas and Amsterdam) one block from the A C line!!!] This units features high ceilings, hard wood floors, a full size washer and dryer in the unit and tons of closet and storage place. The open kitchen is bar stool ready and features full sized appliances including a dishwasher. The living/dining room area has a large fireplace and 3 large windows that face the beautiful brownstones across the street. Both bedrooms are very spacious and will easily accommodate a queen size bed, large dresser and end tables. The master bedroom has a modern, full size bath and an L shaped wrap around balcony. Did I mention the full size WASHER DRYER in the unit? This apartment will not be around for long. Other Features: Floors - hardwood, LOTS of sunlight - excellent, nice kitchen, bathroom, storage space, GREAT closet space, Washer/dryer, AND Dishwasher. NO broker fee! Will do credit check and collect a security deposit to move in. Ready for IMMEDIATE move in! Call Greg Little at 212-722-9226 or 347-552-6395 (cell) to schedule a time to see the apartment.

Chicago Carl was back on the beat for this leg of my trip. And he and I jumped right in. He took me to see Poonie who cuts my hair from Westside Chicacgo’s Half Time Barber when I am there. It was great to see him again. Carl also stopped me by his former boss and current friend AJ to see his first class salon AJES: The Salon Inc. (www.ajessalon.com). As AJ just celebrated his birthday (the night – on my last trip – that I sat with Chicago Carl as he was recuperating from a horrible flu), I got to extend my B-DAY greetings to him. He’s such a great energy! On that night, Carl and I got the chance to see my best friend from Morehouse Eddie and one of my favorite starlets Ti-Ti at J. Alexander’s restaurant (www.jalexanders.com/). In lieu of my Houston’s, J. Alexander has become my place for consistent dining and comfort food. The next night, Ki-Ki had arranged an evening of dining for Carl and our other girlfriend Lesia. Ki-Ki canceled in the 11^th hour (due to a belly ache) and Chicago Carl was working overtime. With that, Lesia and I got our one-on-one time at Rockit Bar & Grill (www.rockitbarandgrill.com), which offered us some tasty popcorn shrimp and glazed BBQ salmon. The ambience left a bit to be desired (too loud, too crowded, too much). A hair late to join us for our meal, Chicago Carl came and picked me up and took me by Miss Jesse Dean’s hair salon where he currently works to see owner Jesse and my girl Arlene. Jesse decided she would join us later for some social time. Chicago Carl and I then went on to the Northside to enjoy some margaritas and cute waiters (for me) and food (for him as he hadn’t eaten yet) at Cesars (www.killermargaritas.com). Before we could enjoy our night at The Kit Kat Lounge - www.kitkatchicago.com (where Jesse and her girlfriend Veronica had committed to meet us), we had to pop through Starbucks (www.starbucks.com/) for some caffeine. Two Dallas-based students (a guy and a girl) – in town for a Spring Break Christian missionary trip – stopped by our table to say HI. I wondered – and asked them – if they were in “Boy’s Town” to deliver us from “evil”, they – non-judgmentally – said “No!” They say they were drawn to our warm energy and just wanted to chat. We talked to them about their studies and their work in Chicago – including serving the homeless at soup kitchens. Additionally, they asked us for life and career advice. I gifted them with a copy of a new-age tome (my favorite genre of literature) that Ant and I are reading right now (as well as the rest of the world) – ensuring that the words would not compromise their walk with Christ. In fact, I assured they would help to strengthen that bond and have it show up that much more brilliantly in their life and the world. With anticipated snowfall (and our delay due to our modern-day tent revival with the Dallas students), we got to Kit Kat Lounge too late to enjoy the show, which normally showcases a fierce female impersonator – tonight’s bill was headlined by Traci Ross who does an array of divas including Janet Jackson’s “Feedback”, but we missed it all. Still, “she” sat down and talked to all of us through the night and posed for pix. She was so pleasant and is very talented. Check out The Kit Kat Lounge website to learn more: www.kitkatchicago.com about when she’s on. On the heels of my work day Friday, it appeared that I might be stuck in Chi-town (due to snow) vs. being able to get to Vegas for another assignment. If I had been, I would have gotten to join Chicago Carl, Ki-Ki, Vince, and Ki-Ki’s good girlfriend Kim Coles (one of my favorite comic actresses who had just said goodbye to Chicago and the nation’s airwaves via I-Village, the recently canceled show she hosted for NBC via Chi-town - www.ivillage.com/) for the opening night of “Tyler Perry’s Meet The Browns” (www.meetthebrownsfilm.com/). I’m sure they had a blast, though a text from my nephew that it wasn’t his favorite of the Tyler Perry films gave me a gauge that it’s no “Why Did I Get Married?”, but when I do see it, I’m sure I’ll stumble into a giggle here and there (and perhaps a tear when the choir comes out at the end. I’m a sucker for a crescendo-ing, Gospel-tinged finale – not matter how cliché!!! SMILE!).

But Vegas was destined to be. The flight did get out of Chicago’s Midway, albeit a hair delayed. As soon as I walked into baggage claim, I saw a small crowd of tourists – excited to see somebody. At closer inspection, it was Mike Tyson. I waited for the drama to subside and I segued in to get my photo op. I introduced myself to him, sat right down next to him as one of the enthusiastic fans took our pic. He smelled so good. I mean, I was sniffing and sniffing, he smelled so good. He was quite even and centered (or perhaps medicated). But hands down, he was pleasant and it was quite a WELCOME TO LAS VEGAS. I had to get myself together around preps for the shoot, but once I did that, I got to enjoy my hotel The Venetian (www.venetian.com) where I’ve stayed before. With that, came a gondola ride, a little shopping – including a roll by Michael Jackson’s spot (from the 20/20 special: “I want one of those. I want one of those. I want one of those…That’s nice!”) Regis Galerie (www.regisgalerie.com/), an antique store that I’m sure attracts a whole, new pop client since he stepped foot via the lens of that special those years ago. Also, I went to Jack Gallery where they have the best pop art (www.s2art.com). In that moment (among many), I wished Ant was there with me as pop art is one of our favorite things to experience together. (Remember? Our great time in Vegas last August for The National Association of Black Journalists’ convention? - (www.nabj.org -
http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/8/13/audacity-of-hope-and-dreams-in-vegas.html). From there, I segued to The Palazzo (www.palazzolasvegas.com/) – new addition to The Venetian property (Miss Ross headlined the opening of this new, luxurious hotel a couple of months ago in January). I dined at the Palazzo’s Grand Lux Café (www.grandluxcafe.com/) before going back to my suite to get ready for work the following morning. All went well in Vegas (would have loved to stay a little while longer as Fergie – www.fergie.blackeyedpeas.com - was performing at the Mandalay Bay that night. Ant loves her!).

Well, home on the red eye. It’s Easter Sunday, a morning that produced many check-ins from my ‘original Amazing Grace’ Natalie, my ‘daily Amazing Grace’ Nichole, and another BFF from Morehouse Mike. I just thought they were making sure I made it back and wishing me a Happy Holiday. But at closer reflection, I realized they were all making sure memories of Easter Sunday 2005 weren’t keeping me down. That’s the day that Kodjoe died (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/10/25/love-is-in-the-air.html). Because the news of his passing came before I had a chance to experience the day as Easter, the holiday doesn’t always trigger me sad and mournful (That may too be because the date hasn’t come yet. It was March 27). But my friends just wanted to be sure as – truth be told – you never know with me as I am quite emotional and sensitive (I did have a good ol’ cry on the plane as I listened to my Jennifer Holliday’s gospel album from 1994 (“On & On” - www.myspace.com/thejenniferholliday\).

With that, I had a beautiful day with Anthony. We slept in and caught up with each other as – remember? – I had just landed from Las Vegas. Then, we accepted Ern’s invite to join he and our good girlfriend Danielle for an Easter Sunday Dinner at “Delta’s” (www.deltarestaurant.com) – celebrating the spirit of the south with fine Southern cuisine. THEY AIN’T NEVER LIE!!! (Slang for: “THEY ARE TELLING THE TRUTH!”). Everything was so good – from the fish and grits to the catfish fingers to the short ribs to the cocktails. You should recall Danielle from when I recommended her to my “superstar” girlfriend Mara Schiavocampo ((now a digital correspondent for NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams (www.nightly.msnbc.com)). Mara was doing a piece on interracial dating. Danielle has been dating a white guy Bernard for the last five years. They are in love!

(http://video.msn.com/?mkt=en-US&brand=msnbc&vid=b679062f-6e5f-4c96-beef-d618daca0591) and (http://video.msn.com/?mkt=en-US&brand=msnbc&vid=86f005d2-227d-49cc-8933-816360249d3b). Also, it was Danielle’s first time meeting Anthony. They got along splendidly. I also didn’t realize to what degree Danielle is “Six Degrees from many things Pop Culture”. The random flow of classic and contemporary pop and R&B played lightly in the air – giving the ambiance of being in New York City during the ‘90s at “The Shark Bar” or “B. Smith” (though we were in New Brunswick, New Jersey). At one point, Beyonce’s “Kissing You” came on (One of Ant’s and my favorites by Des’Ree from “Romeo & Juliet” - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXtiqJCzgHs). We found out that Des’Ree is her godsister. (Maybe we can get Danielle to find her for us when we need to book a wedding singer. That would be cool, right?). Then, we found out she is cousins removed and departed from songwriter Barry Eastmond – known for his hits for Anita Baker, Patti LaBelle, etc. (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/1/9/pat-on-a-hot-tin-roof.html). Afterwards, Danielle’s Bernard made us some wonderful martinis with Frangelica in it. We laughed, compared notes on all things TIVO and TV. Then, we went home.

At blog entry time, our week ends where it began – with Dominic San Juan – celebrating his Big 3-0. We weren’t able to attend his big party on Saturday night as Ant was working on an assignment in Jersey and I was flying over from Vegas. Dominic had a casual dinner on this day (which was the actual birthday) and we joined a good dozen to celebrate him over sushi, sake, and other modern Japanese cuisine, “Blue Ginger”. It was good! He pulled together a wonderful array of good energy and we all basked in it.

Of course, for all that I did do this week, I missed many things I would have attended were it not for the travel. Let me shout some of them out here:

1. My platonic boo Carl Nelson and Kamala Cesar (www.lotusmusicanddance.org) invited us out to a press conference to announce plans around his upcoming event “Drums Along The Hudson 2008” (www.drumsalongthehudson.org). I’ve blogged about it before. Please come on out! The Sixth Annual Drums Along the Hudson: A Native American Festival and Shad Fest will take place on Saturday May 3rd, 2008 in Northern Manhattan's Inwood Hill Park at 218th Street, 4 blocks West of Broadway, from 11am to 6pm, rain or shine. This event is open to the public and is sponsored in part by Lotus Music & Dance, JPMorgan Chase, the New York City Department of Cultural Affairs, the New York City Department of Parks and Recreation, Hudson River Foundation and WABC-TV
2. I too missed an event put on last week by friend and publicist/social activist/author Terrie Williams (www.terriewilliams.com). Her new book is "Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting” (Scribner), a wake-up call to Black folks on depression. And on March 18, she hosted a “Day of Healing” in Harlem. My friend Michael attended and said it was really nice. For more information, go to: www.thestaystrongfoundation.org.
3. My friend Marlynn has been working on a collection of erotic stories for Men of Color. He read one of those stories at the "Reading for Filth" series at Rapture
   Cafe & Bar in the East Village (Manh)! Ant went to support on behalf of our household and says he had a great time. CONGRATS MARLYNN!!!
4. We got an invite to the release party for Diddy’s group Danity Kane (www.danitykane.com/) It was at ‘tenjune’ (www.tenjunenyc.com/) in the meatpacking district. Congrats girls! Congrats DIDDY!
5. My Chandra’s old boss Juanita Stephens (from their days Warner Brothers Music) called me. She’s still doing publicity (but in Atlanta) and Chandra recommended she call me regarding placement for a couple of her clients at the NABJ Convention this year in Chicago (www.nabj.org or www.unityjournalists.org/):

· Lalah Hathaway is back with a new album titled, "Self Portrait," due in stores on June 3 via the newly-revived Stax Records label (www.lalahhathaway.com/). The release is Lalah’s fourth solo project and brings her together once again with producer Rex Rideout, who served as the producer of the 2004 Grammy-nominated Luther Vandross tribute album, “Forever, For Always, For Luther.” Hathaway's track on the project, "Forever, For Always, For Love,” was the first No. 1 single of her career. The first single, “Let Go,” is a mid-tempo track written by Hathaway and co-produced with Rideout.

· To celebrate the 50^th Anniversary of The Impressions, the documentary “Movin’ OnUp: The Music and Message of Curtis Mayfield & The Impressions” is being released on DVD soon. The two-hour film tells the incredible story of one of R&B’s most important and iconic groups. Also included in the documentary are 22 complete, vintage performances from The Impressions and Curtis Mayfield’s solo career filmed between 1965 and 1973.

COMING UP: My friend Ken Roberson (choreographer extraordinaire) sits on the Board of Trustees for “Our Time” Theatre Company Board of Trustees (www.ourtimetheatre.org). This non-profit organization provides an artistic home for young people who stutter. Its 6^th annual benefit gala “Lean On Me” is coming up and it honors musical legend Bill Withers, who I ran into several months back at an event for artist Ernie Barnes (www.billwithers.com/).