A DAY IN "THE LIFE OF RILEY"

I’ve referenced Whitney Houston’s hairstylist and weaver Ellin Lavar ( www.ellinlavar.com/ ) before in the blog. I’ve mentioned having interviewed her before. Well, her second season of “Hair Trauma” ( www.wetv.com/shows/details/SH008536760000 ) is on and she and her siblings/co-workers are at it again. Meanwhile, Ki-Ki and I did a 2^nd day together in New York City – a day where fashion and – most in particular – HAIR ruled!!!! The day started – however – with “soul food” as prepared by Amy Ruth (www. amyruthsharlem.com/ ). Ki-Ki had the brainchild that we should host our good girlfriend Lindz (from Chicago by way of St. Louis) and her boo Eric (from St Louis) on a Harlem Tour – starting with Chicken and Waffles. After we caught up with all that Lindz and Eric had done on this - their first trip to New York City, I had to stop by Amy Ruth’s celebrity wall of fame and pose with MISS ROSS, who was on the wall alongside many soul greats. Then, my friends at N (www. nharlemnewyork.com/ ) opened up their store (which is normally closed on Mondays) just for me to share their awesome inventory. All of the owners Nikoa, Lenn, and Larry were there. They had already pulled special pieces in the ladies’ sizes. It was a class act! Both Ki-Ki and Lindz were pleased with their findings. And Eric found some things as well. And of course, I couldn’t be in the store without taking a piece (though this particular purchase was for Anthony, who couldn’t join us as he had to work). We soon filled our our N shopping quota. From there, we spent the day together – highlighting Harlem’s landmarks. Though we were planning to go to “Century 21” on Wall Street (so Ant could pop by and say HI as his work was in that area), Lindz, Eric, and I decided to pop by our friend Ted Gibson’s salon (www.tedgibsonsalon.com/) to say HI!. His clients include and/or have included Anne Hathaway and Angelina Jolie. And he and I share the month of November as our birthday month (“Scorpio in the HOUSE!!!”). One minute we were visiting. The next minute, Ted was looking at Lindz’s locks and salivating at them. He wanted to chop some of her tresses off. Meanwhile, Ted’s partner Jason (also his colorist), wanted to lighten her hair up a bit. At this point, Eric just stood by and supported. I enjoyed the stellar hospitality of Ted's staff - from cappuccinos to white wine to gift bags. Anthony would come on to join us at the salon – so that we could see the BIG FINISH! The pictures speak for themselves! Lindz was gorgeous! And TED is truly THE BEST (not just for what he can do with a pair of scissors in a woman’s hair...  ...but because he is – hands down – one of the nicest guys I know). He, Jason, Ant, and I are excited to hang out more in 2008 and become the BFFs we’re destined to be. SMILE!

I got a call from Publicist Win Wilford, asking me to come out to the Village Underground ( www.thevillageunderground.com/ ) to check out his new artist Charlotte Doreen Small ( www.myspace.com/charlottedoreensmall ). Additionally, my friend Terrance Russ called to see if I could make it as well. Terrance brought Win to me earlier this year when I edited the “We Are Luther (Vandross)” article for UNeQ Magazine ( www.uneqmagazine.com/ ). Win, who was an entertainment manager & Vice President of Press Information and Artist Affairs at Epic Records, worked with Luther in the early ‘80s. He said: ““I AM LUTHER” because I was able to establish a connection with him in the way in which I was able to help launch his career. When you play a part in someone’s life - especially someone as special as he, I am grateful to have had the opportunity to work with him and I will never forget that. I enjoyed working with Luther because a lot of artist can be difficult and Luther was not. The things you asked him to do he didn’t have a problem doing them. Once it was explained to him, we tried to achieve it and - at that time - it was exposure. “WE ARE LUTHER””. He added that “There are so many songs, I can’t choose one. But I liked his first track “NEVER TOO MUCH” because it paved the way for everything. It was a great song and a great production, but there were so many others that I really loved. I also enjoyed him covering other singers’ songs because a lot of people can do that, but a lot people can’t cover songs and make it there own.” Now, what you may not remember about Win Wilford is he is the ex-husband of Debbie Allen, who is currently directing an all-star cast of African American actors in the all-black revival of Tennessee Williams' "Cat on a Hot Tin Roof". It will make its Broadway debut on March 7 with stars James Earl Jones, Phylicia Rashad, Terrence Howard and Anika Noni Rose. The Broadhurst Theatre will house the classic piece, which originally featured Burl Ives (“Frosty the Snowman”), Barbara Bel Geddes, and a host of others. Preview performances are set to begin Feb. 12.

BUT I DIGRESS: I didn’t get a chance to attend the Village Underground event to see Charlotte Doreen Small. But Anthony and I popped open her CD and enjoyed the mix of pop, jazz, R&B, and Gospel that is infused throughout the CD “More” written by 30-time Gold-record recipients V. Jeffrey Smith and Peter Lord. The collection is inspired by the events of September 11, 2001. Please check her out. It’s a perfect stocking stuffer ( www.myspace.com/charlottedoreensmall ). Another stocking stuffer that I rented for Ant and me to view from Hollywood Video ( www.hollywoodvideo.com/ ) was “Redrum”, a dark comedy featuring Jill Marie Jones (“Girlfriends”), Jennifer Lewis, and Terri J. Vaughn. In Kenny Young’s directorial and co-writing debut, he explores the dynamics of a timid, overly reserved couple which, after all conventional attempts at “cutting loose” stumbles upon the rush of murder after a fatal, accidental incident. Lured by the thrill, the husband and wife enter into a hilarious killing spree. “Redrum” is the latest offering from production-company-on-the-rise, Griot Filmworks. Helmed by Phil James, the company sprang into existence with its first project “One Week” which won Best Film as well as the Lincoln Filmmaker Trophy Award. at the Acapulco Black Film Festival (2000). As Chair of the National Association of Black Journalists, I got to preview “One Week” at our convention in Orlando, Florida. Anthony and I enjoyed the quirky film, but would really enjoy seeing Jill Marie Jones return to “Girlfriends” before all is said and done. ARE YOU LISTENING, MY DEAR ‘GIRLFRIEND’ MARA BROCK-AKIL? Meanwhile, keep doing the best you can with our Monday night treasures “Girlfriends” ( www.cwtv.com/shows/girlfriends ) and “The Game” ( www.cwtv.com/shows/the-game )!!!

Of course, you folks know I’m opening things up - as far as my career goes – for new things to show up. Right alongside feeling a hair off center at the not-knowing of it all, I am trusting that my walk into destiny is NOW. When Ant and I happened upon the Charging Bull (sometimes called the Wall Street Bull or the Bowling Green Bull) near Wall Street, we played around with the 7-thousand pound, bronze sculpture. Ant loved it as he is a Taurus (sometimes stubborn). I loved it as well. It - for both of us (to me) - represents 'steely determination' - a symbol of aggressive, financial optimism, and prosperity, leaning back on its haunches and with its head lowered as if ready to charge.

Already, actually, GOD is showing up and showing out:

* I’ve taken some time to update my TALENT/PRODUCER reel which composites much of my independent work over the last few years.

http://216.117.188.141/PatrickRileyGeneral.wmv

The excerpts include:

1. Pilot “tvQ”, which I co-hosted a couple of years ago. Just got word from Hurricane Productions that they want to repackage this “queer-eye-meets-the-view” fest and try to sell it again with me attached. Could be a great thing!

2. “Our World with Black Enterprise” – hosted by Ed Gordon on which I weigh in as pop culture pundit ( www.blackenterprise.com/mediacenter/ourworld.asp )

3. Featured on “Access Hollywood” ( www.accesshollywood.com/ ), I introduce Samuel L. Jackson at a Las Vegas screening for the National Association of Black Journalists (www.nabj.org)

4. Also in Vegas, I hosted an event for the “Disney Dreamer’s Academy” (www. steveharvey.com/disneysdreamersacademy/ ) featuring Steve Harvey, actress Victoria Rowell, Chef Jeff, “High School High”s Monique Coleman, and George Wallace. Steve just announced the New York City-area kids who will participate in this program in January.

5. An event I hosted for BOOST MOBILE and LIVE NATION called “Music Biz 101” featuring ?uestlove and MC Lyte. ( www.musicbiz101contest.com/ )

6. ESPN 2’s “Cold Pizza” (www. espn.go.com/eoe/pti.html ) on which I narrate a makeover for the green Masters jacket.

7. TLC’s “The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly”, a special I hosted a couple of years ago.

8. A couple of fashion segments I hosted for I-STYLE TV and I-NEXTV.COM (“Cheap but Chic” and “Ready, Set, Shop!”)

9. Stand up for NBC 4 during a CD signing for Jennifer Lopez, who I interviewed for NBC 4’s “Puerto Rican Day Parade” special

10. For HBO, I have done many entertainment/movie junkets. Here, I include my Gwyneth Paltrow and Michael Douglas clips.

11. For LEVI’s Self-Engineered Tour a few years ago, I went on the road with “The Roots” to interview celebrity participants, including Sean Patrick Thomas.

12. During Tavis Smiley’s reign on BET Tonight, I was often used as a pop culture pundit. I feature a couple of those excerpts, including “Blacks on Hollywood” and “Rappers becoming Actors” with Master P.

13. “Good Morning America” series on “Friendship” – featuring my dinner group, “The Penatavaurate”.

14. I produced and narrated the marketing and highlights videos for the then-Acapulco Black Film Festival ( www.abff.com/ )

WITH THAT, I’m poised to make some new impressions in 2008. I’ve booked a handful of days in the New Year with www.att.com/techchannel (as on-cam talent) for three segments in which I'll oversee makeovers - turning three "computer geeks" to "chic" (yet user-friendly for their technical gigs). In addition to this, there may be more on-camera and field producing work for me with AT&T. STAY TUNED!

I’ve already gotten great feedback from some network bookers, who are interested in folding me into their rolodexes to weigh in on pop culture. No funds per se on this tip (off the top, at least), but this is a good piece for branding.

My book project “BIG WILLIES and AMAZING GRACES: gay men and their best girlfriends” is still in need of a "high-profile" presence before one particular publisher gives it a green light. But I’m heatedly pursuing that person to support this collection of conversations between the men and women who fit this paradigm. Calling KELLY RIPA!!!! Calling ANNE HATHAWAY!!! Calling DEBRA MESSING!!!! Anybody out there know them…?

And as I navigate my own WHAT’S NEXT?????, I am clear that I am not alone in this pursuit. My Anthony, of course, has been on the market since he moved here back in March. And as he still hopes to land that big gig, he’s attracting projects here and there that are supporting the livelihood piece while making sure that he doesn’t lose sight of his creativity goals – from the world of production and journalism to art. He’s even supporting me in getting my own PILOT off the ground (Stay tuned for that… as we develop our game plan!). Additionally, as I look, we are stumbling into work that is a good fit for him (and he’s taken a day or two of applicable work from my own search and projects). So, truly, it’s all WORKING!!!!

Meanwhile, before much of this transition talk, my Morehouse brother Welborn Preston asked if I would be willing to come down to Atlanta and meet Kelci Stringer, widow of Korey Stringer, Minnesota Vikings offensive lineman who died from a heatstroke at the team’s training camp six years ago. As she looks forward to being done with the varied lawsuits that abound in the wake of her late husband’s passing, she too is readying a memoir titled “Football Widow” (due out Spring 2008). Additionally, she’s got such a sassy and intellectual personality, the airwaves are longing for her presence. Well, that’s what my friend Preston thought. And since he knew that I too have experienced horrible loss and that I navigate as a similarly-tagged personality (and producer) in the business, he thought Kelci and I would hit it off. They flew me in on the evening before our meeting and put me up at the historic “Georgian Terrace” ( www.TheGeorgianTerrace.com ). My sister Janice and her husband Vincent picked me up from the airport. We went to “Waffle House” ( www.wafflehouse.com/ ) for some comfort food (My choice as I don’t have access to this Southern staple in New York City). I knew I was in the right place as I walked into the elegantly decorated lobby because my Diana Ross and her Supremes were singing “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Me” from the intercom system. It wasn’t “My Favorite Things” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KztJpqRVHEI) but anything from Ross and her Christmas catalogue is alright with me. I stayed in a spacious suite, giving me the best night’s rest ever (though I did get on with Anthony – so he could play the new Janet Jackson [“Feedback”] from over the phone). Come morning, Preston picked me up and took me to one of my favorite franchises The Oceanaire Seafood Room ( www.theoceanaire.com/ ), though I’d not been to the Atlanta location. Fresh seafood is what it’s all about in any of the locations nationwide, but what sets Atlanta’s Oceanaire apart from its siblings is “the shrimp and grits” appetizer with Aged Cheddar and Bacon Cracklings Bibb & blue cheese. UNBELIEVABLY tasty… and filling, though I still made room for a Caesar salad with two lump crab cakes atop it. Over wine and sweet tea, Kelci, Preston, and I bonded further – truly identifying that there are synergies between us all that may lead to a kindred working relationship in the near future. Also, I saw a likeness between Kelci and the late, great Diana Sands, who has been a pop-culture muse for me since I saw her as Beneatha in “A Raisin in the Sun”. I’ve seen all of her film-work after that… and her TV turn as Diahann Carroll’s cousin in “Julia”. In fact, she was filming the lead role “Claudine” when she fell out on the set. She would die from a brain tumor weeks later. Diahann Carroll would inherit the role and be nominated for an Academy Award. Kelci and Preston are mapping out a project plan (as am I). And we will look at what those alliances will be very soon. But it promises to be fulfilling, lucrative, and fun (as Kelci too plans to move to New York City).

So YES! THE POSSIBILITIES abound and the aforementioned evidence is but an excerpt of my what's-to-come. THANK YOU ALL for your LOVE and your PRAYERS and your SUPPORT – knowing that I will be reaching out with more follow ups as this journey continues.

Meanwhile, I must shout out many of my colleagues who are out here in the trenches – inventing and re-inventing themselves… brilliantly!!!:

1. My Tata, her fiancé Jules Sawadogo, Ant, and I went to our friend Quincy Ballon’s new art/design & furniture gallery qb ( www.galleryqb.com/ ) in Dumbo (Brooklyn). The new exhibit he is presenting is called “I DIDN'T KNOW YOU HAD A HEAD UNTIL YOU ATTACHED THAT ARM TO IT, Works by Doug Groupp. William Johnson was the curator. And a host of Quincy’s friends, including “Inside Edition” Managing Editor Kevin Harry who Quincy introduced to Anthony and me regarding career possibilities. We are so proud of all Quincy is creating and the energy with which he’s surrounding himself. (After our gallery time, Tata, Jules, Ant, and I continued our double date at Negril Restaurant ( www.negrilvillage.com/faq.html )).
2. My friend Gil Roberston ( www.robertsontreatment.com/ ) has a client with whom he wanted me to meet on the synergy tip. It’s Myles Reed Jr., author of “Fishing for Love on the Net” (http://www.fishingforlove.net). We met at Houston’s for quick drinks and chat. He has spent nearly fifteen years observing, strategizing, and marketing for corporate America. A former CPA, Myles is now looking at branding himself an expert for all things “internet dating”. It seems he is on his way and you should look out for him in 2008.
3. My friend Yolanda Young, renowned columnist for USA TODAY and beyond, has launched her video blog. Check it out www.yolandayoung.com.
4. And my Ti-Ti has a new documentary on “Education in America” on the CURRENT TV site ( www.current.com ). So PROUD OF HER! Check it out!
5. I met Patricio last year at the EMERY Awards ( www.emeryafterparty.org/ ) which benefits The Hetrick-Martin Institute, Home of The Harvey Milk High School, which teaches a number of gay and lesbian teens. He does mural art that is often folded into interior spaces (www.imuriinternational.com/port08.index.html). This year, he’s been working with photographer Dah-Len, creating pieces for photo shoots and for the set of Dangerous Muse’s latest music video. He designed and installed the backdrop for the Emery Awards this year (Cyndi Lauper performed in front of it). Through SPACE107, he has produced furniture and paintings. I look forward to catching up with Patricio in 2008.
6. I met hat designer Jennifer Ouellette ( www.jenniferouellette.com/ ) at one of Patricio’s parties. She did all of the hats for Tracy Reese’s show over Fashion Week back in October ( www.tracyreese.com/ ). Well, her own store opens this week. And some of her award-winning work can be yours for 25% off. CONGRATS JENNIFER!
7. As I walked into Gym, a gay sports bar in Chelsea ( www.gymsportsbar.com/ ), the young man at the door extends a smile to me that felt like it was just for me. As I quickly walk by (as I simply need to pop in here to pee), I do a second take. He’s still looking. When I finish my business, I come back out and he’s still looking. I’m with my man at the time, so it’s less a “cruise” and more a “curiosity” as he’s looking at me like he knows me. I cut through the clandestine and introduce myself. He replies “I’m Marco”. It meant nothing - meaning I didn't know him. I didn't continue the conversation, but found him quite friendly and sweet. I’ve seen him a handful of times since that first moment (over the last five months) and am blown away at something I just uncovered. He’s Demarco Majors – a former ABA professional basketball player, who was reportedly kicked out of the ABA based on a rumor that he was gay. He didn’t deny it, according to interviews I’ve seen him do, because he is gay. He’s now out in the mix discussing the challenges of being an out gay ex-professional basketball player. And I would LOVE to chat him up for a future blog on his interesting life, which includes a transition from sports into modeling. And he is one of the guys in Beyonce's "Freakum Dress" video. CONGRATS! Keep doing your thing!

After my good friend Michael K. Watts and I had the chance to catch up at my favorite watering hole Houston’s (www.hillstone.com/). With much of what Michael has been managing in his life, it was necessary that we chat and he get the opportunity to bounce some of it off of me. From the death of his grandmother to the death of a best friend’s mother and a number of other interestingly-timed losses, Michael has been a difference to everyone. Though this was a belated birthday dinner (from Michael to me), I hope my pair of listening ears were a gift to him.

In addition to the aforementioned losses that Michael has been dealing with, I also got word that another colleague lost her mother unexpectedly. I sent some words of sympathy and encouragement to her. Perhaps it can support some of you out there who may be dealing with the same. I understand the shocking loss of a mother all too well. Been in the club for 13 years, 4 months, 24 days, and counting. And truly, it's been a time without her... and still. Just recently, my loving father, whose mom (my grandmother) lived to be 95, said to me - as he was reflecting on my age (As you know, I just had a birthday) and how "his baby" (me) is "37!!!!!" As he was lightheartedly wrapping his brain around that fact, he said "... and do you know MY MOTHER lived to be 94 and saw her baby boy (dad's younger brother) turn 64!!!! Isn't that a blessing?????" Surely, on its own merit, that is a blessing. A beautiful thing, even! But my Dad (who had his mom until she was 95 and he was in his late '60s) didn't get my extra-sensitivity around that statement as I was 23 and my mom was 54 when she died. Dad didn't mean anything nefarious by it, but on the face of it, it didn't make me feel so great as I have always felt a bit MARKED for having lost my mother so young... and yet I know that there is no "good" age or time to lose a loved one - especially a mother. With that, I shared with my colleague the following entry I submitted in 2002 for a collection on "Aunts" (and subsequently included in my BLOG last year). It tells the story of losing my mom... and the sister she left behind. My hope is it lands for my friend sooner than later that she is not alone... and I (and I'm sure a number of others... regrettably) get it too:

"AUNTIE MARY LEE"

Also, as many of you know, I too lost a partner Kodjoe in March 2005. Like losing my mom, it was devastating. But at this point in my life, I made some different choices inside of my grief - including keeping certain commitments that were a stand for Kodjoe's legacy. That included an intimate evening of song I was scheduled to perform before he shockingly passed away via a heart attack (Singing is a sidelight for me). With that, I - a few days after his funeral - went about performing a sold-out show (chock full of family and friend support) at "The Duplex" in the Village in Manhattan. It was rough as I lost just about all of my rehearsal time inside the preps for funeral, etc. The night of the little cabaret, my rhythm section (along with - I'm sure - Kodjoe) carried me to have it not be a "perfect" performance, but just what it was supposed to be. It was the beginning of my healing and - not even when I was looking - love found me again (on the opening night of "Color Purple") via my Anthony with whom I'm celebrating two years of a committed relationship. So, light does show up out of darkness - even when we can't see it. With that, I offered my friend a copy of that special evening of song, which I share here with you now:

http://216.117.188.141/rileyshowforkodjoe.wmv

I performed "A Song For You" (prelude)... Luther Vandross' "Never Too Much"... Elton John's "Something About the Way You Look Tonight"... BLUES MEDLEY featuring "I Guess That's Why They Call It The Blues"; "Good Morning Heartache", and "I Can't Make You Love Me"... my tribute to KODJOE: "A Song For You"/"Wind Beneath My Wings"... and "SMILE" (one of Kodjoe's favorites).

ONE MORE THING THAT COMFORTED ME DURING THAT TIME (cut and paste below). It was Yolanda Adams’ “Fragile Heart”:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JERlnYSb_ag

Yolanda Adams – “Fragile Heart”

Verse 1:

I remember the first timeYou laughed with me

I remember the promisesYou would never leave my side

Now I'm standin' with news of a tragedy

Standin' here with a fragile heart

See I never shed a tear. Stayed strong for them.

When everybody disappears, it's only you that keeps me strong

I can't imagine goin' on Without you in my life

Goin' on with a fragile heart

Chorus:

When I think about, think about life Lord I think of you

I forget about everything else

There's only you and I can't think about ever giving up

Ever giving up the fight

The only thing that matters lord is you

Verse 2:

I ain't got no time to pretend That I'm not missin' you

I know you're in good hands

The same hands that hold my heart

And I'll cherish every moment that we've spent

As a gift from God above'cause he takes care of all fragile hearts

Chorus 2:

When I think about, think about life

Lord I think of you

I forget about everything else

There's only you and I can't think about ever givin' up

Ever givin' up the fight

The only thing that matters When I'm goin' thru

I'm giving my fragile heart right back to you

Bridge:

You see my fragile heart's been broken

And you're the only one Who can put it all together again

So I'm trusting you lord to see me thru(vamp out)

Best and Love,

Patrick

 

Pinch me and let me know when this DREAM is going to end. The highs are celestial. The lows are seemingly unbearable. (a la a NIGHTMARE). But it all plays out as a part of this DREAM that is my LIFE.

These last couple of weeks presented me some amazing chances to experience LIFE joyfully – from Ant’s and my wonderful Thanksgiving at the home of our favorite couple Jason and Marqice. Then, there's my  excitement around my ‘pop culture’ icon Diana Ross as she’s being honored tonight for the Kennedy Center Honors (http://www.kennedy-center.org/programs/specialevents/honors/), a franchise I’ve admired since appearing myself on the program in 1991 as a featured part of the Morehouse College Glee Club’s tribute ( www.mcgclub.com/ ) to Atlanta Symphony Orchestra and Chorus conductor and composer Robert Shaw ( www.atlantasymphony.org ). Additionally, as I write this, Ant and I have just celebrated our 2^ND Anniversary on December 1^st, the night we met on the opening night of “The Color Purple”. It was magical for many reasons and the magic continues. ( www.colorpurple.com/ ). As a result, we chose to kill two birds with one stone by checking in for a night of celebration and reflection at THE DREAM HOTEL ( www.dreamny.com/ ) where two years ago we first bonded uninterrupted (beyond the rustle-and-bustle of the red carpet and after-party that night). Since that time, we’ve stayed there for much of Ant’s business before he moved here (including a life-changing [for me] interview Ant conducted last December with the writer of all “Dreamgirls” music Henry Krieger). In addition to our celebration, our suite was the backdrop for a photo shoot we agreed to do in support of my friend Charlie T’s “Just As We Are” project”. It chronicles gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgenders and aims to show us as normal working citizens within mainstream America (http://www.justaswearetour.org

). That went beautifully. But more about all of this in a moment…(By the way, CHARLIE T - www.charlietphotography.net) provided 10 snapshots of Ant, Charlie, her partner, and me from that photo shoot (behind-the-scenes and some test shots), which are sprinkled throughout this entry! THANKS CHARLIE!!!!!!)

Like Miss Ross sings in her 1985, Daryl-Hall-penned hit “Swept Away”, “… nothing lasts forever!!!!…” and inside of that, there can be disappointments and challenges. In fact, it is she who – as always - inspired me immensely this week during an unexpected development in my own life as she appeared this past Wednesday on CNBCs “Conversations with Michael Eisner” ( http://www.cnbc.com/id/15840232?video=601943235 ). Speaking of her own BIG DREAMS (like 1983’s “Central Park” Concert in the rain and the day after to build a playground in Central Park and around the world), she highlighted – for her life – that “… life is peaks and valleys. It’s not always up. You’re not just going straight up all the time. It’s ups and downs. At the moment, when you’re at the low point, if you can learn from that experience… and then teach…” She went on to say “… I don’t do what I do for the money. I think wanting to make a life. Not a living. It’s like creating a wonderful life. And my values are in the right place. Learning I think – during all of the peaks and valleys of your life – learning to take RESPONSIBILITY for yourself and not blaming others is such an important lesson to learn regardless of where you get it from… BEING RESPONSIBLE for your actions, BEING RESPONSIBLE for your choices, and not blaming others. So…your success or your failure, you know that you’ve made the choices for how you’re going to live from day to day”. And though she’s at a peak in her career (being honored this weekend by the Kennedy Center), she too is managing grief as her father recently passed away – a detail she announced on the evening of the day he died as she performed to a sold-out audience – including Berry Gordy – at the Gibson Amphitheater show in Los Angeles). Miss Ross – in this setting (and in her life) - reminds me to trust that I am enough to manage the “valleys” and the “mountains”. And in fact, it is Diana who often says in her concert, “Go for your DREAMS! Reach and they’re yours…” I believe her and need to believe her more than ever at this time… that I can “… reach and touch the stars!!!”. I stumbled into some news this past week that deflated my wings a bit and impacts a bit of how I’ve managed my career as an independent producer/personality/writer over the last few years. As most of you know, I am blessed to have some high-profile and lofty contracts on which I can rely to keep my modest-but-active lifestyle afloat. In a nutshell, one of those contracts (the most lucrative in my portfolio) is coming to an end. TAKE A BREATH!!! It doesn’t mean I won’t continue to lend my services to this operation, but due to economics (and shifts in production needs and budgets), the retainer I’ve negotiated myself for the last six years is expiring. With that, it has been made clear that my skills and my good work are still valued and they do not intend to sever the relationship with me. But I just won't be retained – starting next year. That means, if they call, I can say YES or NO... freely... and only be paid for the work I do. The initial thought of this makes me nervous as I don’t really have a savings in place for such rainy days (if they present themselves) as I had agreed to two more years to contribute to this particular operation. Moreover, after being such an in-demand commodity whose work and way have been celebrated and cherished here and the world over, the REALITY of it all does touch the ego and make me feel a bit unwanted, rejected, and sad. Not that I haven’t been designing and lining up my own WHAT’S NEXTs? over these last few years, but – in my mind – I thought it would be me SHIFTING. Here, these folks shifted first and though hard to hear (at first listen), I THANK THEM because now I am free to redirect some of that 'retained' energy towards those efforts - things that have been bubbling under the radar i.e. on-camera work, pilots I’ve hosted that may be resurrected for future sale, a book project that we hope will close on a deal soon, etc. As I’ve had most of my other eggs in that one basket, I now can begin the work of searching for and accepting other opportunities that play my talents as a producer, personality, and writer. Without the safety net, I am – again – admittedly scared, but I know this is MY GOD and the UNIVERSE’s way of supporting me to dive into my destiny. That’s what my good friend Sherry told me (after I’d vulnerably shared some tears with her from the not-knowing of it all): “…My Sunshine!! I trust that you gave yourself last night to get a good cry in and I know Anthony and his shoulder were the comfort you needed. As a good friend of mine (Patrick Riley) so jubilantly proclaims in all situations "IT'S A NEW DAY!" Receive that my love! It is a NEW DAY and it is yours! God gave it to you to make of it what you were put on this earth to do! This was not a good-bye for you. This was God's way of simplifying and organizing things for you. There can be no ties, restraints, contracts or binders in the way to block His blessings. When God says it is your time, then it is so. My friend, I believe God is saying ‘This is your time!’. So, as uncomfortable and unfamiliar as it may feel, LET HIS WILL BE DONE, as we have heard and learned "God dreams a bigger dream for us!!!". Patrick, live out God's dream for your life. Trust and believe it is so much bigger than Patrick's DREAM! To everything, there is a season!! Receive this as your season for change, growth and favor! I am excited right now because seeing God work in your life right now tells me if he is blessing my friends, he is in the neighborhood and I am praising him right now for the new things on the horizon for all of us!! I love you madly!! You are such a blessing and I am honored to call you friend!! “  How blessed am I to have friends like Sherry, who always “… loves me in a special way…” (a line I love to use for her – pointedly – as she is the cousin of one of my favorite groups DEBARGE!!!!). Daddy’s wife, another Diana, writes: “… Let's keep things in perspective. You are blessed and highly favored. Regardless of the slings and arrows that life throws our way, we are who we are. If you know who and whose you are, maintain that posture and position at all times. You may be a bit shaken at this moment, but Keep the Faith . You will be fine, because this too shall pass.

That brain of yours is awesome. Now you will get a chance to show what YOU can really do.

Financially, cut back from this moment forward, and put yourself on an austerity budget until you see where you are going.

We are here for you… “ Lovely sentiments like that have helped me to move through the emotions and get to acting on my blessings. Already, I’ve seen GOD and UNIVERSE at work – responding to my REQUESTS to keep pushing my creativity out into the world and make a – GOOD LIFE – for my family, my Anthony, and myself along the way.

Here’s an excerpt of what I have to offer (if you have any ideas of projects that are a good fit for the producer… personality… and writer that is me):

http://216.117.188.141/PRiley/PRileyGeneralReel.wmv

http://216.117.188.141/rileyshowforkodjoe.wmv

And whether on a retainer or off and as I go to the next level with career, I am so blessed to have such a GOOD LIFE and that goodness shows up all the time. And even as I struggle to discipline myself around budgeting and getting organized with home and lifestyle, I remind myself to acknowledge the many BLESSINGS that continue to come my way. And in my world and via the plain of pop culture that I love so much, I’m counting INFINTE BLESSINGS – everywhere I turn.

I have normally spent the last years since 2000 with my Nichole for Thanksgiving:

(http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/26/like-cranberry-sauce-a-bittersweet-thanksgiving.html)

(http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/27/sweetest-hangover-1-of-4.html)

(http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/27/dont-lose-the-feeling-that-we-have-2-of-4.html)

(http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/27/kkock-em-out-the-box-rick-3-of-4.html)

This year, she was in DC with her sister Tori and their mutual family down there. She invited me, but this was Ant’s and my chance to share in this special ‘family’ holiday together. Ant and I were graciously hosted by our favorite couple Jason and Marqice. They laid out a big spread that we enjoyed with our good buddy Marlynn (and a handful of others they invited). As always, they kept the champagne flowing and Jason’s banana pudding was awesome! I often yearn for home cooking (from Savannah) and though this wasn’t my family’s breakdown of a menu, the care and craftiness that Jason and Marqice put into their turkey, dressing, roast, etc. made both Ant and me know that we were loved and that family comes in many packages.

Beyond our time with Jason and Marqice, Ant and I mostly chilled. We supported the first weekend numbers for two movies: “This Christmas” ( www.sonypictures.com/movies/thischristmas/ ) which opened at #2 its opening weekend – a $27 million boost for Black film. Ant and I thought it was “alright”. We enjoyed looking at all of those faces of color in a positive, holiday film. Chris Brown – in his debut role as the baby boy of Loretta Devine – shows promise for the cliché turn that most singers make into acting. Ant enjoyed seeing one of his American Chang originals on the character Keith Robinson plays (www.americanchang.com/). And my Spelman sister Deshaunda Gooden-Warner’s husband Ronnie has a small role in the film as seen below with David Banner, who I had the chance to meet a couple of months ago during Hip Hop week. Ronnie and his business partner were also executive producers on the film. So, this film had much synergy in it… for me.

This ensemble project features Loretta Devine who also stars in another film – as mother of a clan of children – that we’re all excited is finally being released in some major cities here in America. You recall, I interviewed the director of this project Maurice Jamal ( www.myspace.com/mauricejamal ) last year this time for UneQ Magazine ( www.uneqmagazine.com/ ): http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/12/29/the-12-days-of-life-of-riley-at-christmas.html

And:

http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/4/10/ladies-and-b-boys-sing-the-blues.html

So this time, I’ll let Maurice’s recent words enroll you to check it out:

“…I couldn't be more excited (or nervous) as my film "Dirty Laundry" opens in Los Angeles and New York next week! It As you can imagine the energy, anticipation (and in my case, anxiety...LOL) is growing daily!

The film has been embraced with such warmth and joy by our sneak preview audiences and so many of you have been amazing. I am humbled by your support and could not be more proud of the film and its story.

"Dirty Laundry" needs you!”

Like all Black films in Hollywood, opening weekend is key. The only way we'll be successful is if we each push the film and get "butts in the seats." This supports diverse voices and images in Black cinema. For it to survive, it's vitally important for communities to support quality films at the box office.

Maurice has outlined THREE easy ways to support "Dirty Laundry"

1) The MOST important thing you can do is buy tickets!
Tix can be purchased at online ticket vendors such as Fandango, Movietickets and Moviefone. Get tickets in advance! Tickets will be available at the beginning of next week. If you cannot make it, buy tickets anyway! Your support is truly appreciated and every ticket makes a difference. Go to a matinee! We're encouraging our supporters to attend the matinees as they are a little harder to sell out.

2) Have a "Dirty Laundry" Movie Party!
Invite a big group of family and friends and come see the movie. The more the merrier! The cast and I will be at the LA screenings throughout opening weekend and would love to see you there.

3) Send out 2-3 e-mail blasts on November 30th, December 3rd and December 7th. You could simply forward this e-mail or you can make your own. (Make sure you have organizations that you're a member of include information about "Dirty Laundry" in their next e-mail blast or in a special blast!)

If you need any additional information:

www.dirtylaundrythemovie.com
myspace.com/mauricejamal
www.youtube.com/dirtylaundrythemovie
www.myspace.com/dirtylaundrymovie

DIRTY LAUNDRY IN THEATERS IN
OPENS: FRIDAY, DECEMBER 7, 2007

LOS ANGELES
Mann Beverly Center Cinemas (Inside Beverly Center)
8522 Beverly Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90038

NEW YORK
Clearview Chelsea Theater
West 23rd Street (b/t 7th & 8th)
New York, NY 10011

BUY TICKETS & SPREAD THE WORD

I had the chance to meet a few of the cast members alongside producer Nathan Hale Williams ( www.nathanhalewilliams.com/ ) at his Thursday night set SPRUNG which is for the Black LGBT set. The once-Luke-&-Leroy party is now in Chelsea at CLUB SPRUNG (579 Sixth Avenue @ 16^th Street). Nathan, too, is featured on the cover of NEXT MAGAZINE this week (www.nextmagazine.net). He talks about “Dirty Laundry” and the five years of promoting in New York City. Congratulations Nathan!

Ant, Marqice, Jason, Marlynn and I also spent one evening at the movies to see “The Mist” (www. movies.go.com/the-mist/d902025/horror ) – underwritten by my “original Amazing Grace” Natalie (from Atlanta). She sent an AMC gift card for my birthday. Thanks NAT! Not our favorite, but it was great to see Andre Braugher, a fine actor whose work I always love to see. The script didn’t give him much to play (nor did whatever was in the mist). I love to be spooked, especially by Stephen King’s twisted novels and screenplays. We had a few moments of fright, but nothing that Jason or Freddy couldn’t beat in their heyday. We got more amusement out of Ant posing with the poster for Mariah’s new fragrance (www.fragrance.mariahcarey.com/ ).

Ant and I also spent lots of time watching TV during our Thanksgiving break. We caught an infomercial on THE MIDNIGHT SPECIAL ( www.midnightspecial.com\ ) which from 1972 to 1981 brought late-night, adult viewers lots of joy with live performances from the best music and comedy had to offer. My Diana even did a turn as the hit show’s host in 1976. She sang “Love Hangover” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qbC8PQdZ2ag). She did a wonderful Motown medley (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUTgsevekII) that featured her background singers at the time The Jones Sisters, who would go on to be renowned in R&B (with Diana’s support) as The Jones Girls ( www.soulwalking.co.uk/Jones%20Girls.html ). Remember “Nights Over Egypt”? (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XSTXCxgU1-I). One of my favorite girl groups of the ’70s (along with Motown’s “High Energy”) during a time when girl groups were out of favor with the pop music scene. But as a boy, I still loved them.

We also stumbled into an episode of “Tyra” that intrigued us (www.tyrashow.warnerbros.com/ ). Less the show, but one of her guests Khefri Riley turned out to be an old friend of Tyra’s with whom Tyra wanted to clear the air about some deep-seated jealousy that the once-insecure model held towards Khefri. Near the end of the ‘ambush’, it was mentioned that Khefri is now an entrepreneur and yoga instructor in California at “Urban Goddess Lifestyle” ( home.earthlink.net/~khefri/id4.html ). It soon hit me that I had met Khefri before and that we have friends in common. In the ‘90s, she lived in London. My first trip over the pond in ’98 presented me the chance to stay with a young lady named Vanessa who was co-owner of a marketing firm (that inspired synergy between poets, artists, and the like) Mannafest ( www.poetrysociety.org.uk/content/archives/places/vanessa/ ). My friend Kevin Powell hooked me up with them. My friend Wale Adeyemi worked with them as well ( www.waleadeyemi.com/ ). Though Khefri, high school friend of Tyra, and I had never really met, we knew of each other. Our mutual friends often spoke of the fact that we have the same last name. Wale had told me Khefri moved back to Los Angeles, but we never hooked up. She was so happy I reached out to her. We had a great chat about all she’s doing. So, I wanted to make sure I shouted her out here. In addition to being a beauty beyond beauties (and the Black hasn’t cracked!!!), Khefri is the mother to 6 year old son Zen. She has her Pre-Natal Yoga Certification from Golden Bridge Yoga, is a Certified Itsy Bitsy Yoga Facilitator, Certified Yoga Ed. Instructor, trained miniyogis teacher, and is a trained Birth Doula with D.O.N.A (Doulas of North America). She has taught hundreds of mothers, fathers, and babies the joys of yoga. As a facilitator of yoga and arts based curriculums for kids, teens, and at-risk youth, she has touched the lives of thousands of children. In turn she has found that it is the children that keep safe human kind's greatest values. Sharing her multi-disciplinary knowledge with others, she leads large group trainings for teachers, healthcare professionals and educators.

Ant and I also ran across the new D&G (Dolce & Gabbana - www.dolcegabbana.it/) TV ad. It’s HOT and as the designer-name-whore/same-gender-loving men that we are, we LOVED it! What do you think? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9_c7pwZv5UQ

Something else Ant and I stumbled across from the world of YOU TUBE: “FAME” – clips from the TV show, its concert specials, etc. It begged the question from Ant: WHERE IS LEROY NOW? With sadness, I told him Gene Anthony Ray is dead, but I shared with him that my other pop-culture ‘dead giveaway’ (other than Diana Ross) that even I didn’t get at the time was my obsession with all things Gene Anthony Ray (AKA “Leroy”) from “Fame”… and “I had big DREAMS! I wanted ‘FAME’!”… and from the den of my Savannah home, I felt I could get there – high kicks and all! I’d memorize all the choreography from each week of the show, especially the “Leroy” sequences:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZfV_0Tqdl4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oghfxiZZUVU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YnrumtcaZ1Y

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ptdFmEO4Md0

On and on, we went that night – clicking on Leroy and company! And it all reminded me of my desire to dance as a child. I just admired the way that he moved and the way that he just worked those high kicks that Debbie Allen would choreograph. I would do a high kick all around my home. I would dance, do jazz hands, and my mom would say “If you don’t sit your butt down and stop flouncing around this house like a sissy!!!!” Well, my spirit would of course be broken and I would sit down and begin to do something else. Their preference is that I would walk outside and go play with some other little boys – basketball, football, anything that was a boy’s thing to do, but dancing – at the time - was in my sprit and I never really got the chance to do it because they felt it was too much of a sissy activity and they weren’t raising no sissies. So, there you have it. I sometimes feel like I’m reconnecting to that inner-child when Ant and I go to Alvin Ailey to do our hip-hop dance routines/workouts with Tweety ( www.alvinailey.org/ ).

Once we were over the Thanksgiving holiday, we got back into the mix. I had to travel to Chicago for some business which gave me the chance to see my Ti-Ti, Ki-Ki, and the many others in the gang who bring me joy when I set foot in the Windy City. Additionally, over these last couple of weeks, I got the chance to witness more synergy around BEYONCE! I promise. It wasn’t intentional! Okay, where does this start! Well, remember my obsession with “Dreamgirls” last year this time? I’m excited to say that – in addition to my DVD – I can begin stumbling into “Dreamgirls” via HBO. YIPPEE!!!! ( http://www.hbo.com/apps/schedule/ScheduleServlet?ACTION_DETAIL=DETAIL&FOCUS_ID=620606 ). Well, that’s one report, but additional to that, you remember that my jones for all things “Dreamgirls” (circa 2006) started with Jennifer Hudson when I interviewed her in August of that year. Fast forward a year and change, I enjoy Beyonce here in New York City. Then, Anthony takes me to Manila in November for my birthday. We see Beyonce in concert and she serenades me “Happy Birthday” at the end of the show. From there, Anthony and I are invited to a showcase – featuring Columbia artist Tiffany Evans (www. tiffany-evans.com/ ) who I interviewed a few years ago outside of Atlantic City after she won “Star Search” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6vAZsnAVsc). Now, she’s a teenager and stepping to the marketplace with great voice and some hip edge. She performed her song “Promises” and the Etta James classic “At Last”. She and her mother remembered me .We had a nice exchange. From there, we stumbled into Beyonce’s father Matthew Knowles ( www.musicworldentertainment.com/ ) who was there to introduce his new artist Katy Shotter ( www.katyshotter.com/ ) who opened for Beyonce and Robin Thicke on the U-S leg of her tour. She seems to be the new frontier of “blue-eyed soul”. On this night, I ran into some great friends, including Carla Wills, Editor-in-Chief for Uptown Magazine ( www.uptown-magazine.com/ ). I mentioned the art feature that was featured in the first Uptown Magazine under her charge (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/10/11/what-has-pop-culture-done-for-me-lately.html). She too has artist management consulting business, focusing particularly on visual artist. One of the artists she represents is her extremely talented boyfriend, Alexis Peskine. We got a chance to meet him. He just closed a fabulous show at the Museum of Contemporary African Art (MoCADA) in Brooklyn, which was well reviewed in The New York Times. He's also a finalist in this year's Hennessy Art Competition. And he has a bunch of other stuff going on and shows coming up as well. He and Ant hit it off. We also saw Dr. Rani Whitfield – known lovingly in TV and healthcare circles as “Tha Hip Hop Doc” or “H2D”. The founder of "Tha Hip Hop Healthy Coalition," a non-profit dedicated to promoting healthier life styles to young people, Dr. Whitfield has successfully mergeed his three favorite pastimes: music, medicine and sports for the good of the community. He recently launched www.thahiphopdoc.com website to deliver health messages to teens and young adults. He is also currently at work on a medical book geared for teen/young adult market and a CD compilation. Anthony and I left before Lyfe Jennings performed as we had to get to “Club Sprung”, the aforementioned spot where I hung out with the “Dirty Laundry” folks. We also saw my personal shopper and stylist friend Jamar who works at my favorite boutique “N” (www. nharlemnewyork.com/ ). We hadn’t hung out with him in a minute. So, we had fun with him.

Many of my friends are working on great projects or announcing new chapters of their brand. My friend Shaun Robinson (“Access Hollywood”) just announced her new website (www.shaunrobinson.com). Check it out!!!!!! My friend Jelani represents artist J. Phoenix about whom you can learn many things via the following links:

J. Phoenix Official Website
Buy MASTERPIECE
Buy Downloads J. Phoenix EPK
MySpace
OurStage
Black Planet
SoundClick
Indie-Music

J. Phoenix, who wrote and performed the hook for Tupac Shakur’s “ Thugz Mansion ” (Nas Acoustic) and whose songs have been recorded by high-profile artists such as platinum-selling R&B vocalist Joe, legendary jazz vocalist Nancy Wilson, renowned band Earth Wind & Fire, and guitar sensation George Benson, is making many things happen on his own. No stranger to the music publishing and licensing limelight, J. Phoenix, who writes under his given name Larry Loftin, has won the ASCAP/Sammy Cahn Award for excellence in lyrics and had his songs licensed for the films “From Justin to Kelly”, “The Brothers”, “How to be a Player”, and “B.A.P.S.”, as well as numerous television shows including “E! True Hollywood Stories”, “Revealed”, “Access Hollywood ”, and “Facing Fame”. J. Phoenix’s independently-released CD is “Masterpiece”, which highlights both his songwriting expertise and his strong vocal delivery.

Though a friend (only in my mind), Wendy Williams deserves a shout out this week (www.thewendywilliamsexperience.com/). Independent distribution-production company Debmar-Mercury has inked a deal with the a popular afternoon DJ in New York, to produce and host her own talk show. The hourlong strip is designed to feature a combination of celebrity interviews, entertainment news and personal advice. "Wendy Williams is exactly the type of talent we want to be in business with," says Debmar-Mercury co-president Mort Marcus. "She has developed a strong personal brand that connects with a broad-based audience." Debmar-Mercury is also pitching stations a syndicated game show based on the game “Trivial Pursuit” and distributes the first-run sitcom "Tyler Perry's House of Payne" and off-net series "South Park," among other shows. CONGRATS WENDY!!!!

And I got the chance to recommend a good friend to my “superstar” girlfriend Mara Schiavocampo who is now a digital correspondent for NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams ( www.nightly.msnbc.com ). My buddy Danielle has been dating a white guy Bernard for the last five years. They are in love! So, as Mara looked to pull together a roundtable of African American women who date inter-racially, I thought about her. Mara loved her and used her in the piece. It was featured in a week-long series on African American women that explored health, dating prospects, politics, hip hop and more. Mara’s other piece was on hip hop. With that, check her work out:

Interracial Dating Piece:

http://video.msn.com/?mkt=en-US&brand=msnbc&vid=b679062f-6e5f-4c96-beef-d618daca0591
(If you are unable to click the link, please copy and paste the URL in the browser to watch the video.)

Interracial Dating Group Discussion:

http://video.msn.com/?mkt=en-US&brand=msnbc&vid=86f005d2-227d-49cc-8933-816360249d3b

(If you are unable to click the link, please copy and paste the URL in the browser to watch the video.)

2^ND ANNIVERSARY

And so, on the heels of a typically busy week of work and social commitments, Ant and I vowed to celebrate our 2^nd Anniversary DECEMBER 1, 2007 . Then, we got the invitation to be shot for the aforementioned Charlie T’s “Just As We Are” project (http://www.justaswearetour.org) which she says is about promoting a real image of the LGBT community. The project has been exhibited at the Gay Center , the New York City Public Library, and area cultural museums. Recently, the Gay and Lesbian Center here in New York City became a corporate sponsor. The exhibit is scheduled next year to become part of a tour throughout gay centers around the country, after which she is looking to incorporate the project into a coffee table book. This project is about presenting something positive to the world as well as our young gay youths to know about and inspire to become. In addition to posing for these portraits, she interviewed us on how we met and why we chose to participate in this project. For more information on “Just As We Are Tour”, click on:

http://www.todroulettefineart.com/Charzette Torrence.htm

http://www.planetout.com/content/slideshow/splash.html?coll=689&order=1&navpath=/topics/living/

We had a great time with Charlie and her partner – sharing stories of how we met and hearing stories of how they met. And we realized that we all had lots in common, which created a great scene for Ant and me to pose and give our photographer what she wanted. (www.charlietphotography.net). It was a great night.

Since we’d chosen THE DREAM HOTEL for this shoot and as a homecoming of sorts for our 2^ND ANNIVERSARY, we thought a few friends – like Marqice and Jason – would want to come by and have a toast with us. Instead, the guys had another surprise in mind: A trip to Brooklyn to the home of a man named Michael. This mansion featured a red-carpet that led from the street, up the walkway, and to the front door. We walk inside the mansion – chockful of beautiful, Black men; beautiful artwork; and one-third of the “Dreamgirls” we all grew to love and adore last year this time. It was Anika Noni-Rose, who is a friend of the host. Ant inspired me to get my last picture in the set that is “the original Dreamgirls” (from the movie) and Miss Noni-Rose enthusiastically agreed. She shared many great anecdotes of her travel and career and reminded us how much of a class act she, too, is. And now I have pix with all three "Dreamgirls". Calling Sharon Leal ("This Christmas" and "Why Did I Get Married?") - "Michelle" in the movie "Dreamgirls".  The featured entertainment at this party, which was the surprise from Jason & Marqice, was our good girlfriend Ledisi ( www.ledisi.com/ ). She was so happy to see Ant and me. As always, she was friendly, fun, and such a stand for Anthony and me – letting everyone know that it was our 2^nd Anniversary and how she considered us her family. Another couple we love, Troy and Darryl, were in the house and we all got the chance to pose with Ledisi during the after set. Afterwards, Jason and Marqice brought us back to the hotel. We all fellowshipped a bit before calling it a night. And after night again turned to day, Ant and I awoke – rededicated and excited at the challenges before us. Though we both are carrying some anxiety around the many heavy things there are to do, WHO WE ARE BEING will get us through. And we trust that. I do, for sure.