A DAY IN "THE LIFE OF RILEY"

A few weeks ago, Ant and I were watching a “Living Single” reunion on “TV One” (www.tvoneonline.com/) in which Kim Coles and the rest of the cast (sans Queen Latifah) reflected on their hit show from the ‘90s. As it was one of our favorite shows that – to our estimation – had an early sign-off from the airwaves, we were happy to see on display the reverence the show deserved coupled with the levity it executed successfully for so many years. You’ll recall, there’s been some “Living Single” synergy in the “... the life of Riley...” as I met Kim Coles last year in Chicago via my good girlfriend Jakki (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/4/16/as-the-sun-has-its-place-up-in-the-sky.html). We bonded instantly. Kim informed me that her former co-stars T.C. Carson (‘Kyle Barker’) and Erika Alexander (‘Max’) share my November 19^th birthday. Some months later, I approached T.C. at a New York City event at which he performed (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/11/12/the-great-black-way.html). He too was gracious and kind and loved the birthday synergy. And now, Ms. Kim Coles is back on the air with TBS’ “10 Items or Less” (www.tbs.com/shows/10itemsorless) as Mercy P. Jones. Imagine our excitement, when Kim called me to say she was coming to town for just a couple of days (to do press for her new show - http://weblogs.cw11.com/news/local/morningnews/blogs/), and though she wouldn’t be able to hang extensively (nor see everyone she knows in her native New York), she wanted to meet Ant and see me. She chose the flossy-yet-approachable “Four Seasons” in Manhattan as our social backdrop (www.fourseasons.com/newyorkfs/). She invited one more friend to join us for rounds of $22 cocktails and light appetites. It wasn’t iconic Tennis player Andre Agassi, though he was holding court next to us. Her friend from back in the day was brand media marketing consultant Michele Weston (WWW.MJWSTYLEMEDIA.COM) who was the Founding Fashion and Style Editor for full-figured MODE Magazine - on newsstands from 1996 to 2001... not to be confused with the fictional magazine title used in one of our favorite shows “Ugly Betty”

(www.abc.go.com/primetime/uglybetty/index). Kim was featured in one of its spreads at that time and Michele adorned her in only the best couture for the shoot. As always, Kim had me laughing from the moment we sat down (Kim’s reflections on Eartha Kitt’s guest starring role on the hit show truly brought a smile to Ant’s and my face... and begs Ant's own Kitt impersonation [singing the wry Etta James' "At Last"] the next time we all get together. It's a hoot. I know she'll LOVE it!). We unearthed how much we have in common including a mutual hankering to read magazines that were a hair ahead of our time - “Psychology Today” at 9 years old for me and “Glamour” at 14 for her. Kim loved Ant. And he loved her. We are all assured an encore gathering the next time we go West or the next time she comes back to New York City. She wants to join us for a round of karaoke as she’s never done it before. That will be a great time, won’t it?

HAVE YOU SEEN MY CHILDHOOD?

Speaking of childhood (and that era in which I was reading “Psychology Today” and “TIME” instead of “EBONY Jr.”), FACEBOOK continues to bring some blasts from the past back into my mix. My first best friend in Savannah, GA was Alan West. Via FACEBOOK, he found me as we've not spoken in any depth since elementary school as we went to different middle schools and high schools. Then, after I confirmed his FB FRIENDSHIP, he sent these pix from the 3^rd grade and 5^th grade. In 1978, after my family moved to Savannah, Georgia from San Bernadino, California as my dad was closing in on his 1980 retirement from the Air Force, I attended Largo Tibet Elementary School. In the 3rd grade picture (above), there’s a shot of another best friend Reggie Parker (front row - 4th from left holding sign. How cute, right?; I'm standing in the back. Far left. Ahhhhh...). I’d like to outreach a note of sympathy and love to Reggie as he just lost his loving mother. Reggie and I continued to be good friends through the years (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/11/3/options-image-of-the-future.html). We reconnected at our 20 year reunion back in June of last year (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/6/17/someday-well-be-together-we-still-together-kinda.html). Then, the 5th grade picture (back row - 3rd from the right) showcases my 'original amazing grace' Natalie's husband Dwayne (before they even met). And we're all dear friends until this day. SMALL WORLD - shrinking everyday... because of FACEBOOK! LOL!

VINTAGE FASHION AND FRIENDSHIPS

Another FACEBOOK buddy and dear friend Itika got a mention in my last entry but her trip to New York City allowed us some more time to hang. Her former Chicago buddy Tiffany Nicole is now a New York City girl and showcased her vintage wears from her company “The Garment Room” (www.thegarmentroom.com/) at Chelsea’s Metropolitan Pavilion for a vintage show (www.manhattanvintage.com). I’ve shouted her out before but here am officially welcoming her to New York. Stay tuned for more on Manhattan’s latest IT GIRL. Afterwards, Itika and I joined other friends Muffin, Kitania, and Tamika at Stone Creek Lounge for some cocktails and appetizers (www.stonecreeknyc.com). Then, some dancing at Chill (www.chillloungenyc.com). As we were on the eve of Fashion Week (www.mbfashionweek.com/newyork/), it’s no wonder I stumbled into the FABULOUS Bevy Smith – stylist/fashion personality with THE MOST – as we compared notes on the days of couture ahead.

LOVE PROJECT: AN ENCORE PRESENTATION

Before we segued to FASHION, there was still some THEATER to address and THE GRAMMYS to watch. Ant and I had such a good time at “The Love Project” the week prior (http://www.culturalodyssey.org/v2/season/loveproject/video.php), we invited a fun group to accompany us for its final show. Our buddy Ike and Kristina; Ant’s industry sister Candice; our Charlie T, her partner Danielle; and others came out and really enjoyed the organic show which combined the best that cabaret, talk shows, slide presentations, and cooking segments have to offer. It’s on its way to Tampa and – soon after – Atlanta. So, please check out “The Love Project” when it comes to town.

CALLING ALL GOOD NEGROES!!!

Another great show Ant and I got the chance to get excited about: “THE GOOD NEGRO”. We attended an open house event at The Public Theater (www.publictheater.org).

The excerpt from the play pleased the packed house. Playwright Tracey Scott Wilson and director Liesl Tommy followed that half-hour up with some illuminating discussion around the piece which looks at the Civil Rights Movement through a more complex and human filter. The play is selling well and is now extended through April 19 because of high ticket demand.

My girl, Marcia Pendelton, who makes sure all the tastemakers are in the house for such events, can be contacted for tickets via her site: http://www.walktallgirlproductions.com. Also, in the house, my friends – from Morehouse buddy Michael K. Watts ("LIVE! From Front Row by Michael K. Watts") to publicists Marlynn Snyder and Theo Perry; and a host of others I hadn’t seen in a minute and some I was excited to meet for the first time. Joyous and oh-so-kind Randall Isaac’s was also in the house.

He’s been promoting a Thursday night set “CONSTELLATION” for the last few months. I’ve yet to make it out but want to shout it out here as the weather will soon thaw out; the economy will turn around; and we’ll be excited to take in his special evening at Chelsea Hotel’s Star Lounge (www.starhotelny.com) that he co-presents with our other friend Nathan Hale Williams who is co-executive producing several installments of "Inside: BlackCulture" for BET-J (www.bet.com/OnTV/BETJShows/).

GOT GRAMMY????? MAYBE A COMEBACK??????

Meanwhile, the GRAMMYs (www.grammy.com) had everyone abuzz for a multitude of reasons – some of which were scandalous. But my muses came in the form of ‘possibilities’.

Though not televised, at Clive Davis’ pre-Grammy party, Miss Whitney Houston stood inside of a Dolce & Gabbana dress (www.dolcegabbana.com/) (that Miss Ross sported a couple of years ago for one of her pre-buzz comebacks). How appropriate because Miss Houston let the industry know she can carry a tune again (if not hit all of the high notes). Regardless, the audience was happy to have her back in seemingly good health and diva-tude. LISTEN FOR YOURSELF: (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hah1PzH-tY0) and (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KC3i_78ywZ4). WE LOVE YOU, WHITNEY! On this night, Jennifer Hudson came back in the wake of her horrible family tragedy. And perhaps Whitney passed all the high notes to her as she provided the most stellar vocals at the party, then the GRAMMYs (where Whitney presented J-Hud with her 1^st Grammy). This moment happened before Jennifer sang an emotional “You Pulled Me Through” to a happy-to-have-her-back audience (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGZaSOV_zco). She also performed for Neil Diamond’s Grammy MUSICARES event and – days later – did a rousing rendition of “The Impossible Dream” for Muhammad Ali at the NAACP Image Awards (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AfH7NwVhns). Too, she’s released her new video for her “Spotlight” follow-up “If This Isn’t Love” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEfgW6i1a8A). And she’s announced her spring tour with Robin Thicke (www.jenniferhudsononline.com/). Ant and I had such a good time with girlfriends Charlie T and Danielle at the Superbowl the week prior, they invited us (Ern in tow) back for a Grammy party. As they did for Thanksgiving and then the big game, they laid it out again for our viewing set. THANKS CHARLIE T and DANIELLE! Oh! I was excited to see my Spelman sister Jocelyn Coleman in the audience. She and I were student journalists in the National Association of Black Journalists as well. She’s now a Hollywood publicist for the stars. Jocelyn was seated next to her client, an upcoming artist Qui who is football great Jerry Rice’s daughter who has a song out now with David Banner. It’s called “Rev It Up” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwJEMJNdnwc)

CONGRATS JOCELYN! (www.tridestined.com).

NABJ BABIES KEEP-A-COMIN' ON STRONG!!!!!

Speaking of the NAACP Image Awards, I wanted to congratulate TV One and Roland Martin for their second successive NAACP Image Awards (www.naacpimageawards.net/). They won again in the very tough category "Outstanding News/Information" (Series or Special) against a very accomplished field of entrants, including an opposing team of which I had the opportunity to be a small part. Last year, they won for an interview conducted with then Senator Barack Obama. Roland and I go back via the National Association of Black Journalists’ Student Representative when I was a student. Just a few months ago, NABJ commissioned me to script a message for Roland Martin that is now on its website (www.nabj.org). It promotes the association’s “On The Move” campaign as it prepares to move into a new headquarters. CONGRATS ROLAND! Also, quick shout out to Tracee Ellis Ross who won the prize as “Best Actress” in a sitcom for “Girlfriends”, which still holds up as one of my favorite shows of all time (despite its premature ending a la “Living Single”).

AMEN... TO THE FASHION GODS AND GODDESSES!!!!!

Kim Coles isn’t the only sitcom royalty I happened upon this week. Remember “Amen” with Sherman Hemsley? And “The Wayans Brothers”? Well, if you do... you remember the Pastor’s wife “Thelma” and security guard “Dee”. As the Fashion Week festivities unfolded, I had the chance to meet Ms. Anna Marie Horsford at The Plaza Hotel (www.fairmont.com/ThePlaza). Right at the elegant corner of Central Park South and 5^th Avenue, we got the chance to experience the debut of 2M damorJon Natural Nail Care System at swanky Caudalie Spa (www.caudalie.com) on the hotel’s 4^th floor (www.m2mdamorejon.com). My friends Seven (who is Grooming & Beauty Director at Blue Magazine – www.thebleumag.com) and fab designer Kevin Andre Dickens (with KD Studio) invited me to this event. They were so gracious to invite me and kept me entertained throughout the evening. I also ran into my buddy Walter Greene who is a Fashion Editor/Producer (You see his column in Sister 2 Sister Magazine - www.s2smagazine.com/). He introduced me to some lovely folks, including Sherice Major, a model from The Bahamas; Miss Antigua Athina James, who competed in Miss World and Miss Universe contests; and professional clothier Sebastian Marshall (Tom James of New York). The owners Monica and Myrdith were the ever-gracious hosts as they offered up free manicures. As a line-item I’ve eliminated from my shrinking-of-late budget, I was happy to get a free one care of aesthetician Ummil. There were special cocktails of cognac, chambord, and champagne (called a “Pour Moi” – www.mypourmoi.com) and we were able to enjoy the most delectable bites of Chef Love Jones (“Bill Jones Epicure”) – including Red Velvet cupcakes. And Miss Deborah Gregory (www.cheetahrama.com/) was in the house – making sure to show me her Black Russian Hello Kitty jewelry by Tarina Tarantino. ALWAYS PURR-FECT!

Afterwards Ant met me at The Regency Hotel (www.loewshotels.com) for the launch of our friend Miguel Antoinne’s men’s line (www.miguelantoinne.com).

I want every single piece that his models displayed. Against the backdrop of the SOHO Penthouse Suite, each ensemble (and the models inside) just popped.

 And the unique detailing of each item was just so inspired.

All of our buddies were in the house – from Ryan...

to Jamar and Natasha.

It was great to see Rick who I’ve not seen socially in a minute.

My buddy and Morehouse brother Lloyd Boston was in attendance with Jonathan Sandville.

Lloyd has a new show “Closet Cases with Lloyd Boston” on the Fine Living Network (www.fineliving.com/).

Ant and I were telling him how we could use his expertise for our “closets”. And Ant would love to pull some style expertise from Lloyd. Soon, a long-overdue dinner at “Houston’s” (www.hillstone.com) will allow us some catch-up time. LOVE YOU, LLOYD!

Another style businessman Kwame Jackson shared some more information about how his ties Krimson by Kwame are doing (www.krimsonbykwame.com) in stores like MACY's and my childhood department store BELK.

We too met some great new folks including Dr. Lewis Feder (Dermatologist and Cosmetic Plastic Surgeon – www.federmd.com);

Henry J. Amoroso;

Harry A. Kritzer with “Twin Blonde Media” (www.twinblonde.com);

stylist Eya with “Be Good To You” Consulting; and Jordan Potter at “Details” Magazine (www.DETAILS.com).

VALENTINE'S BIRTHDAYS

Before we could wrap FASHION WEEK up, Ant and I had to come up with a creative way to celebrate our Ern (best friend since 7^th grade) who was celebrating his “28^th” birthday on Valentine’s Day. The catch? We had little in the way of disposable funds. But we do have invitations to fun, A-list affairs. So, Ant backed out of being my standing date for all-things festive [as the party planners for this particular event didn’t allow me to bring them both (even though Ant normally shoots the pix for the blog)]. Once Ern and I got to this TARGET set, we didn’t see the concern. It was a festive time but surely there was room for Ant as well (Everyone asked where he was). Though she was not responsible for the upset, I ran into old friend Maggie Mahler who is now the Senior Manager of Events and Publicity at Target (I knew her from her days at Nike). Hopefully there won’t be this ilk of problem again because TARGET does throw a great set (Ant and I attended the last Fashion Week event they threw back in September – featuring Mr. and Mrs. Seinfeld!). Tonight was no exception in the way of name-dropping. Firstly, TARGET was debuting and selling its new Alexander McQueen looks-for-less (www.alexandermcqueen.com/). The haute couturier is the one who Andre Leon Tally introduced to Mariah Carey (during their style collabo days) and Melania Trump. Like Whitney, Ms. Canon sported a McQueen number that Miss Ross first sported (a la haute couture) some years prior. Most of the big names in the house would be more interesting to my 20-year-old nephew and his college-age peers – including Amanda Bynes (okay, I was excited to see her). Also in the house (which I reported to my nephew via text as he was attending my alma mater and his college Morehouse College’s Founders Day concert headlined by Fantasia [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9RW1RCY0Cs] – www.morehouse.edu): Whitney from “The City” (www.mtv.com); She's working for Diane Von Furstenburg (www.dvf.com) and Miss Ross just attended her Fashion Week show yesterday. Diana and Diane (who reportedly scored her finale with Diana's "Upside Down") are old friends. Also, “Gossip Girl" Amanda Setton ('Penelope') was there. Then, more from my category of people I am excited to see: MY FASHION INSPIRATIONS like: Miss J (from “America’s Next Top Model” - www.cwtv.com/shows/americas-next-top-model12); Emil Wilbekin from GIANT Magainze (www.GIANTmag.com); Phillip Bloch (www.phillipbloch.com); and Robert Verdi (www.robertverdi.com). Ern had a GREAT TIME. To take our appreciation for Ern a step further, Ant prepared a fabulous spaghetti dinner for him that we could all enjoy along with what was left of Ern’s shrinking open bar (Disposable funds have dried up, hear?). With TIVO on tap for entertainment, it made for a fun Valentine’s Day/Ern’s birthday. He seemed to have a good time. SMILE!

Some RE-CAPS and FOLLOW-Ups...and RANDOM NOTES:

• My platonic boo Carl Nelson is co-producing an awesome event in Bermuda (benefiting Project Change Bermuda) along with Princess Katarina of Yugoslavia – a personal friend of Carl’s. The fun-filled weekend will be April 16-19, 2009. SAVE THE DATE... and look forward to more info and particulars in upcoming blog entries.
• Remember I told you about BET’s “Harlem Heights”? Well, it’s poised to debut March 2^nd (www.bet.com/OnTV/BETShows/harlemheights/). You too recall when I attended the particular luxury bag debut (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2009/2/2/we-will-find-a-way.html)? I ran into several Atlanta University Center sisters – alums from Spelman College and Clark Atlanta University. CAU alum Shavonne Reel is the publicist for her Spelman sister Brandi Russell whose designs are included in the Bleu Magazine I mentioned in that same blog entry. Her line is “Sacred Heart”. Check her out (www.sacredheartcollections.com/site/index.html)
• My friend, Tony Award®-winner LaChanze is coming back to The Great White Way. The play is “Inked Baby” and it runs March 5 through April 5. To purchase on-line with a discount code (KBWT), you can go to www.ticketcentral.com or call 1-212-279-4200.
• Remember I hosted an event at THE HIGH in Atlanta back in August for the premiere of HBO’s “The Blacklist” (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/8/26/its-good-to-be-black.html). Well, HBO’s “The Blacklist 2” premieres February 26^th (www.hbo.com/docs/programs/blacklistv2/index.html).
• I had Melinda Doolittle first (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2009/2/2/we-will-find-a-way.html). Well, ELLEN (www.ellen.warnerbros.com/) had her this week... and she was GREAT – as singer (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPYPm9UxgIk) and guest (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_HFfEBw8feo). ELLEN wants her back!
• Remember my Hillary Clinton from my CN8 “Your Morning” First Lady Fashion Show? http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2008/11/26/accept-me-flaws-and-all-and-thats-why-i-love-all-of-you.html. Well, Valerie Gay is also a singer and the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts is presenting her fine vocals on March 1 in Philadelphia (www.paga.org). CONGRATS VALERIE! SING PRETTY!!!!
• My girlfriend Nina Flowers heads up Publicity at the Legendary Apollo Theater (www.apollotheater.org) and is getting ready for a lot of activity around the theater’s 75h Anniversary – including a recent announcement where Miss Dionne Warwick came out to help announce all of the fun – including a revival of “Dreamgirls” and discounts on Amateur Night. Check out the site and don’t miss out!
• Speaking of Nina Flowers, one of Rupaul’s drag queens competing in “Rupaul’s Drag Race” is named “Nina Flowers”. Have you checked the show out yet? Not exactly “A Night of 1,000 Diana’s” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BSBe42Fb48). But it’s entertaining (www.logoonline.com/shows/dyn/rupauls_drag_race/videos.jhtml).
• Mocha Moms out there! Check out my girlfriend Kimberly Seals Allers’ website: http://mochamanual.com/mochamanual/. She has a new book and lots of great things happening inside of her brand that promotes moms who need some support to be able to do it all.
• While we await our next “American Idol” winner, did you folks see “X Factor” – out of London – and its new winner Alexandra Burke do a duet on “Listen” with Beyonce for her finale? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bV-ERgAHqXo Well, she’s poised to achieve the success that past “X Factor” winner Leona Lewis has received from America. Already, she's got a 5 CD deal from EPIC here in America. Look out LISTEN UP!
• My friend David Nathan (www.soulmusic.com and www.soulmusicstore.com) worked on a project he wants me to share with all of you. He is co-producer of this great album with some amazing artists: http://www.youtube.com/v/-nZUM6XdWWE&hl=en&fs=1 and http://www.gospelcity.com/news/headlines/1635 It’s the release of Songs 4 Worship-Soul CD!!! David is the Secretary for the R&B Foundation (www.rhythmblues.org) and continues to be U.S. Senior Contributing Writer for Blues & Soul (www.bluesandsoul.com)
• My friend Moon Stillwater announces the opening of ISES HAIRCARE PRODUCTS (www.acceptthehealing.com). They had such an overwhelming demand for their products over the last 6 years, they decided to offer these products on a broader scale.
• My friend Greg recommends I go see Broadway’s “Billy Elliot” (www.billyelliotbroadway.com) – Elton John’s latest production. Anybody else seen it?
• You watching “Gone Country” on CMT (www.cmt.com/shows/dyn/gone-country/series.jhtml)? Ant and I are. We’re rooting for Sheila E; Justin Guarini, and George Clinton. Nothing against Taylor Dane and the others.
• CONGRATS to Taraji P. Henson and Viola Davis for their Supporting Actress OSCAR nods!!!!! Ant and I just saw "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button" this weekend and know why Taraji's up. Her participation in Fantasia's LIFETIME movie (as the IDOLs mother) nothwithstanding, I'm sure Viola did a great job too!
• Lena Horne’s granddaughter and daughter of “THE WIZ” director Sidney Lumet, Jenny Lumet, is the mastermind behind movie “Rachel Getting Married” (www.sonyclassics.com/rachelgettingmarried/) which has gotten many a nod and recognition in the industry. I had the chance to do a story on her a few years back just after Janet Jackson was pulled from portraying her grandmother in the ABC bio-pic that has yet to happen. She told me she didn’t quite understand what the hoopla inside that “wardrobe malfunction” was all about. Well, it’s good to see her doing so well as she takes her career to the next level. CONGRATS JENNY!
• TV-ONE featured Diana Ross’ Golden-Globe- nominated tour-de-force in “Out of Darkness” the other week. Always good to see Diana on the screen: EXCERPT FROM BEGINNING OF FILM: (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBkDUln85-A) and EXCERPT FROM END OF FILM: (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ic3tdXynEf0) And just as "Madea Goes To Jail" prepares to hit the theater, Tyler Perry has gone on record saying he wants Diana Ross for one of his films. It would be great to see her back on the silver screen.
• An AALIYAH bio-pic is reportedly forthcoming starring Canadian pop star Keisha Chante (http://www.keshiachante.org/). I look forward to it! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BFkAC3CAHqM
• I love YOU TUBE! And I miss PICKLES who puts the best Diana videos on there! SHOUT OUT TO PICKLES!
• SIGNOFF (FOR NOW)!

I was called to Chicago for an assignment and it reconnected me to all of my favorite folks in what some call "Mississippi North". Through -1 and -3 temperatures, I managed to successfully complete my work and then do a little play. The conductor of my social time is usually "my Chicago Carl" who - with his busy schedule - made sure my evenings were chockful of fun, excitement, and diversity - as always: http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/chicago-without-ti-ti-can-it-be.html 
 
On Thursday, we had late night supper and cocktails at Dublin's Pub on N. State Street. There, our good girlfriend Itika joined us. So good to see her.
 
On Friday, our Vince joined us and we let Calypso (http://www.calypsocafechicago.com/) feed us. Great Caribbean cuisine (and - oh! - those rum punches i.e. THE MARLEY!). Vince is always a wealth of new ideas, inspiration, and advice. Love to hang out with him!
 
On Saturday, Carl and I diverted to the Southside of Chicago for a midnight taste and a drag show. It was quite the neighborhood spot Club Escape (www.clubescapechicago.com). Then, Sunday, I requested a space where we could watch The Grammys (www.grammy.com/). Carl's friends Pierrre and Jerry who live on the Northwest side of Chicago (in an area called Bucktown) hosted. Pierre's boyfriend Larry was also in the mix. And we had the best time. Carl, who is such the cheerleader of everyone in his life, gathered all the guys around Pierre's computer - so he could show them my blog. Over fresh and tasty fries, chicken wings (both prepared in their kitchen), and pizza (from around the way), we were first entertained by that. Then, we enjoyed a less-than-spectacular TV presentation. Still, with the best steadily-flowing daiquiries I've ever tasted and the most enjoyable company I've been around in a minute, mediocre LIVE TV needed only to be a backdrop with periodical hightlights. I should point out that in the modest mix of talent, there were some moments worth mentioning. Firstly, you've heard me reference that my family's church is The United House of Prayer for All People (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/8/30/time-passes-quickly-here.html). Remember my run-in in New Orleans? Well, one of the "shout bands" from the kingdom The Madison Bumble Bees (from Winnsboro, South Carolina) participated in the Aretha-Franklin-led Gospel medley (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xh8lFT4Vr_Y). WHAT A BLESSING! It was very exciting for the members of the church. As I was working here in Chicago, my sister called with the word that they were to be on, but we didn't know they would be under such a spotlight. I have heard the Bumble Bees many times as they would often travel to the Savannah 'House of Prayer'. In our church, the shout bands are quite a  ministry its own - moving the people to get their "Holy dance" on with bombastic style. When the Bishop would come to town, there would be a host of bands playing - one after the other, each known for their own sound and rhythm. There were so many of these bands, I didn't know who from what and what from who (keeping in mind that because I didn't 'grow up' (from birth) in the House of Prayer (since I was born in Tokyo and my parents traveled all over via my Dad's status in the Air Force)). With that, once we moved to Savannah (when I was eight), I was always a little disconnected from the 'culture' of it all. Still, I was close to it because my mom and siblings were into: "the bands"; "their members"; "their annointing" (in their role as 'shout bands'); "their bookings" (as House of Prayer bands -- from different branches of the church [all over the nation] are good for a periodic, national booking on television i.e. Kennedy Center Honors, Macy's Day Parade, Mardi Gras, etc.); etc. Ttruth be told, they are like 'closed-circuit' ROCK BANDS with GROUPIES to boot (within the kingdom)... and like I might spend hours talking about our DIVAS or favorite pop singers, my folks (mom, brother, and sister) might spend hours talking about the bands and other House of Prayer  going-ons like it's "ACCESS HOLLYWOOD" or "ENTERTAINMENT TONIGHT" (the appointments, the gossip, the services, etc.). Sometimes, the band members (of the many respective bands all over the kingdom) can even be perceived as the 'bad boys' of the church (a la sacred-BOBBY BROWNs or JODECIs, etc.). My brother - a member of the local Savannah House of Prayer band ("SOUNDS OF THE SOUTH" - also locally and nationally recognized) - is an example of one of those GOD-fearing, committed members who ANNOINT folks daily through their music. But sometimes their inner-struggles could sometimes lead them astray (though their LOVE of ALL THINGS CHURCH (HOUSE OF PRAYER) never waver. It's quite the IRONY that - from my observations (as a child) - perplexed me (since I didn't necessarily carry the SPIRITUAL connection that my brother, for example, did. He was older). But often, I felt like I was less close to my late mother because my brother was so involved in the church (via the BAND) and that was a place (the church) that she REVERED and in which she seemed most HAPPY and HERSELF. So, while I might have been SMART and always on top of my BOOKS (of which MOM was proud and just as CONNECTED), my brother (despite his rebellion) was/is heavily connected and - ironically - passionate about the CHURCH and its teachings (which was a conversation and bond that ONLY he and mom had. With that, I did still do things here and there in the church that played to my talents i.e. singing, speaking, etc. But because I was younger and - unlike a lot of Savannah native House of Prayer folks (READ: kids who grew up in the House of Prayer nationwide), I participated more sporadically (with my father insisting that school be my top priority, which meant I couldn't go to weeknight services all the time (if there was homework to do and to ensure I got my good night's rest - so I'd be alert in the morning for school). Other kids from our church could come out to services and just had to make sure they kept up with their studies. I sometimes was envious of them. In the end, no one way was better than the other. And different strokes for different folks. But I wouldn't change my experiences in The House of Prayer for anything. For me, growing up (kinda' in a SECULAR context... but always SPIRITUAL and LOVING THE LORD), some of those restrictions always made me ask questions of my elders? "Where is the money going?" "What happens if there's no House of Prayer in a particular city (It's nationwide - even in Chicago)? Are those people still going to heaven?" Mostly, my mother would tell me: "Stop being mannish and asking so many questions?" or "Just believe and have FAITH!" or "Stop being fresh and always thinking with your head?" or "Some things don't need to have answers." The intellectual that I was echoed the sassy entitlement of Beneatha in "A Raisin in the Sun" (which is scheduled to be presented on television - starring Phylicia Rashad, Diddy, Audra McDonald, and Sanaa Lathan [as Beneatha, who was originated by one of my favorites, the late Diana Sands] - www.abc.go.com/specials/raisininthesun/index). There's a scene that always resonated with me. Beneatha (of the Southside Chicagoans known as The Younger family) says: "Mama, you don't understand. It's all a matter of ideas, and God is just one idea I don't accept. It's not important. I am not going out and be immoral or commit crimes because I don't believe in God. I don't even think about it. It's just that I get tired of Him getting credit for all the things the human race achieves through its own stubborn effort. There simply is no blasted God-there is only man and it is he who makes miracles!"

After Beneatha had finished her argument, Lena slapped her across her face and made Beneatha say, "In my mother's house there is still God". Lena stressed out her points that she will not tolerate any ideas like that in her house, or as long as she's alive and running the household. Now, I never went that far in my rebellion nor have I ever felt there wasn't a God, but  I've always been a questioning, intellectual type. And in the old days (and sometimes even now), there are certain things that the church does not condone. They haven't so much relaxed, but as we move on with the time, those concerns pop up less and less (unless they pop up more and more)... and when they do, they can take us back to the ALTER or the MOUNTAIN (and remind us on whose shoulders we stand around how we are to operate in the world as it relates to our FAITH and CHRISTIANITY - specifically in THE HOUSE OF PRAYER). It's quite a journey, but one I'm BLESSED to be on. I do know - despite my perhaps different views and choices - that I am HIGHLY FAVORED and GOD LOVES ME!!!!!

But I digress: I am talking about Chicago and THE GRAMMYs!!!! <That was sure a Freudian, therapeutic, slippery slope... but I won't edit it out! It might speak to someone as it was clearly speaking through me.> 

Anyway! Back to the Grammys, Beyonce sprinkled her prelude to Tina Turner with a shout out to Diana Ross, Janet Jackson, and many of the other great DIVAS on whose shoulders she stands. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5X-OzbGYghc). But controversy reared its ugly head in the wake of B introducing Tina as "The Queen" (when "The Queen of Soul" was in the house). I didn't think it was a big deal at first, but my sister pointed it out during our day-after-Grammy review (and I don't want to put too much energy into a conversation around false "idols" when I just got finished talking about "God" (but such is "... the life of Riley..."). With that, my sister was on point because, "USA Today" is reporting (via Edna Gundersen and NABJ Arts & Entertainment Task Force Legacy Award recipient (2006) Steve Jones) that "The Queen of Soul" - in the house that night and recipient of her 20th Grammy - is not happy. In fact, her statement reads as follows: "I am not sure of whose toes I may have stepped on or whose ego I may have bruised between the Grammy writers and Beyoncé, however, I dismissed it as a cheap shot for controversy," Franklin said. "In addition to that, I thank the Grammys and the voting academy for my 20th Grammy and love to Beyoncé anyway." Grammy producers say they meant nothing by it. Beyonce's father and manager says he won't dignify it by even forwarding the message to Beyonce. "I'm not even going to take this to her," he said. "Something this ridiculous, it's childish, it's unprofessional. And it's a sad day when egos get bruised because somebody used the word king, queen, prince or princess." And both ladies are truly LIVING LEGENDS. Tina gave a brilliant performance (in her late '60s) comprised from her comeback hit album "Private Dancer" (for which she won the Grammy. My "Queen" Diana Ross presented it to her. She did "What's Love Got to Do With It" and my favorite "Better Be Good To Me". Plus, even Tina admitted on that same project that she wasn't the "Queen". Instead she said: "I Might Have Been Queen" - another strong track from that album: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1deMQMPrMs  Moreover, Aretha sang for the gods (and God) in a yellow dress she sported in the audience of the "Kennedy Center Honors" on the night that "my" Diana was "Queen" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_E0bMGJNJXo) and (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v0u3D-y5V_A) and (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DScsAt8vInA). There's room for them all on the throne... and when they get there, they better get on their knees and PRAY - thanking GOD for all his GRACE in affording them these amazing careers, right? (Well, the "Queen of my Heart" is my late, great mother whose name happens to be QUEEN! For real!!! Queen Elizabeth Bellinger Riley - R.I.P.

As the synergy of "old" and "young" goes, my Anthony ("young") highlights for me ("old") that the out-of-this-world "FEEDBACK" video by Grammy-award-winning Janet Jackson (not present at The Grammys - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AEBY8AX-C0 or DIRECTOR'S CUT: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jisifu561TA) seems to be inspired in part by an out-of-this-world photo shoot my Grammyless-though-nominated-many-times Diana Ross did during promotion of her first self-titled album in 1970. You can see some of the iconography on this You Tube video of "Dark Side of the World" - a mashup mix combining Diana's version with Marvin Gaye (featuring stills from those lesser-known photo sessions that look "Feedback"-esque). Watch closely (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxjUVhgt63I). Speaking of, Berry Gordy was honored with a Grammy Lifetime Achievement nod.
 
And on Monday, there was no Diana nor Janet at the spot where Carl entertained me, but there was WHITNEY, CHAKA, TAMIA, and a host of other female impersonators at THE BATON (www.thebatonshowlounge.com). And because these "guys" were so good, there was no question who "The Queens" were on this night. Nicole Love Dupree, pageant queen of them all, even came from Atlanta to share her beauty and bling. Some of these ladies... ahem... men can really fool you, I tell 'ya. Just beautiful. Go girls! Guys... 
 
Wednesday I had to get back to Ant. Valentine's Day was approaching... and there was someone to share it with...
 
And Thanks Carl! Happy Valentine's Day... to ALL the folks I LOVE!

Well, with the holidays here, there’s lots to CELEBRATE. And Anthony and I are doing what we can to be in that spirit. My “Amazing Grace” Nichole held a lovely Christmas party at her New Rochelle home. Her good girlfriend Dee Dee McGuire (of “Doug Banks and Dee Dee McGuire” show fame - www.dougbanksshow.com/ ) flew in from Dallas for the occasion. Dee Dee's sister Resa popped up from Atlantic City. The usual suspects from New Rochelle were in the house – from Michelle to Monica to Cynthia. Then, those of us who don’t mind taking the schlep i.e. Dawn, Melony, Ern, Ant, CJ, and me joined in the fun. Etc… and we ate from her delicious menu. She made sure to have chambord for my champagne. All in all, Nichole was the most gracious host. Dee Dee brought a book that allowed us to bond more closely. It’s titled Ever Wonder: Ask Questions and Live into the Answers (Hardcover) by Kobi Yamade (http://www.amazon.com/Ever-Wonder-Questions-Live-Answers/dp/1888387556). It challenged us all to look at our lives and what we really think at the beginning and end of the day. It inspired some vulnerable and awesome sharing. THANKS DEE DEE!

My boy DIAZ just celebrated his birthday (He recently thanked me for hipping him to LATINO ROYALTY on the BLOG - www.latinoroyalty.com/ - though it was really Anthony who bought me the gift that I referenced. Here I am sporting it at Maroon's [www.maroonsnyc.com], my friend Mitchell's Caribbean and Soul Food Restaurant.). Location? OF COURSE, the DREAM HOTEL ( www.dreamny.com/ ), Anthony’s and my favorite. Most specifically, the rooftop, AVA LOUNGE, housed his celebration. DIAZ was dressed in "latino royalty" down. We spent most of our time chatting up hair-and-make-up artist for the stars (currently on “The Color Purple”) Sabrena Armstrong. She’s worked with some of the greats in dance music – from CeCe Penniston to Robin S. And Sabrina, herself, is quite the character and a hoot. We uncovered that we have several friends and associates in common, including my Carl Nelson. We had a good time with her.

MEANWHILE, one of the production crews with which I work include two of my favorites in the business Keith Walker and Alan Chow ( www.mediaprocess.com/ ). Anthony and I took them to grab a bite at one of Harlem’s soul food staples “Spoonbread” which also does catering and event planning (www.spoonbreadinc.com). President Norma Jean Darden came out and extended her hospitality to us. But the food – as always – ensured we would be coming back for more – from the spoonbread to the fried catfish to the chicken to the collard greens, etc. OH MY!!!!

ALSO CELEBRATING: My friend Nikoa – one-third of the owners at my favorite boutique N HARLEM (www. nharlemnewyork.com/ ) and her fiancé Garrett. They are soon to marry and brought us all together to celebrate that fact at Zanzibar ( www.zanzibarnyc.com ). Their families and friends and co-workers were present and ready to party! We had a lovely time and look forward to more good news from them in 2008.

CELEBRATING EVEN MORE (over lunch), I got the chance to hang out with my good, Chicago-based girlfriend Ki-Ki who was in town for the holidays. I met her at the showroom and design space for LAFAYETTE 148 (www.lafayette148.com). Chief designer Edward Wilkerson gave us a sneak peek at Fall 2008, which he’ll go on the road to present to his clients all over the nation (while most designers will be presenting shows under the white tents during Fashion Week). After Ki-Ki tried on a few pieces (all stunning), we traipsed through SOHO by foot to our lunch destination. Before we could get there, I ran into my buddy Ryan who is an actor/improv guy who too works in the fashion world. ALWAYS GOOD TO SEE RYAN! Then, Ki-Ki, Edward, King Yap Chong (public relations/events manager for LAFAYETTE 148), and I went to the former-Canteen which is now LURE (www.LUREFISHBAR.com). We enjoyed some great seafood. I got the fried seafood platter and it was so good! But the company was even better as Edward and I realized we had the SCORPIO sign in common. We had a blast!

Of course, you folks know I’m opening things up - as far as my career goes – for new things to show up. Right alongside feeling a hair off center at the not-knowing of it all, I am trusting that my walk into destiny is NOW. When Ant and I happened upon the Charging Bull (sometimes called the Wall Street Bull or the Bowling Green Bull) near Wall Street, we played around with the 7-thousand pound, bronze sculpture. Ant loved it as he is a Taurus (sometimes stubborn). I loved it as well. It - for both of us (to me) - represents 'steely determination' - a symbol of aggressive, financial optimism, and prosperity, leaning back on its haunches and with its head lowered as if ready to charge.

Already, actually, GOD is showing up and showing out:

* I’ve taken some time to update my TALENT/PRODUCER reel which composites much of my independent work over the last few years.

http://216.117.188.141/PatrickRileyGeneral.wmv

The excerpts include:

1. Pilot “tvQ”, which I co-hosted a couple of years ago. Just got word from Hurricane Productions that they want to repackage this “queer-eye-meets-the-view” fest and try to sell it again with me attached. Could be a great thing!

2. “Our World with Black Enterprise” – hosted by Ed Gordon on which I weigh in as pop culture pundit ( www.blackenterprise.com/mediacenter/ourworld.asp )

3. Featured on “Access Hollywood” ( www.accesshollywood.com/ ), I introduce Samuel L. Jackson at a Las Vegas screening for the National Association of Black Journalists (www.nabj.org)

4. Also in Vegas, I hosted an event for the “Disney Dreamer’s Academy” (www. steveharvey.com/disneysdreamersacademy/ ) featuring Steve Harvey, actress Victoria Rowell, Chef Jeff, “High School High”s Monique Coleman, and George Wallace. Steve just announced the New York City-area kids who will participate in this program in January.

5. An event I hosted for BOOST MOBILE and LIVE NATION called “Music Biz 101” featuring ?uestlove and MC Lyte. ( www.musicbiz101contest.com/ )

6. ESPN 2’s “Cold Pizza” (www. espn.go.com/eoe/pti.html ) on which I narrate a makeover for the green Masters jacket.

7. TLC’s “The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly”, a special I hosted a couple of years ago.

8. A couple of fashion segments I hosted for I-STYLE TV and I-NEXTV.COM (“Cheap but Chic” and “Ready, Set, Shop!”)

9. Stand up for NBC 4 during a CD signing for Jennifer Lopez, who I interviewed for NBC 4’s “Puerto Rican Day Parade” special

10. For HBO, I have done many entertainment/movie junkets. Here, I include my Gwyneth Paltrow and Michael Douglas clips.

11. For LEVI’s Self-Engineered Tour a few years ago, I went on the road with “The Roots” to interview celebrity participants, including Sean Patrick Thomas.

12. During Tavis Smiley’s reign on BET Tonight, I was often used as a pop culture pundit. I feature a couple of those excerpts, including “Blacks on Hollywood” and “Rappers becoming Actors” with Master P.

13. “Good Morning America” series on “Friendship” – featuring my dinner group, “The Penatavaurate”.

14. I produced and narrated the marketing and highlights videos for the then-Acapulco Black Film Festival ( www.abff.com/ )

WITH THAT, I’m poised to make some new impressions in 2008. I’ve booked a handful of days in the New Year with www.att.com/techchannel (as on-cam talent) for three segments in which I'll oversee makeovers - turning three "computer geeks" to "chic" (yet user-friendly for their technical gigs). In addition to this, there may be more on-camera and field producing work for me with AT&T. STAY TUNED!

I’ve already gotten great feedback from some network bookers, who are interested in folding me into their rolodexes to weigh in on pop culture. No funds per se on this tip (off the top, at least), but this is a good piece for branding.

My book project “BIG WILLIES and AMAZING GRACES: gay men and their best girlfriends” is still in need of a "high-profile" presence before one particular publisher gives it a green light. But I’m heatedly pursuing that person to support this collection of conversations between the men and women who fit this paradigm. Calling KELLY RIPA!!!! Calling ANNE HATHAWAY!!! Calling DEBRA MESSING!!!! Anybody out there know them…?

And as I navigate my own WHAT’S NEXT?????, I am clear that I am not alone in this pursuit. My Anthony, of course, has been on the market since he moved here back in March. And as he still hopes to land that big gig, he’s attracting projects here and there that are supporting the livelihood piece while making sure that he doesn’t lose sight of his creativity goals – from the world of production and journalism to art. He’s even supporting me in getting my own PILOT off the ground (Stay tuned for that… as we develop our game plan!). Additionally, as I look, we are stumbling into work that is a good fit for him (and he’s taken a day or two of applicable work from my own search and projects). So, truly, it’s all WORKING!!!!

Meanwhile, before much of this transition talk, my Morehouse brother Welborn Preston asked if I would be willing to come down to Atlanta and meet Kelci Stringer, widow of Korey Stringer, Minnesota Vikings offensive lineman who died from a heatstroke at the team’s training camp six years ago. As she looks forward to being done with the varied lawsuits that abound in the wake of her late husband’s passing, she too is readying a memoir titled “Football Widow” (due out Spring 2008). Additionally, she’s got such a sassy and intellectual personality, the airwaves are longing for her presence. Well, that’s what my friend Preston thought. And since he knew that I too have experienced horrible loss and that I navigate as a similarly-tagged personality (and producer) in the business, he thought Kelci and I would hit it off. They flew me in on the evening before our meeting and put me up at the historic “Georgian Terrace” ( www.TheGeorgianTerrace.com ). My sister Janice and her husband Vincent picked me up from the airport. We went to “Waffle House” ( www.wafflehouse.com/ ) for some comfort food (My choice as I don’t have access to this Southern staple in New York City). I knew I was in the right place as I walked into the elegantly decorated lobby because my Diana Ross and her Supremes were singing “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Me” from the intercom system. It wasn’t “My Favorite Things” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KztJpqRVHEI) but anything from Ross and her Christmas catalogue is alright with me. I stayed in a spacious suite, giving me the best night’s rest ever (though I did get on with Anthony – so he could play the new Janet Jackson [“Feedback”] from over the phone). Come morning, Preston picked me up and took me to one of my favorite franchises The Oceanaire Seafood Room ( www.theoceanaire.com/ ), though I’d not been to the Atlanta location. Fresh seafood is what it’s all about in any of the locations nationwide, but what sets Atlanta’s Oceanaire apart from its siblings is “the shrimp and grits” appetizer with Aged Cheddar and Bacon Cracklings Bibb & blue cheese. UNBELIEVABLY tasty… and filling, though I still made room for a Caesar salad with two lump crab cakes atop it. Over wine and sweet tea, Kelci, Preston, and I bonded further – truly identifying that there are synergies between us all that may lead to a kindred working relationship in the near future. Also, I saw a likeness between Kelci and the late, great Diana Sands, who has been a pop-culture muse for me since I saw her as Beneatha in “A Raisin in the Sun”. I’ve seen all of her film-work after that… and her TV turn as Diahann Carroll’s cousin in “Julia”. In fact, she was filming the lead role “Claudine” when she fell out on the set. She would die from a brain tumor weeks later. Diahann Carroll would inherit the role and be nominated for an Academy Award. Kelci and Preston are mapping out a project plan (as am I). And we will look at what those alliances will be very soon. But it promises to be fulfilling, lucrative, and fun (as Kelci too plans to move to New York City).

So YES! THE POSSIBILITIES abound and the aforementioned evidence is but an excerpt of my what's-to-come. THANK YOU ALL for your LOVE and your PRAYERS and your SUPPORT – knowing that I will be reaching out with more follow ups as this journey continues.

Meanwhile, I must shout out many of my colleagues who are out here in the trenches – inventing and re-inventing themselves… brilliantly!!!:

1. My Tata, her fiancé Jules Sawadogo, Ant, and I went to our friend Quincy Ballon’s new art/design & furniture gallery qb ( www.galleryqb.com/ ) in Dumbo (Brooklyn). The new exhibit he is presenting is called “I DIDN'T KNOW YOU HAD A HEAD UNTIL YOU ATTACHED THAT ARM TO IT, Works by Doug Groupp. William Johnson was the curator. And a host of Quincy’s friends, including “Inside Edition” Managing Editor Kevin Harry who Quincy introduced to Anthony and me regarding career possibilities. We are so proud of all Quincy is creating and the energy with which he’s surrounding himself. (After our gallery time, Tata, Jules, Ant, and I continued our double date at Negril Restaurant ( www.negrilvillage.com/faq.html )).
2. My friend Gil Roberston ( www.robertsontreatment.com/ ) has a client with whom he wanted me to meet on the synergy tip. It’s Myles Reed Jr., author of “Fishing for Love on the Net” (http://www.fishingforlove.net). We met at Houston’s for quick drinks and chat. He has spent nearly fifteen years observing, strategizing, and marketing for corporate America. A former CPA, Myles is now looking at branding himself an expert for all things “internet dating”. It seems he is on his way and you should look out for him in 2008.
3. My friend Yolanda Young, renowned columnist for USA TODAY and beyond, has launched her video blog. Check it out www.yolandayoung.com.
4. And my Ti-Ti has a new documentary on “Education in America” on the CURRENT TV site ( www.current.com ). So PROUD OF HER! Check it out!
5. I met Patricio last year at the EMERY Awards ( www.emeryafterparty.org/ ) which benefits The Hetrick-Martin Institute, Home of The Harvey Milk High School, which teaches a number of gay and lesbian teens. He does mural art that is often folded into interior spaces (www.imuriinternational.com/port08.index.html). This year, he’s been working with photographer Dah-Len, creating pieces for photo shoots and for the set of Dangerous Muse’s latest music video. He designed and installed the backdrop for the Emery Awards this year (Cyndi Lauper performed in front of it). Through SPACE107, he has produced furniture and paintings. I look forward to catching up with Patricio in 2008.
6. I met hat designer Jennifer Ouellette ( www.jenniferouellette.com/ ) at one of Patricio’s parties. She did all of the hats for Tracy Reese’s show over Fashion Week back in October ( www.tracyreese.com/ ). Well, her own store opens this week. And some of her award-winning work can be yours for 25% off. CONGRATS JENNIFER!
7. As I walked into Gym, a gay sports bar in Chelsea ( www.gymsportsbar.com/ ), the young man at the door extends a smile to me that felt like it was just for me. As I quickly walk by (as I simply need to pop in here to pee), I do a second take. He’s still looking. When I finish my business, I come back out and he’s still looking. I’m with my man at the time, so it’s less a “cruise” and more a “curiosity” as he’s looking at me like he knows me. I cut through the clandestine and introduce myself. He replies “I’m Marco”. It meant nothing - meaning I didn't know him. I didn't continue the conversation, but found him quite friendly and sweet. I’ve seen him a handful of times since that first moment (over the last five months) and am blown away at something I just uncovered. He’s Demarco Majors – a former ABA professional basketball player, who was reportedly kicked out of the ABA based on a rumor that he was gay. He didn’t deny it, according to interviews I’ve seen him do, because he is gay. He’s now out in the mix discussing the challenges of being an out gay ex-professional basketball player. And I would LOVE to chat him up for a future blog on his interesting life, which includes a transition from sports into modeling. And he is one of the guys in Beyonce's "Freakum Dress" video. CONGRATS! Keep doing your thing!

During his heyday at Harvard University, I got the chance to go up to Cambridge and interview Dr. Cornel West for a story I was doing. I’ve run into him a time or six since that 1998 interview and he never fails to keep me intrigued, informed, and inspired. Those touches helped to salvage an AllHipHop Social Lounge (during AllHipHop.com Week) at Pace University that Anthony and I attended. Our “Queen of All Media” Wendy Williams was also a part of the panel ( www.thewendywilliamsexperience.com/ ). Rapper David Banner ( www.david-banner.com/ ) ignited the audience into lots of laughter and various sound effects for his opinionated take on the industry and the world. Master P brought a new idea and forwarding vision to the table. It wasn’t always popular, but he says he is committed to doing it differently and being more responsible in the game. ( www.hobotraveler.com/masterpwebsiteinsert.html ). Afterwards, Dr. West signed his new contribution to the hip hop landscape ( www.hiddenbeachmedia.com/index.php?option=com_artist&Itemid=35&id=43 - 39k ) – making it clear that there is more than one WEST in the mix (GO KANYE!!!). Dr. Cornel’s collection is titled Never Forget: A Journey of Revelations and he collaborates with the likes of Prince, Talib Kweli, Andre 3000, KRS-One, Jill Scott, Rhymefest, and the late Gerald Levert on the project. Lots of science was being dropped at this event.

Afterwards, Anthony and I hooked up with my Godchild Owen Angelo’s father Owen who too drives me around town a lot. His friend Joseph was visiting from the Philippines. Owen wanted Anthony and me to meet him because Anthony is taking me to the Philippines for my birthday in November. We’re going to see Beyonce perform in Manila ( www.beyonce.com/ ) and just take a few days of downtime for us. Though my birthday is November 19, this is the early birthday present. And we’re really excited to take our growing relationship international. Last Thursday night, I saw my Raymond Green (www.UneQmagazine.com) at The Ritz, the spot where the “boyz” are on Thursday night.

R&B “divo” Freddie Jackson was in the house too. Afterwards, Anthony and I met down at SPRUNG (now at “The Shelter” - www.clubshelter.com ) to support our friend Richard Pelzer, Managing Director at
MEGA Management Inc. (www.MEGAManagementInc.com
Richard@MEGAManagementInc.com
www.MySpace.com/Think_MEGA_Now). He is so loved and adored by many in the business, including “glam squad greats” Oscar James and Sam Fine. Richard was sporting a look of T-shirt and T that he says was inspired by my Anthony (from our "Bleu" PROM ensemble that Anthony created). Ant and Richard work closely on projects like "Bleu" Magazine. Anthony is quite the trendsetter.

Erica Watson was there too. She’s doing a big show here in the city. It’s called “Craigslist: Live and UNAUTHORIZED!!!” – comprised of real Craigslist (www.craigslist.org/) listings like:

*STR8 Black Top looking for a bottom to suck
*Swingers party for Lesbos! NO MEN!
*Meet me in a buddy booth in Times Square
Your ad may be featured in their play! It turns this Friday at MIDNIGHT at Mo’Pitkins (http://www.mopitkins.com). It’s conceived and directed by Roman Feeser… and I’m told you have never seen a play as funny, nasty and raw as this one.....and
it was all written by YOU!!!! Back to Richard’s party, his best friend Rodney LoveJones of Bill Jones Epicure Delights did a (6) layer Red Velvet I-Pod Birthday Cake... which was delicious. Check him out at: www.iambilljones.com

The weekend put Anthony and me in host mode – so we reached out to our usual spots. We did Cafeteria ( www.cafeteriagroup.com ) with my “amazing grace” Nichole and her sister Tori who is a DC-area-based artist and wife and mother of two. After our tasty delights, we went to THE SPOT (let’s just call it that from now on - www.karaoke17.com).

Through the night, we sipped on saki and truly enjoyed each other’s selections. Tori and I did a duet or two.

 She and Nichole channeled their childhood doing songs their mother shared with them like Phoebe Snow’s “Poetry Man”, which is featured on Queen Latifah’s new CD project, “Travlin’ Light” (www.QueenLatifah.com) which dropped this week.

Anthony and Nichole collaborated on several tunes as well. Then, of course, I did most of my songs solo. Hogging the mic, some might say. But whatever.

On Saturday, we all reconvened at Chez Oskar (http://www.chezoskar.com) in Brooklyn for a brunch of good food and endlessly flowing mimosas. Nichole’s friend Dawn and Tori’s friend Latoya joined us and we had a great time. Afterwards, we hung out at Dawn’s place.

When we got hungry again, we went down to “Night of the Cookers” ( www.nightofthecookers.com ) across from Moshood ( www.afrikanspirit.com/ ) and - FINALLY! – Moshood was in the house and got to meet my Anthony. Anthony now wears a lot of Moshood – so it was nice for him to meet the man behind the wears. Additionally, Moshood was happy to see me as it had been some time. Normally, Kunle is holding it down. He spoke proudly of how I wore his Moshood to The White House for my interview with President Bill Clinton and how I have been supporting him since the beginning up until now as I was sporting MOSHOOD when I introduced Samuel L. Jackson at the National Association of Black Journalists Convention in Las Vegas and that footage made “Access Hollywood” and “TV ONE Access”. And it’s true! I LOVE MOSHOOD (as I’ve reference here before: http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/display/ShowJournal?moduleId=875700&currentPage=3). After dinner, we also got our dessert on with THE CAKE MAN (www.cakemanraven.com or check out: www.youtube.com/cakemanbklyn or www.myspace.com/cakemanraven),whose red velvet cake knocked our socks off.

Sunday, my good girlfriend Patrice came into town from Dallas. She, Ern, and I have done lots of traveling together over the years – Martha’s Vineyard, Dallas, ski slopes, etc. When we first started hanging, we were all footloose and fancy free (READ: SINGLE). Then, slowly and surely, we partnered off and she got married to a great guy Keron and they now have two beautiful kids Zach and Hunter. They are also the owners of a “Sports Clips” barber shop franchise in Dallas (www.sportclips.com/). She was here for business. So, she landed at LaGuardia and we high-tailed it to N Harlem, my favorite boutique ( www.nharlemnewyork.com/ ). I brought her here a couple of years ago when she was in town - along with Keron – the same weekend that Anthony was here celebrating his birthday and my “original Amazing Grace” Natalie and her husband Dwayne were in town. She knew “N” was a must-do… and given her couture purchases, I know why. She got some gorgeous pieces. Afterwards, we had another “liquid lunch” (of sorts) at Native Restaurant. Then, we hung out in Chelsea a bit – even shopping some more at Brooklyn Industries (www.brooklynindustries.com). We then met up with Anthony to have a caribbean/southern meal at Maroon’s – another of Patrice’s selects (http://maroonsnyc.com/). And – WHAT CAN I SAY? – Anthony recommended we go to THE SPOT…

and this would mark Patrice’s first time behind the mic. She’s good!

On Monday, Anthony landed a role in Academy Award nominee Terrence Howard’s new film. Howard will lead the new action drama FIGHTING, which begins production on location in New York City this week for Rogue Pictures. Howard stars alongside Channing Tatum, Luiz Guzman, Zulay Henao & world-renowned professional fighter Cung Le as Sean's fearsome Korean foe in the ring… and my Anthony!!!! I’m so proud of him. Plot Concept: Fighting is a rough-hewn heroic tale about realizing dreams of glory, putting audiences ringside at high-stakes underground street fights. Tatum stars as Sean Arthur, a young man who scrapes up a living hustling counterfeit merchandise in NYC. With family tragedy in his past and his father keeping him at a distance, this outsider has little to motivate him. A chance encounter with veteran street-fighting coach Harvey Boarden (Howard) leads to a whole new career for Sean. The ensuing bouts get tough, especially with the criminal element horning in, so Sean gets tougher. He will fight to win, not only the prize money but also the unexpected new relationships that are strengthening him.

After Anthony landed the role, he stumbled into a cute, Chelsea boutique “Conquete” (www.conquete.net) where he bought me the most beautiful shirt. He’s really kind like that (HEY! HE’S TAKING ME TO THE PHILIPPINES. OKAY???). The piece was an original Latino Royalty T-shirt ( www.latinoroyalty.com/ ). Moreover, Richard, the owner and a designer in his own right, offered up his services to have some of these pieces custom-designed and tailored for Anthony. That pleased us immensely. Shout out to Richard for the great gear… and another shout out to our favorite T-shirt designers these days MINORITEES (www.minoritees.com). Its owner Collin just sent Anthony and me some more of their new, “afro”-centric designs, which are turning heads again.

Afterwards we went to VOYAGE ( http://www.myspace.com/onemicnite ) for our friend Marcos’ open-mic night. “maritri” is the featured singer and host during the festivities. She was born and raised in Southern California. She graduated from Historically Black Fisk University in Nashville with a degree in Biology. While there, she was a Fisk Jubilee Singer and toured extensively. She then went to Howard University and studied composition and jazz and got a second bachelors and a Masters. She moved to New York with her band “Hue”, a trio of violin, piano and cello. They all sang and played. For years, she sang and played piano and wrote songs about love and life. But a couple of years ago, she says she picked up a guitar and fell in love and has continued to write songs about love, life and now angst as well ( http://www.myspace.com/maritrimusic or maritri,com). Also, my MOMENTUM brother Buttah performed a wonderfully impromptu "Yesterday" (a la The Beatles meet Ledisi).

On the previous Monday, Anwar Robinson (http://www.myspace.com/anwarrobinson) from “American Idol” held down the fort (as I reported). But there’s more news. Anwar and another “American Idol”-er Heinz Winckler are rehearsing now to go on the road with “RENT” ( www.siteforrent.com/ ). Anwar Robinson will be taking on the role of Tom Collins. Winckler, who was the winner of the first "South African Idol" in 2002 and the fourth place finalist in the 2003 inaugural "World Idol" competition (opposite “American Idol” winner Kelly Clarkson), will be playing Roger Davis. Robinson was the seventh place finalist on the fourth season of "American Idol." Robinson will make his stage debut in this non-Equity touring production of Rent. American audiences will recall Robinson as the music teacher who was rocketed to television stardom on season four of the pop-culture phenomenon "American Idol." His vocal range quickly landed him a coveted spot in the "Idol" Top 10, where Paula Abdul called him "technically the best singer of the competition." He's toured the country as part of the Idols Live show. The New Jersey native recently released his debut album, "The Truth About Love."

BUT GET THIS, my Morehouse brother/fellow Diana Ross and “Dreamgirls” fan Devon is THE SWING in this tour – meaning he is the UNDERSTUDY for these men’s roles and more. I’M SO PROUD OF HIM.

You’ll recall, Devon came to New York City on a bus in December to see “Dreamgirls” with me. (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2006/12/17/dreams-see-us-through-to-forever-part-two.html). Rent, written by composer-lyricist-librettist Jonathan Larson and directed by Michael Greif, opened at Broadway's Nederlander Theatre, on April 29, 1996, and continues to play there. It concerns the loves, losses and artistic passions of a group of bohemians living in Manhattan's East Village in the age of AIDS. The next generation of the national tour of Rent kicks off in York, PA, Oct. 15. For Winckler's official website, visit www.heinzw.co.za. Find Robinson at www.myspace.com/anwarrobinsonastomcollins.

On Tuesday, Anthony and I hooked up with Nichole at The Vig Bar ( www.vigbar.com ) on Spring and Elizabeth near Chinatown. We really enjoyed the drinks and the DJ. Great ambiance.

Afterwards, we went to see Def Jam Recording artist Chrisette Michelle ( www.chrisettemichele.com/ ).

My friend Keith Wooten is Director of Marketing for Island Def Jam and they scheduled a wonderful night of cocktails and good Chrisette singing at BLVD (http://www.blvdnyc.com/) and Crash Mansion ( www.crashmansion.com/ ), where she actually performed.

We were growing sleepy and tired as the promised 9:45 show turned to 11-ish and change. But it was worth the wait and the yawning.

She shut the kids down with her jazzy, yet powerful, vocals and stage flair. Thanks Keith! Though not an event, Anthony and I stumbled into the Waverly Restaurant in the West Village on 6^th Avenue (and it was GOOD!). Great BREAKFAST late at night!

Yesterday, I had to go to Temple in Philadelphia for an assignment. While there, I stumbled into my Morehouse brother James Earl Davis, Ph.D, who I actually just met at my college reunion back in May (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/5/22/walking-in-strange-and-new-places.html). He and his partner Darrell are friends of some Morehouse friends of mine. And we ended up bonding over our reunion weekend. He teaches in the College of Education/Education Leadership and he made my day. It was so good to see him and I’m certain we will all get together soon.

I had to rush back to New York City for good girlfriend Amy Dubois Barnett’s book party (www.amyduboisbarnett.com). Her new tome “Get Yours: The Girlfriends’ Guide To Having Everything You Ever Dreamed Of And More” features interviews with Gayle King, who co-hosted the affair at the SOHO Grand in Manhattan ( www.sohogrand.com/ ); Sanaa Lathan; Mo’Nique; Venus Williams; Kelly Rowland; Gabrielle Union; India.Arie; Kelis; Hill Harper; and more. Amy, who used to be the editor-in-chief of “Teen People” and “Honey” magazines attracted a big crowd last night in the Penthouse Suite of the hotel. It was a walk down memory lane leading to a road less traveled.

 I met Dr. Shirley Madhere, M.D.,P.C. for example. She’s the only African American woman plastic surgeon in New York City with two locations to boot. We hit it off in the elevator leading up to the party (and of course, I’ll keep her in my back pocket… not that black cracks like that… www.thenewaesthete.com). I also got to chat with Dominga Martin, Editor and Co-Founder of Crème Magazine, which she says want to do “… a day in the life with me…” piece for them. ( www.creme-magazine.com )

So many of my favorites – like Robin Stone and ESSENCE’s Patrik Henry Bass – were in the house. And then, industry buddies like Terry Wynn II and Adaori Adoja and Theo Perry and Shelley Wade were in the house. I met radio/TV personality Egypt.

But imagine my heart drop as I saw two of my dear friends from Savannah, Georgia who now live here and have for many years (like me), but we haven’t seen each other in a minute. First, MISS Joicelyn Dingle (and her colleague in journalistic crime Kierna Mayo – both of whom are the “founders” of HONEY Magazine before it would be sold to VIBE and the many other hands who’ve touched it since) was in the house and ever as beautiful as I recall during high school as she attended the all-girls Catholic school on the other side of town (with my – at the time (GASP!) – girlfriend. Yes! They were good friends). Additionally, one of my best friends in the whole world who I’ve written about here Maurice Marable was there (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/3/4/-weve-come-a-long-way-baby.html). We had the best time just catching up – reflecting and projecting on our respective lives and where they’ve landed us. Anthony got to meet these two “blasts from my past”, which was so cool. We all promised to get together soon for a comprehensive catch-up.

The other night, I was to be a presenter at the African American Literary Awards ( www.literaryawardshow.com/ ). Scheduling didn’t allow. But I did go by as soon as I could get there and saw the awards show’s founder Yvette Hayward HAPPY that the night was a SUCCESS. She says HILL HARPER came by. And she is holding me high to be in attendance next year as I was last year.

Meanwhile, Chaka Khan delivers her new album “Funk This” ( www.burgundyrecords.com/news.php?id=46 ), which I heard some months back. (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/6/28/something-old-something-new-something-borrowed-something-fun.html)

Well, she's multi-tasking this week as she also announced that she’s coming back to Broadway as “Sophia” in “The Color Purple”. Now you know there may be some carry over with Fantasia, who is currently shutting them down as Miss Celie in the NY version of The Color Purple . Additionally, gospel legend, BeBe Winans is poised to come aboard as ‘Mister”. And American Idol finalist, Lekisha Jones (lovingly named “Ki-Ki” by Miss Ross, after she found out that is what Lakisha’s ‘mama’ calls her) will join the cast as the church soloist and will sub for Khan as Sophia during evening performances. Casting calls are still out for the role of Miss Celie, currently played by Fantasia.

This, while from the Chicago-run of “The Color Purple” (which is wrapping), Michelle from “DC 3” (whose playing Shug Avery) and Latoya London (American Idol’s own from Fantasia and Jennifer Hudson’s season) – as Nettie – are going to open up the show in the Bay Area with the “original Broadway Sophia” Felicia P. Fields who too played the beloved character in the Chicago run. ( www.ticketmaster.com )

Meanwhile, the theater community here in New York City, is all abuzz about ”THE BROTHERS SIZE” written by Tarell Alvin McCraney and directed by Tea Alagic. My Marcia Pendelton threw an Open House that I could not attend the other night, but I hear this is a piece to see. Playing fast and loose with West African myths, The Brothers Size brings contemporary rhythms together with traditions of ceremonial presentation to tell the modern-day story of the Size brothers–Ogun, an auto mechanic, and Oshoosi, a recent parolee. This breakout hit from our 2007 Under the Radar Festival is an imaginatively fresh new drama, in which the audience is at once the community, the witness and the judge. From Tarell Alvin McCraney, one of the most thrilling wordsmiths to emerge in the American theater in the last decade. A co-production with The Foundry Theatre. ( www.publictheater.org/UTR/brotherssize.php ).

So, of course, so many of my roads lead me back to MOMENTUM (www.momentumeducation.com). Last night, one of our Leadership Team’s threw a fundraiser to support Donors Choose, a non-profit that provides NYC classrooms with resources that our public schools often lack. Donors Choose allows teachers to submit Project Proposals for materials students need to learn and then money is raised to fulfill those requests. It's actually an effective way to support our public schools and to track your donations. The event was titled The 2007 Blackboard Benefit and it took place at Penthouse 15.  Anthony and I didn't make it. (What? We just decided to grab some dinner and make it an early night). But we will send our love via a donation to support NYC's teachers and students. I hear - though - the bar was open, the food was delicious, and the entertainment by acclaimed jazz artists "The Eric Lewis Trio” was spot on. For more info, please visit www.blackboardbenefit.org

The weekend ahead promises lots of love. There’s congratulations to our girl Mara for landing a gig with NBC and she too is celebrating her birthday. Anthony and I will join her and her friends for that fete-a-fete.  You'll recall, I’ve written about her here several times. ( thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/ ).                                                                                                                                                                   

And I’m excited to attend the nuptials of good girlfriend Michelle and her boy Neil who I’ve written about here before. (http://thelifeofriley.squarespace.com/rilys-blog/2007/3/22/more-today-than-yesterday.html) CONGRATS!!!!! Oh! And a quote of the week I want to share from Star Jones' new COURT TV show. It actually came from one of her guests this week, Rev. Juanita Bynum who has been in the news for a now-violent break-up with her Bishop husband. Jones asked Juanita if she was sad inside of all this personal pain and controversy. Her response: "I DON'T RELY ON MY FEELINGS. I RELY ON MY STRENGTH... I DON'T ALLOW WHAT I FEEL TO SWAY ME OR DETERMINE WHO I AM BECAUSE IT'S SO FLEETING. FEELINGS ARE FLEETING. SO, I DON'T PUT A LOT OF STOCK IN THAT. I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE GETTING UP THIS MORNING. I FELT LIKE LYING IN THE BED AND CRYING ALL DAY LONG. BUT IF I DO THAT, I GIVE THE POWER OF WHO I AM TO MY FEELINGS AND NOT TO MY PURPOSE. AND THAT'S WHAT KEEPS ME GOING: MY PURPOSE.

I loved this... and wanted to share. Have a great week!